[petal1991]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
i've been myself for 20 frickin years
i never have sustainable friends..just convenience ones
fack.

having noticed your picture is of Azealia Banks, i will happily be your friend!

[I have a question]

One has to be real themselves to get real friends. "Real recognise real"

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by ConstantlyStressed)
Are you going into college? Uni? Because if you are, then consider it a brand new start - go that one step further in meeting new people and find out your similarities e.g. reading, swimming. It'll be a lot of fun, as long as you don't overthink it, because it should just come naturally .

Been there, done that got the failure t shirt.

[Casshern1456]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
yup...dropping out

im sure you'l have a good time though.
i shouldn;t have gone to this uni.

I'm sure you can find people you like when you start uni again, girls are naturally more talkative and friendly you'll be fine!

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by petal1991)
having noticed your picture is of Azealia Banks, i will happily be your friend!

Love her...if only i had a 10th of her attitude!!!

[SFsucks]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
i've been myself for 20 frickin years
i never have sustainable friends..just convenience ones
fack.

Give me some information about yourself, your personality, etc. Being yourself can sometimes be where the problem lies.

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by Casshern1456)
I'm sure you can find people you like when you start uni again, girls are naturally more talkative and friendly you'll be fine!

I'm not normal.

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by SFsucks)
Give me some information about yourself, your personality, etc. Being yourself can sometimes be where the problem lies.

i'm reserved but if people actually give me a friggin chance instead of just ignoring me then i'm actually quite outgoing.

the way people have treated me have scarred me TBH.

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by I have a question)
One has to be real themselves to get real friends. "Real recognise real"

I am real. Too real infact.

[I have a question]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
I am real. Too real infact.

Seems legit.

[f1mad]

(Original post by spiral87)
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Boromir, classic.

[SFsucks]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
i'm reserved but if people actually give me a friggin chance instead of just ignoring me then i'm actually quite outgoing.

the way people have treated me have scarred me TBH.

Are you still in sixth form and if so is it a private one, rough one, normal, etc.

[FuzzySheep]

After 18 years, I only really have one friend but he's a real friend, so I do count myself lucky. I think that's it really, it's down to luck/trial and error.

[I have a question]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
x

I have an idea.

OP, on a scale of 1 - 10 where would you place yourself?

[Sir Fox]

There is no simple solution. Start making 'normal' friends (just because you want, not because anyone urges you, because those friends are rich and famous or for whichever unjustified reason). From that point on, nothing is predictable.

For most of my teenager years I only had some few friends I rarely met, mainly because I hated socialising and didn't feel I need friends. Then I went abroad and *BAM*, out of the first two friends I made one is now my best friend - I've just been lucky to find this special girl (yeah, I'm a dude with a girl as my best friend ) and didn't have to do all the 'trial and error' thing over and over again. Unfortunately she's living far away and when I start university abroad I'll have to make new friends.

You cannot plan this. Make friends and time will tell who of them is special enough to be a 'real' friend (for me all friends are real friends as I don't have any false friends, they are few but worth the time).

[spiral87]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
Well?

How to make friends. I'm a total ****ing weirdo and I've managed to make some friends. Here are some pointers.

In Uni or at work, unless you go out of your way to avoid people, you WILL make friends. Or it's quite possible you have a ****ty job and you work with mongs, in which case, keep reading.

One of my strategies for making new friends is to go do things I enjoy doing, where other people dwell, like at gigs. Find an excuse to get talking to the people around you. If you're standing in a queue, randomly splurge out questions at your fellow queuers. They're unlikely to ignore you or think you're weird.

I volunteered for a charity abroad for a month and a half. Met some of the best friends I've ever had. I've been back for three months and still, they're a huge part of my life. Find something similar, you don't need to go abroad, but if you can find a local charity that supports student volunteers, it ain't gonna cost you much and you'll probably find many of the people there are like you.

Else you have the internet. Many forums including TSR have regular meetups. You can't fail to make friends through this method.

My last group of friends were friends of friends met through Facebook. Yeah, you might need to do a little bit of stalkage, but you might find a friend of a friend who's just as weird as you and lives nearby then you have justification to add them. "Oh, hope you don't mind, I saw you posting on blah blah's wall, it's really unusual to see someone else like me round here!"

Questions, comments, queries?

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by SFsucks)
Are you still in sixth form and if so is it a private one, rough one, normal, etc.

finished my first year of uni. 6 form/college sucked.

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by SFsucks)
Are you still in sixth form and if so is it a private one, rough one, normal, etc.

college was rough..only went there coz my last college was a party college and i thought i could keep studying...big mistake.

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by I have a question)
I have an idea.

OP, on a scale of 1 - 10 where would you place yourself?

6.5

to others i think i'm a zero.

[chelseafan]

You need to shift your attitude. You seem to have a defeatist attitude caused by past bad experiences. Positive thinking could be the answer.