[Anonymous]

Okay, so I'm a 17 year old girl who hasn't lost their virginity yet. Yeah, in some places or some people might find that unbelievable like where I live and friends. I often feel peer pressured into loosing my virginity.

There has been plenty of times where they have 'joked' about getting me condoms for my birthday or setting me up. Another time was when we got all my friends round and one of my friends went around writing insults on everyone's heads, yeah I know It sounds weird, but they actually wrote 'VIRGIN' across my forehead and laughed about it together and I felt absolutely embarrassed.

When they're all talking about their boyfriends in front of me I often feel left out because I've never actually had a boyfriend before. For the record, I'm not hideous or obese if some of you are thinking that. I've had numerous dates with guys but nothing has progressed and I actually feel bad about it. I feel bad that I'm a virgin, I feel socially unaccepted by my friends and others around me. Only because I didn't lose my virginity at 15, which most of my friends did, I feel bad for being the only one that hasn't.

There has been times where I just thought to myself that I should just go out with one of my guy friends, who has sex with anything that has a pulse, and just get it over and done with. Maybe then I would feel more socially accepted and more involved in my group and with the kids that have already lost theirs.
We're in the day and age of where teenagers think it's 'cool' to lose their virginities at a young age and It actually makes me cringe at the thought of what we have become. I've even had people tell me that they lost theirs at 12 and 13 which absolutely shocked me.

Although, hearing all the 'hype' from my friends and other people around me, should I just wait for a guy to come along who I eventually want to lose my virginity too or should I just get rid of it now and save all the slaughter of being out singled as a virgin?

Sorry for the long post! And yes, I am posting this as anon because from all the endless slaughter of being teased about this situation, I don't feel overly confident.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)

Okay, so I'm a 17 year old girl who hasn't lost their virginity yet. Yeah, in some places or some people might find that unbelievable like where I live and friends. I often feel peer pressured into loosing my virginity.

There has been plenty of times where they have 'joked' about getting me condoms for my birthday or setting me up. Another time was when we got all my friends round and one of my friends went around writing insults on everyone's heads, yeah I know It sounds weird, but they actually wrote 'VIRGIN' across my forehead and laughed about it together and I felt absolutely embarrassed.

When they're all talking about their boyfriends in front of me I often feel left out because I've never actually had a boyfriend before. For the record, I'm not hideous or obese if some of you are thinking that. I've had numerous dates with guys but nothing has progressed and I actually feel bad about it. I feel bad that I'm a virgin, I feel socially unaccepted by my friends and others around me. Only because I didn't lose my virginity at 15, which most of my friends did, I feel bad for being the only one that hasn't.

There has been times where I just thought to myself that I should just go out with one of my guy friends, who has sex with anything that has a pulse, and just get it over and done with. Maybe then I would feel more socially accepted and more involved in my group and with the kids that have already lost theirs.
We're in the day and age of where teenagers think it's 'cool' to lose their virginities at a young age and It actually makes me cringe at the thought of what we have become. I've even had people tell me that they lost theirs at 12 and 13 which absolutely shocked me.

Although, hearing all the 'hype' from my friends and other people around me, should I just wait for a guy to come along who I eventually want to lose my virginity too or should I just get rid of it now and save all the slaughter of being out singled as a virgin?

Sorry for the long post! And yes, I am posting this as anon because from all the endless slaughter of being teased about this situation, I don't feel overly confident.

I'm a 17 year old girl who hasn't lost her virginity yet. We obviously have different friendship groups though because I don't feel pressured into it.

It's a really bad idea to do something just because everyone else wants you to, if you don't want to do it! Better to wait, Anon, just because then you can know it was fully your decision. :/ You might rush it and it be fine, but at the same time you might regret it, and that'd suck.

[notsure]

All im saying is I've met girls in the same position as you and most of them regretted it after. Personally, those kind of friends don't seem true.


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[Jake McEwen]

I'm a 19 year old virgin, and I'm a guy lol. It's just like anything else I guess, you don't need to do stuff to impress other people, just do what you want. If you don't want to, for whatever reason then you don't need to, cos it really does not matter what anyone else thinks

[blue n white army]

depends who you surround yourself with, my flatmates at uni in first year were gave me crap for only sleeping with 2 girls (now 3). However my friendship group at home has a lot of 20 year old virgins and whilst everyone knows who's lost it and who hasn't it's not an issue.

At the end of the day do what you want to do, i'm sure your friends are just trying to have a laugh so try n brush it off as banter. I find things can be a lot less hurtful if you join in the joke.

[Classical Liberal]

There are lots of good reasons to have sex. Doing it because your "mates" tease you, is not one of them.

[aneduce]

(Original post by Anonymous)

Okay, so I'm a 17 year old girl who hasn't lost their virginity yet. Yeah, in some places or some people might find that unbelievable like where I live and friends. I often feel peer pressured into loosing my virginity.

There has been plenty of times where they have 'joked' about getting me condoms for my birthday or setting me up. Another time was when we got all my friends round and one of my friends went around writing insults on everyone's heads, yeah I know It sounds weird, but they actually wrote 'VIRGIN' across my forehead and laughed about it together and I felt absolutely embarrassed.

When they're all talking about their boyfriends in front of me I often feel left out because I've never actually had a boyfriend before. For the record, I'm not hideous or obese if some of you are thinking that. I've had numerous dates with guys but nothing has progressed and I actually feel bad about it. I feel bad that I'm a virgin, I feel socially unaccepted by my friends and others around me. Only because I didn't lose my virginity at 15, which most of my friends did, I feel bad for being the only one that hasn't.

There has been times where I just thought to myself that I should just go out with one of my guy friends, who has sex with anything that has a pulse, and just get it over and done with. Maybe then I would feel more socially accepted and more involved in my group and with the kids that have already lost theirs.
We're in the day and age of where teenagers think it's 'cool' to lose their virginities at a young age and It actually makes me cringe at the thought of what we have become. I've even had people tell me that they lost theirs at 12 and 13 which absolutely shocked me.

Although, hearing all the 'hype' from my friends and other people around me, should I just wait for a guy to come along who I eventually want to lose my virginity too or should I just get rid of it now and save all the slaughter of being out singled as a virgin?

Sorry for the long post! And yes, I am posting this as anon because from all the endless slaughter of being teased about this situation, I don't feel overly confident.

Your friends sound like awful people. No one should make you feel pressured into having sex, least of all your friends.

It is certainly not uncommon for someone to be a virgin at 17, and I would encourage you to wait until it is the right time for you. I know plenty of girls who had sex for the sake of it being 'over and done with', and it doesn't make it any better - it just means that instead of being a virgin, you might instead end up having an uncomfortable, embarrassing and regrettable first time.

Your first time doesn't have to be "special", but it should be right.

[SillyMilly]

I went to an all girls school you could imagine the virgin banter there was there, after my prom with my ex i had no intention of loosing it to him there and then but they all burst into the room shouting have we done it yet blah blah it was hideous.


Who cares what they think, your the one who has to live with them dont do it to please them do it when you are ready

[Sovix]

(Original post by Anonymous)
It's a really bad idea to do something just because everyone else wants you to, if you don't want to do it! Better to wait, Anon, just because then you can know it was fully your decision. :/ You might rush it and it be fine, but at the same time you might regret it, and that'd suck.

get off please... regret having sex? what are you talking about? we live once and we try everything before its too late. Go out and have fun!

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl and I lost my virginity when I was 20 to my boyfriend (also a virgin, who had just turned 22). It was never an issue for me, don't feel pressured into doing something you'll regret. I was with my ex for three years and we didn't have sex. You'll know if it's the right thing to do or not.

[gagaslilmonsteruk]

Sorry to tell you, but they're not your friends. And don't feel peer pressured into it at all. Everyone is ready at different times.

[systeric]

*LOSING

[Mally1]

Peer pressure I hear.. Maybe it's your friends, not you.
Don't do things to "feel accepted".. Do things because you want to do them.

I would advise changing friend groups.

[Marco Dilivio]

if youre being peer pressured to do it then it cant have a good outcome

you dont get peer pressured into good things so dont go through with it! save it and save the respect you have for yourself. trust me its not "cool" to lose it

lol imagine getting peer pressured to revise

[Gulliviere]

24 year old virgin and I've never been bothered with the fact.

I'd advise you to get on with life and not think too much about it, because your virginity is not the only thing that matters. And you'll be ready when you really are.

And if you're peer pressured, change peers. Seriously.

[Pixxy_]

It is not abnormal or anything to be ashamed of, I think you probably just feel rare because of your friend group. I am 17 (nearly 18) and I am still a virgin - a lot of my friends are too. Only a minority of girls in my year have lost their virginity and I go to an all girls school.
If you think about it, if the only insult they could come up with was that you are a virgin then you should be pretty happy!

[Anonymous]

If it helps, i was 24 when I lost mine and it was amazing. Ive been with her for two years now and while if I had met someone soon wouldnt have looked back, am very happy to have waited. Conversely she had slept with one other guy, several years before, and regrets it.

But ultimately, age aside, it should be your choice.

[Tim99]

Yeah I wouldn't worry, when I was at school all my mate were like 'ah have you done this with her? Why not ect' I didn't really care I knew I wasn't ready. It really did make me feel sick when girls were like lets just do it.

As it was some kind of expectation, I didn't have sex until I was nearly 18.

[Anonymous]

I was 21 when I lost it and that was my second relationship. Never got round in the first one - due to age and the fact we both lived with our parents at the time. So don't stress, it will happen when it happens. Just be sure you want it and don't anyone pressure you. You should have sex because you want the person you're with to know how much you care for them. Not just so you can say I'm not a virgin anymore.