Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
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View Poll Results: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
Yes 29 9.83% No 266 90.17%
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?yes I can see why. I definately wouldn't want my kid experimenting with sex at such a young age. At 4 years old is when we start to become self-aware, of our actions, our speech, our surroundings etc. He realised he had a wiener and wanted to do something with it, and the girl was up for it too - they knew and played with each other a lot before and after this episode. I wouldn't say it was completely out of the ordinary, or something disgusting. I look at it with some degree of innocence. It's not like they knew what sex was before (or even after) the incident, and said "let's have sex" we'll be so cool. As a parent you should know how crazy kids are, and the **** they get up to - eating stuff off the floor, going mental etc. I remember when I was very young and potty training, I was in my dad's bedroom and peed on his feet... lol. Young kids are innocent really.(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
Nope, no birds and bees talk for me.
As a parent, that has just churned my stomach. I know kids experiment, and they won't have realised at that age what they're doing, but the boy must have been exposed to sex at some point in his short life for him to have even known to do that, which, at 4, is definitely NOT something he should have been exposed to. I'm glad they both turned out fine, but that's not really the point. You have to wonder what happened in his life prior to this incident happening.
The boy was kind of camp but nothing was really wrong with him. The girl was quiet and shy, her and my sister were good friends though. Both of their parents were divorced and they both lived with their mothers. -
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?Jesus....(Original post by Samrout)
nope. My first exposure to sex was watching, with the rest of the kids on the street, a boy put his flaccid willy in a girl's fanny, saying "look it goes in!". I was about 5-6 at the time, the hot couple must have been about 4.
Grim but funny.
edit: lol at the disbelief. Yeah it happened, I remember it vividly. The boy didn't actually hump her, her just put it in, left it, and took it out a few of times. He looked like he was enjoying himself and the girl didn't know wtf was going on. All the kids who were watching found it interesting and funny. The boy was quite good friends with the girl prior to this encounter and used to play with her dolls etc. I grew up with them on my street, they've turned out fine.. ish.
If you don't laugh, you'll be crying, apply this to everything, especially this tale of childhood experimentation.
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?Nope, not even the school taught us how to put condoms on or anything to do with safe sex so we had 2 teen pregnancies in my year just after GCSE's and people still think that 'if it's really big, it will go through the stomach' and 'sex standing up won't get you pregnant'. luckily i learnt a lot through the internet and older friends.
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?We learnt it at school but we still ended up with a couple teen pregnancies! Obviously they didnt get the concept of condoms(Original post by kaypc)
Nope, not even the school taught us how to put condoms on or anything to do with safe sex so we had 2 teen pregnancies in my year just after GCSE's and people still think that 'if it's really big, it will go through the stomach' and 'sex standing up won't get you pregnant'. luckily i learnt a lot through the internet and older friends.
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?My mum explained to me about periods and showed me what a pad and tampon were and what you do with them; I was 9 at this point, because that's around where you CAN start. She then gave me a book ("Questions children ask" I think) which explained everything about sex and masturbation, and said if I wanted to ask her anything I could.
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?As far as I can remember, no. I think though that had I stayed in my Catholic primary school for the final two years, my parents might have ventured with such a talk.
I can however tell you of my first exposure to sex. I was nine years old, we were staying in a hotel. My brother and I were channel-hopping on the TV, when all of a sudden we came across some kind of porn channel. All I remember is lots of naked people. My brother and I were just like "wut" and then my mum came in. Needless to say, she was horrified and she absolutely terrified the poor girl at the concierge desk. -
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?When I was in year 5 we were taught sex education at school, however at this age it was mainly about puberty. Our school sent out letters to tell the parents so they could either pull their kids out of the class or not as prior warning. My mum sat down with me a couple of days before and explained puberty to me.
As for the complete talk about sex and the biology of it, I wasn't told and I picked it up from science lessons, friends talking and the internet. Even at secondary school our sex education lesson's weren't very good. -
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?I remember in year 7 my parents found I'd been exchanging raunchy emails with a girl, and they told me off and said it was wrong and bad, and I shouldn't think things like that, and I'm not to contact her again. Then my mum left the room and said dad was going to talk to me about "other things":
Dad: "Right... so... boys and girls, and that sort of thing...."
Me: "..."
Dad: "Do you... do you know about all that?"
Me: "Yea..."
Dad: *slaps thighs and stands up* "Right, ok then. Good. Cya."
That was the first and last time the concept of "girls" was ever hinted at between me and my parents. Fifteen years has now passed, and they are never getting any grandchildren. -
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?I did, being the only guy in a female house I must admit it's not the best to have your mom talk to you about(Original post by Movember)
did your parents give you this talk? mine didnt. i get the feeling that its only a talk that American kids get, or kids years ago when the internet wasnt around, but i might be wrong!
But growing up sex has never been something that was not talked about, so although it was weird I'm glad she did. -
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?lol(Original post by NB_ide)
Dad:[/B] *slaps thighs and stands up* "Right, ok then. Good. Cya."
That was the first and last time the concept of "girls" was ever hinted at between me and my parents. Fifteen years has now passed, and they are never getting any grandchildren.
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?My mum tried to, I just told her I knew it all from school.
It was awkward for those few moments though!
The sex ed at our school was really good though - it covered everything including contraception and STIs.Last edited by journalismus; 22-07-2012 at 18:24. -
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?(Original post by NB_ide)
I remember in year 7 my parents found I'd been exchanging raunchy emails with a girl, and they told me off and said it was wrong and bad, and I shouldn't think things like that, and I'm not to contact her again. Then my mum left the room and said dad was going to talk to me about "other things":
Dad: "Right... so... boys and girls, and that sort of thing...."
Me: "..."
Dad: "Do you... do you know about all that?"
Me: "Yea..."
Dad: *slaps thighs and stands up* "Right, ok then. Good. Cya."
That was the first and last time the concept of "girls" was ever hinted at between me and my parents. Fifteen years has now passed, and they are never getting any grandchildren.
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Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?I've got a son who is going to be 5 in 3 weeks time, and I can say with 100% certainty that it would never enter his head to put his penis inside another person. He messes with it, sure he does, just the other day he was yanking on it trying to make it touch his big toe! But it simply would not occur to him to do anything of the sort with it that your friend did when he was 4.(Original post by Samrout)
yes I can see why. I definately wouldn't want my kid experimenting with sex at such a young age. At 4 years old is when we start to become self-aware, of our actions, our speech, our surroundings etc. He realised he had a wiener and wanted to do something with it, and the girl was up for it too - they knew and played with each other a lot before and after this episode. I wouldn't say it was completely out of the ordinary, or something disgusting. I look at it with some degree of innocence. It's not like they knew what sex was before (or even after) the incident, and said "let's have sex" we'll be so cool. As a parent you should know how crazy kids are, and the **** they get up to - eating stuff off the floor, going mental etc. I remember when I was very young and potty training, I was in my dad's bedroom and peed on his feet... lol. Young kids are innocent really.
The boy was kind of camp but nothing was really wrong with him. The girl was quiet and shy, her and my sister were good friends though. Both of their parents were divorced and they both lived with their mothers.
Children mess with themselves yes, but simulating sex like that simply wouldn't happen unless the child had somehow seen somebody else do it, either in real life on on television or whatever. I just can't see how it would occur to them to do it.
Hence why I said that you have to wonder what was going on with this kid prior to this happening. A regular 4 year old just wouldn't make that connection to do such a thing.
