(Original post by Elipsis)
I seem to naturally attract them because I driven, lack a reasonable amount of emotion (I am almost an unhealthy narcissist, but not quite), and used to see their characteristics as desirable in business. They tend to avoid each other, but they latch onto me horrendously. Think of it like the rat climbing on the ox in the Chinese proverb to do with years.
My former business partner was psychopathic. He ticked off just about every single thing on the Hare checklist at a level of 2, apart from wetting the bed which I have no idea about. He got into a lot of trouble as a youth, but his rich father bought him largely out of that. I thought 'excellent, i've got someone on my side who will get stuck in and we'll get a good business going here'. Toward's the seperation phase he become more and more unrealiable. He would disappear for upto a week at a time, he wouldn't transfer money to me or suppliers on time purely to **** with our heads and wind us up to judge the reaction, and in the end he stole every last penny I owned. He is now on the verge of going to prison for his involvement in various things it would be unwise to write about on the internet. He totally screwed his girlfriend of years over, who despite us making an awful lot of money, he had been living off like a cancer - she paid the majority of the rent, bought most of the food, and paid the bills.
Once you've known a few it gets really easy to spot them. Their reactions are just wrong to almost everything. They have zero sense of humour, but they attempt to fake it constantly. They won't make jokes, but they feel the need to pretend they found what you just said funny. They don't refer to the past very much, and when they do there is no mention of how they felt unless it is something they heard someone else say and they felt it sounded poetic and worth repeating. One psychopath I knew growing up came to my school for undefined reasons. I knew he'd been expelled from his previous school, but only later did I find out he had beaten another kid down hard and felt no remorse whatsoever for it. He would lie constantly, and I mean constantly, even when there was no discernable benefit to him. Almost as if it was practise. He would torture animals, but that stopped once I expressed my distaste to him verbally - he had no idea from looking at my facial expressions that he disgusted me. He would promise to do things, like turn up somewhere or something similar, and he would just no show and switch his phone off.
Another thing they make sure to do is talk to people as an individual, one on one. They do not fair well in group atmospheres, where they regularly trip themselves up with their previous lies to group members on a 1 to 1 basis. Because they don't care they will show little remorse if any, because they probably just totally forgot they'd previously lied to you about it. When questioned they will be totally blank like a mannequin in a shop window.
They won't admit they're a psychopath unless it feeds into their inflated ego, or they derive some benefit from it. That's why psychopaths in prison are so happy to play along and meet psychiatrists, simply to relieve the ever present boredom they feel. If you suspect someone is a psychopath, you will probably feel like after spending a lot of time with them they just don't "click" like your other friends. You'll think "i've known this guy/girl for the best part of a decade, but I simply feel little or nothing for them compared to my other 'real' friends". Once you've figured out someone is a psychopath, continue to be pleasant with them, but cut them out of your life as thoroughly as possible. Even if it is a family member (especially if it is a family member). There may be people when you look back retrospectively, who just lied to your face compulsively, and you will have never known why or what the incentive was. They will most likely be on the spectrum somewhere.