[Anonymous]

I have a friend who says she never judges but she does judge what people say. Earlier I told her someone wanted to cheat on their husband who was in the army and I said she should finish the relationship. She started having a go at me saying she can cheat if she wants, peopleget misrable and that men in the forces cheat. She kept questioning me and getting angry so I backed down. Having gone on holiday with her and spent weekends with her I have found her to be very selfish, needy and opinionated, I thought this before and her ex told her he thought this and she went mad at him. I just don't get why she won't let people have their opinions and she keeps expect us to pay for things, do her errands and she even uses my toiletries without asking. I am so annoyed.

[Safiya122]

Tell her to shut up and let others choose their own opinions, I'm sure she's decided things that others would mock her for.

[Cephalus]

Wow your friend is quite...unique. What is it that brought you two together in a friendship? Tell her (gently) to stop. If she does not desist, then take further action

[emilie18]

Does she have any redeeming qualities? From your post, I get the impression you really don't like her that much. If that's the case, then you talk to her and explain how hurtful her behaviour can be, then if things don't change, distance yourself from her and spend more time with the people you really do get on with.

[ladymeep]

You don't sound as if you actually like her...so why are you friends with her?

[Anonymous]

We only knew each other for 5 months in the last year of uni cos of group work. She then told me to keep in touch and kept emailing me asking to meet up, I wasn't too fussed as I was content with the friends I had. I found out after that her friends have stopped speaking to her so she has no friends now, I see why she latches onto people.

[Hopple]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I have a friend who says she never judges but she does judge what people say. Earlier I told her someone wanted to cheat on their husband who was in the army and I said she should finish the relationship. She started having a go at me saying she can cheat if she wants, peopleget misrable and that men in the forces cheat. She kept questioning me and getting angry so I backed down. Having gone on holiday with her and spent weekends with her I have found her to be very selfish, needy and opinionated, I thought this before and her ex told her he thought this and she went mad at him. I just don't get why she won't let people have their opinions and she keeps expect us to pay for things, do her errands and she even uses my toiletries without asking. I am so annoyed.

What do you want, advice on whether to keep doing as you are doing, or stop being a doormat, or break off all contact?

Obviously stop letting her talk you down, paying for her stuff, doing errands for her etc, and if she throws a hissy fit then just ignore her until she becomes sane.

[ken2]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I have a friend who says she never judges but she does judge what people say. Earlier I told her someone wanted to cheat on their husband who was in the army and I said she should finish the relationship. She started having a go at me saying she can cheat if she wants, peopleget misrable and that men in the forces cheat. She kept questioning me and getting angry so I backed down. Having gone on holiday with her and spent weekends with her I have found her to be very selfish, needy and opinionated, I thought this before and her ex told her he thought this and she went mad at him. I just don't get why she won't let people have their opinions and she keeps expect us to pay for things, do her errands and she even uses my toiletries without asking. I am so annoyed.

She sounds like a fragile soul to me and it also seems that you are the only friend she has, when ever you or her raise a top just side with her opinions and keep yours to yourself; just dont get sucked into petty quarrels.

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