[sophisticated]

(Original post by Tedaus)
Nope, I wasn't saying that. You acted as though because a guy wants sex, that mean's he's a pervert and girls don't want sex so guys shouldn't try. Unfortunately for you, sex is a natural desire for everyone so when guys see a girl they find attractive, sex will spring to mind, naturally, as it does for every animal. Saying that though, most guys aren't like what you see on Two and a Half Men, just basing their life around sex. Some people just want a conversation.

I did not at all. Someone wanting sex does not mean they're a pervert.

My points were

a) barely any guys have mastered the technique of how to approach women randomly without coming across as a creepy weirdo

2) the guys who DO approach girls off the cuff are more or less only after a physical relationship or sexual encounter

3) when considering the two aforementioned points, this can explain why most women don't take kindly to random approaches in the street


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[9MmBulletz]

(Original post by sophisticated)
I did not at all. Someone wanting sex does not mean they're a pervert.

My points were

a) barely any guys have mastered the technique of how to approach women randomly without coming across as a creepy weirdo

2) the guys who DO approach girls off the cuff are more or less only after a physical relationship or sexual encounter

3) when considering the two aforementioned points, this can explain why most women don't take kindly to random approaches in the street


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I'm sure you know every guy on the planet .
As a girl, you should be happy if a guy actually approaches you during your day as it's hardly done. By the way, most guys approaching girls during the day are probably more likely to want to have a more in depth conversation than a random dude in a bar, so your view on this is warped. Are you going to suggest that a guy approaching in a club is more likely to "want to chat"? cos that's straight out coming out of your *******. Alcohol makes people hornier and want to talk to any girl that looks "up for it".

Why should a man who wants to meet and talk to new woman, be discouraged from it because the girl isn't within her social circle?
By your logic, we should only talk to our family members because apart from them, when you first meet someone at school/ university you're all strangers to each other. What's so wrong about making a friendship off the street as opposed to a university?

[abc101]

I'm a girl and I've actually done this a couple of times! Didn't get me anywhere though (and before anyone suggests it, I'm not some ugly socially-awkward person!), I would have thought taking the initiative would get a good response but it seems not!

[sophisticated]

(Original post by 9MmBulletz)
I'm sure you know every guy on the planet .
As a girl, you should be happy if a guy actually approaches you during your day as it's hardly done. By the way, most guys approaching girls during the day are probably more likely to want to have a more in depth conversation than a random dude in a bar, so your view on this is warped. Are you going to suggest that a guy approaching in a club is more likely to "want to chat"? cos that's straight out coming out of your *******. Alcohol makes people hornier and want to talk to any girl that looks "up for it".

Why should a man who wants to meet and talk to new woman, be discouraged from it because the girl isn't within her social circle?
By your logic, we should only talk to our family members because apart from them, when you first meet someone at school/ university you're all strangers to each other. What's so wrong about making a friendship off the street as opposed to a university?

I do not think at all that a guy approaching in a club is more likely to want to chat. Where did I say that? Stop second guessing me, thanks. I agree that they are more likely to be after sex.

Anyway, if approaching people in the street is completely ok and I'm the only one here who has a problem with it (so say you) then why are there so many threads on TSR from guys agonising over how to do it/how to get it right or even how to get a girlfriend? If hooking up was as easy as approaching someone on the high street who you like the look of, then under that theory we should all be happily coupled off long ago. I'm not saying that people shouldn't do it, I'm just saying that for whatever reason, it's not as socially acceptable to walk up to and talk to strangers, and a lot of people will make a quick getaway.

I'll leave that with you.


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[tehFrance]

(Original post by Jsee)
Does approaching a girl in a random place actually lead to anything?

Yes, yes it does. It requires confidence and average to good looks, I say that as confidence that shows you know what you are doing while stopping her in the street overpowers looks. Confidence is always attractive.

That said, try to dress and groom yourself to a high standard so it improves your chances... or go to Ukraine

(Original post by ct2k7)
The aim is to continue talking as long as possible, but don't talk aimlessly.

No it is not. The aim is to get the womans number so then you can do it all properly not as you just met her in the street... sheesh, do you really have experience?

(Original post by midlandsman)
No straight guy on this planet gives a **** about what shoes a girl is wearing. And I'm sure most girls would see you as creepy and lacking in confidence for using an approach like that.

I do sometimes... the odd occasion my pickup line has been about shoes but in a jokey way not a full on "OMG I love your shoes, where can I buy a pair" way...

[Georgiina_Tee]

9/10 People just walk up to me and straight ask for my number.... I find that sooo intimidating and creepy.

But once I was at a bus stop and this guy started talking to me about I think a bag of shopping and then went on to where do I live.... Your a serious shopping coming all the way down here blah blah and I was actually laughing with this stranger, too bad he wasn't too sexy looking and he'd just walked out of the ladbrokes.

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[Michaelj]

What if a guy just generally wants to chat? I've approached people in the past and found something intriguing to chat about with god results. Though never really asked for a number.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by tehFrance)
No it is not. The aim is to get the womans number so then you can do it all properly not as you just met her in the street... sheesh, do you really have experience?

That is your end point, otherwise you'd be pretty much asking for her number straight away, and that is just creepy. You need to make her feel comfortable, and do that by talking.

[tehFrance]

(Original post by ct2k7)
That is your end point, otherwise you'd be pretty much asking for her number straight away, and that is just creepy. You need to make her feel comfortable, and do that by talking.

Yes but you don't make it a long conversation like you think is best as that is equally bad. Also you sound like a rapist.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by tehFrance)
Yes but you don't make it a long conversation like you think is best as that is equally bad. Also you sound like a rapist.

I didn't mean that you want to talk for hours - that's just friendzoning, perhaps I could have worded it more clearly, for clarity.

How do I sound like a rapist?

[Jsee]

(Original post by Georgiina_Tee)
9/10 People just walk up to me and straight ask for my number.... I find that sooo intimidating and creepy.

But once I was at a bus stop and this guy started talking to me about I think a bag of shopping and then went on to where do I live.... Your a serious shopping coming all the way down here blah blah and I was actually laughing with this stranger, too bad he wasn't too sexy looking and he'd just walked out of the ladbrokes.

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So, you're saying that if a guy at a bus stop started a conversation about something that is happening there and then, you'd be more inclined to continue the conversation, and maybe even past the bus stop, say a few days later?

[Georgiina_Tee]

(Original post by Jsee)
So, you're saying that if a guy at a bus stop started a conversation about something that is happening there and then, you'd be more inclined to continue the conversation, and maybe even past the bus stop, say a few days later?

Yhup, funny enough a guy approached me today with his little brother standing by

But yes even if your just pretending to have a conversation about something and making me laugh instead of coming out upfront means so much more

[Komatic]

(Original post by Jsee)
Women/ girls! I've heard and seen that it is possible, but is it really? Does it ever lead to anything close to a good relationship? Do you like to be approached? How do people know what to say? I have only a good few conversation starters, but could never hop from that to "can we meet up some other time" or anything like that, and the situation needs to be perfect, not just waiting in a queue!

Learn to handle rejection well..... Iv'e never been told by a girl that I'm a minger.... for the most part they say that they have a boyfriend. Also sign upto adultfinder... that site is a fackin goldmine mate!...

[Komatic]

(Original post by Georgiina_Tee)
Yhup, funny enough a guy approached me today with his little brother standing by

But yes even if your just pretending to have a conversation about something and making me laugh instead of coming out upfront means so much more

Question.... Do you turn down super fit guys?

[MancBoy]

Depends on the type of girls. I know a guy who approaches girls from the comfort of his own car. He gets numbers. He gets laid...but the girls are incredibly ugly or immature 16 year olds looking for older guys (he's 22 btw) eurgh!

[dinahthecat]

This blog on 'Schrödinger’s Rapist' explains why I (and many women) won't engage with strangers talking to them.

http://kateharding.net/2009/10/08/gu...t-being-maced/

[systeric]

(Original post by sophisticated)
Not on me it wouldn't, it still screams creepazoid. I would be walking away and saying "no" over my shoulder even after you'd asked the first question, so the rest of it would be completely redundant.

Don't take this the wrong way, but coming from you I take this with a pinch of salt. I'm sure you'll protest - but at the end of the day you appear to have a very negative perception of men in general. At least judging from the vast quantity of blokes you crucify on a daily basis.

[AntisthenesDogger]

It honestly depends on said person.

But I can assure you, 8/10 Females will either think you're a total idiot or stalker. So the chances are low.

[SteveDawson]

I think it is a lot harder to approach women in this way, many women will find it creepy or weird. I personally don't do it because I feel like I would be making a fool out of myself but also I feel it gives off the impression that I think I'm it and that I can have any girl I want. I think the only time that I would do it is when I know that the girl is interested by her body language, otherwise I know I would be wasting my time. I think your best bet would be to talk to more girls in your classes at college, talk to more girls at friends parties, at your workplace, where you do voluntary work/ social clubs etc because that's when a relationship is likely to blossom. As far as approaching a girl in a random place it seems desperate to me, but also the girl will not be interested because she isnt intending on going out to town to find a man but to spend spend spend. lol

[shezshez]

With confidence, game and some swagger, yes you could pick up a girl anywhere.