Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?You're bound to, but once you're in one often you realise the advantages of not being in one.(Original post by #JayJay)
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?I'm at that stage but it doesn't bother me, they all seem happy that way. For most it's their first proper relationship and I already had my go at that so it's their turn to have their soul ripped out and trampled on then turn to drink and listening to country music. I hope I have the presence of mind not to just get into a relationship for the sake of it because some of my mates are in one
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?haha that's a nice way to think about it!(Original post by JCC-MGS)
For most it's their first proper relationship and I already had my go at that so it's their turn to have their soul ripped out and trampled on then turn to drink and listening to country music. -
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Yes, but there's only an issue with one of my friends who's engaged and just moved in with her fiancé because he doesn't really have any friends of his own so we never get to see her without him
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Haha, this is exactly what I was going to say.(Original post by JCC-MGS)
I'm at that stage but it doesn't bother me, they all seem happy that way. For most it's their first proper relationship and I already had my go at that so it's their turn to have their soul ripped out and trampled on then turn to drink and listening to country music. I hope I have the presence of mind not to just get into a relationship for the sake of it because some of my mates are in one
I had the first serious relationship much earlier than many of my friends, it seems. Even if it's not that, I really don't mind being single for the moment. It's quite nice to be just me after all the **** that happened before.
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Hmm, most of my friends are in relationships, but I also know of a few that have had bad break ups or just simply break ups, and then gotten with someone else.
I've never ever had that issue what so ever because I've never had one.
I know people with babies now for example!
I do wonder at times what must be wrong with me, but I've never really asked a girl out. I mean I've told a couple how I feel and they've told me they see me only as a mate, but I haven't told the other few I've liked in the past (and now) that I would like to go out or something.
Dating scares the hell out of me. Even a simple meet up would scare the hell out of me. I'm not good with one to one most of the time, especially someone new. It gets worse if I'm the one that has to take charge.Last edited by Kage; 23-07-2012 at 13:05. -
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Nearly all my work colleagues/uni friends have but my handful of main best friends at home haven't.
It never bothers or affects me unless they start to 'drift away', talk about their partner 24/7 or if their partner stops them seeing me & my friends. Only happened on a couple of occasions though. -
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Maybe you should think about how your friend feels, you have to remember people in relationships arent just boyfriend and girlfriends that are best friendsand maybe your friend enjoys the company of her Fiance with her friends also. You should be happy you havent been completely blocked out her life.(Original post by catestevenson)
Yes, but there's only an issue with one of my friends who's engaged and just moved in with her fiancé because he doesn't really have any friends of his own so we never get to see her without him
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?she should just be happy she hasn't been completely blocked out of her friends life? thats ridiculous. And yes her friend might enjoy having both her fiance and friends around but NEVER seeing her friends without him is obviously going to piss them off. Especially if they don't even like him. maybe the girl in question should think about how her friend feel...(Original post by Mckinleybhoy77)
Maybe you should think about how your friend feels, you have to remember people in relationships arent just boyfriend and girlfriends that are best friendsand maybe your friend enjoys the company of her Fiance with her friends also. You should be happy you havent been completely blocked out her life. -
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?I'm 22 so most of my friends are not in serious relationships. I've never been in a LTR and I do admit I feel a certain pressure. Not to get married, but to be with someone. There is like a common opinion that you're supposed to be in a string of monogamous relationships before settling down. That is pointless to me - it's either a 'fling' or he's "the one". I'm not going into something long term, monogamous unless it is serious. I was on/off FWB with a guy from 18 to 21, after that I dated a guy I really like for a few months, but it didn't work out. I'm open to meet a guy, but there is no rush and at this point, I will not rush into commitment unless it's for real.
My mother met my father when they were both 18 and got married in their twenties. My sister is single at 27 and have had tons of ONS, FWBs and relationships - it definitely makes me seem different.
My old best friend is in relationship with a guy now. It seems to be going well, but he refers to her as "the chick" (not in English, there is no term which is translatable) and is a bit dim. It's weird, because years ago, she would never consider a guy like that, but I think she likes the safety. It's none of my business obviously (except she acts a bit superior just from having a bf), but it strikes me that many have relationships for the sake of it.
I grew up in Scandinavia and have friends there (in the bigger cities mostly), and most women there get married and have babies after 30. A friend of mine even said she'd "start looking" for someone at 30 (which is wayy to late for me, I want children before that). So at this point very few I know are settling down, but I'm guessing it will happen the next 5 years.Last edited by Millie228; 23-07-2012 at 13:24. -
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Yes, but they're still two individuals not one morphed together person; I've been in a serious relationship like that and it's perfectly normal to want time without your OH every once in a while (how else do you gush about them xD). I've talked about it with her, she just feels guilty leaving him by himself. But we can't go on nights out together because he gets aggressive towards her when he's been drinking and we haven't had a girls'-only day/dinner/coffee/anything with her in two years.(Original post by Mckinleybhoy77)
Maybe you should think about how your friend feels, you have to remember people in relationships arent just boyfriend and girlfriends that are best friendsand maybe your friend enjoys the company of her Fiance with her friends also. You should be happy you havent been completely blocked out her life. -
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Being single is highly underrated. Being with someone makes your life circle around them, which seems great for you at the time, but when you look back you realise how stupid you were.
Relationships are a great way to learn about yourself, but you shouldn't envy people for being in one, nor should you scold someone for being alone. -
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Relationships are far too much hassle, I would rather be able to live my life how I want instead of having to make compromises for someone else ... until of course I find the right girl to stick with.(Original post by #JayJay)
how do you feel about it? does it make you want to be in a relationship more?
What really pisses me off the most is when your closest mates would rather not know you when they get in a relationship and only make an effort to meet up when they have nothing better to do ... I usually tell them where they can go and stick it
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Re: Are you coming to that stage where most of your friends are in relationships?Yep. I'm only 18 but most of my close friends are in relationships. Sometimes it makes me want to be in a relationship more - for instance when I find myself the only single person in the room
or when I see couples looking ridiculously over-the-moon happy together - but at other times I feel relieved to be missing all the drama they seem to go through.
