[salty_candy]

I know I posted this thread before but I accidentally posted it as anon and then asked for it to be deleted and i can't find it so I guess it was deleted

basically, me and my boyfriend had a bit of an argument over something small and these are the messages he sent, I'm basically just asking whether you think he wants to break up with me. I don't want to lose him and I do love him, I believe him when he says he loves me but from these messages I kinda feel like I'm getting mixed signals. I don't want to force him into a relationship when his heart's not in it.

He has a lot going on right now, and he does have issues with trust because of things that have happened in the past (I don't mean just the usual bad girlfriend experience, it's completely understandable that he'd have some trust issues with all he has going on)




I didn't mean to mess up again. I don't want to argue with you too. And I'm kinda tired of being the only one who has problems really. I have no trust issues with you hun, I guess your right I'm reading too deep into things.. I understand, I know your trying I'm just being an idiot and thought "hmm been on Facebook all night yet she didn't think to message me to say goodnight until I mention it." ****ing hell I sound needy wtf has happend to me?


Well you should have a problem with me as I'm always making you feel **** it seems and don't try to justify it, because there's no need. Look if I can't sort my attitude out then I'm going to stop us I don't want to put you through anymore ****, Im sorry. I didn't know about last night I was up all night worried I'd I had said something wrong, checking my phone and after I messaged you took like ages to reply so I thought the worse as usual I actually think somethings wrong me as soon as anyone says they love me I seem to like push them away because I think they're lying. I just don't know anymore.





I do I mean wtf is this **** right now? This is not what's supposed to be happening this early. I love you so much and yet I feel so crap all the time and I'm taking it out on you It's ****ing not fair, I do realise I am like when It's too late to really do anything about it.. This is why I'm always questioning, you, myself, us. Because you deserve better.




I don't want to give up too. I want to make you happy, I want to make you smile, laugh and feel good about yourself and that is far from what I'm doing now it feels. What you said is true no relationships perfect, so why should this one be? Your more than worth it I think. I'm just worried about loving you and you not loving me back I guess. Because I kind of feel like you could hurt me really bad if you wanted, not saying you would. If that makes sense? My batteries going to die soon, sorry for taking ages trying to work at the same time. I hope I have not ruined your day. I love you and miss you.x



Please don't quote me though, 'cause he might go on this forum I'm not sure, hence the no anon so I can edit it later

Any opinions would be useful, I don't really want to bring this up with him as we've resolved the argument now and I don't want to cause another.

[amyshamblesxx]

Sounds like he's thought about it and he isn't sure.

[salty_candy]

(Original post by amyshamblesxx)
Sounds like he's thought about it and he isn't sure.

It does seem like that, I dunno I guess I'm going to have to talk to him about it because this happens a lot (silly arguments I mean, this one was over me not texting him back to say goodnight, 'cause my phone didn't send the message and then he got kinda mad that I'd been on facebook and not sent him a message there either, even though I was typing something to him when he woke up, and he knows that.)
It isn't just me he takes things out on though he does the same sort of thing with his mother. He is a good person though, and I do care about him/want to help him but at the same time I can't feel so insecure with the relationship all the time, it's stressful.

[ct2k7]

I'm going to stick with what I said before (I got the thread removed as per your request).

[salty_candy]

(Original post by ct2k7)
I'm going to stick with what I said before (I got the thread removed as per your request).

Thank you for getting the thread removed and thank you for the advice 'cause it turns out you were right, had a chat with him and that was all he needed to know, he just wanted reassuring I guess. We've sorted it completely, just spent a couple of nights with him and it was perfect, so thanks

[ct2k7]

(Original post by salty_candy)
Thank you for getting the thread removed and thank you for the advice 'cause it turns out you were right, had a chat with him and that was all he needed to know, he just wanted reassuring I guess. We've sorted it completely, just spent a couple of nights with him and it was perfect, so thanks

My pleasure

I really want to spend a few nights with my gf now - I know I was sending her mixed messages / signals when I was in Florida but my situation is a hell of a lot more complex than it's worth going into lol

[salty_candy]

(Original post by ct2k7)
My pleasure

I really want to spend a few nights with my gf now - I know I was sending her mixed messages / signals when I was in Florida but my situation is a hell of a lot more complex than it's worth going into lol

Awh, Well I hope you and your girlfriend sort it out.
you bloody men and your mixed signals driving us girls crazy

[ct2k7]

(Original post by salty_candy)
Awh, Well I hope you and your girlfriend sort it out.
you bloody men and your mixed signals driving us girls crazy

hehe ty :P

To be honest, I did send her a very bland message saying: "I can't do this anymore" :/

[iGriff]

Let me look into my crystal ball...

Seriously, ask him directly. If that sparks an argument then he needs to grow a pair.