Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friends?
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendHis friends sound like douches to be frank. Weird douches. I've never known any guys who discussed their sisters sexually, in fact most of the guys I know probably fall under the "protective" category in regards to their sisters.(Original post by Jess1960)
I want to confront him, or at least tell my mother (She will be disgusted and shocked). But I don't want to make everything awkward, especially since I read his FB. He acts completely normal in everyday life, and never makes me feel uncomfortable like that or acts perverted. But when he's with his friends they are very crude, and from the conversation it seemed like they had already discussed their sisters' breast sizes and hotness in previous discussions. WHY?!
Hmmm therein lies the problem. You can't really confront him without revealing that you were being nosey and looking at his private conversations. It's possible that, like other posters have said, he was just going along with it out of ease. But then again he shouldn't do that as it's pretty much encouraging them to continue being weird douches.
Thing is, there's being crude, and then there's being... bizarre. I think it's bizarre to see your sibling in a sexual way
And I say bizarre rather than "****ed up" which is what I'm really thinking.
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendNo, not normal. I mean, sometimes if my brother's out with his friends and I run into him out of the house he'll tell me later that his friends were making some kind of sexual joke about me but he's two years younger than me and I know they're silly, plus I've heard guys my own age asking their friends about their sisters just to wind them up.
But my brother's always uncomfortable with his friends making that kind of comment, although he realises its a joke he wouldn't join in with it. The idea of my brother staring at my cleavage makes me really uncomfortable. No, it's definitely not normal.
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendDefinitely not normal if he isn't doing for a particular reason. Perhaps in some way he's trying to subtly warn his friends away from you by making you seem unattractive to them? In some roundabout way, he could be trying to protect you. I for one just tell my friends to shut up when they talk about my sister(s).
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendMaybe.. that's what I hope. But it seemed more like he just liked making sexual jokes about me, which is just weird. Although the other day he didn't want me to come out because he said he was worried some of his friends may start trying to chat me up (the perverted guy he was talking to was one of them).(Original post by Bonzo10)
Definitely not normal if he isn't doing for a particular reason. Perhaps in some way he's trying to subtly warn his friends away from you by making you seem unattractive to them? In some roundabout way, he could be trying to protect you. I for one just tell my friends to shut up when they talk about my sister(s). -
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendNo way is that fine! He shouldn't be talking about you in that way, especially when it encourages others to do so. I would freak out so much if that happened to me!
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendI've never thought or said anything like that about my sister and nor have my friends about their sisters. It is a little strange and I'm shocked that he's 22 and making these comments.
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Stop f****** generalising. Not all brothers would do what this guy did.(Original post by x[Aa$iyah]x)
thank god i dont have a brother
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendAll i can think of is yeah youre brother must be extremely immature , i myself dont have a sister but if i did i would have shot down my mates had they started talking any sexual things in regards to my sister if i had one.
You yourself are in the wrong for invading his privacy by checking his FB , but as its done you should just confront him and ask him straight up what he meant by those messages if you are not satisfied with the answers he provides then go on to tell you're mother and let her sort it out.
I really think it is a small issue that you are trying to turn into a much bigger one , you yourself said you expect this from other men but not you're brother , but you're brother is also a man. Also i highly doubt he has any sexual interest in you as you yourself said he has a quite good looking girlfriend. -
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friend(Original post by x[Aa$iyah]x)
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendIt is entirely normal for groups of boys to make sexual comments about their friend's sisters and mothers, which obviously leads to some discussion: haven't you ever seen the inbetweeners?
It is your own fault for snooping on his Facebook page, it is harmless banter and it was clearly not indicating his attraction to you. Fair enough, if he is insulting you behind your back when you get on well face to face, you have the right to confront him about it, but if you are just upset at crude language then you need to grow up. -
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friend(Original post by desdemonata)
His friends sound like douches to be frank. Weird douches. I've never known any guys who discussed their sisters sexually, in fact most of the guys I know probably fall under the "protective" category in regards to their sisters.
Hmmm therein lies the problem. You can't really confront him without revealing that you were being nosey and looking at his private conversations. It's possible that, like other posters have said, he was just going along with it out of ease. But then again he shouldn't do that as it's pretty much encouraging them to continue being weird douches.
Thing is, there's being crude, and then there's being... bizarre. I think it's bizarre to see your sibling in a sexual way And I say bizarre rather than "f*cked up" which is what I'm really thinking.
Yeah.. so do you think I should confront him/tell my mum? The thing is we never really discuss sexual stuff much as a family, so it could make everything really awkward. I don't wanna ruin our relationship just over a careless comment that probably doesn't mean anything, except in his eyes nobody is off-limit for sexual jokes. But then again, that he think it's okay to say these comments out loud to other people (and clearly in his friendship circle these comments are okay) disturbs me, and is disrespectful. -
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendWell clearly I was upset about him commenting on how good a titty **** I would be, rather than just telling his friend to shut up (in the Inbetweeners they only make jokes about Neil's sister, Neil never makes sexual jokes about his own sister). I don't care about the crude language, just the sexual language with reference to me.(Original post by Copperknickers)
It is entirely normal for groups of boys to make sexual comments about their friend's sisters and mothers, which obviously leads to some discussion: haven't you ever seen the inbetweeners?
It is your own fault for snooping on his Facebook page, it is harmless banter and it was clearly not indicating his attraction to you. Fair enough, if he is insulting you behind your back when you get on well face to face, you have the right to confront him about it, but if you are just upset at crude language then you need to grow up. -
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Re: Is it normal for brothers to talk about their sisters in a sexual way with friendWhat he said does sound extremely unusual, especially since you're his (younger I presume?) sister. Two things you can do. Either go with the honest option, and tell him you used his Facebook and that you saw the comment, and think it's inappropriate (depending on how close you are to your brother). Or you play a reverse prank on him, leave your phone unlocked near him one day with a text to someone you know with a similar comment...see how he likes it.(Original post by Jess1960)
Well clearly I was upset about him commenting on how good a titty **** I would be, rather than just telling his friend to shut up (in the Inbetweeners they only make jokes about Neil's sister, Neil never makes sexual jokes about his own sister). I don't care about the crude language, just the sexual language with reference to me.
And I say bizarre rather than "****ed up" which is what I'm really thinking.
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