[andriacausby]

Hey. I'm female and just turned 17. My mum and dad have split up (5 or 6 years ago). I live with my mum all the time apart from I go to dads twice a week. I don't know if this is normal because it's been going on for a few years now (ever since my mum left now that I think about it):

He calls me sexy/hot
He says all of the boys will fancy me
He feels my bum/legs
I've caught him looking at my bum/boobs
He will tickle me and wont stop
He grabs me really hard and wont let me go (kind of like a hug)
He lies on top of me and rubs his nose on mine

I tell him "Ew dad, no" or "Stop", etc but he doesn't listen.

I dunno what to do, is this normal? Or inappropriate?

I don't want to tell my mum or friends about it, they will think I'm over reacting and laugh.

Thank you

[zubz91]

(Original post by andriacausby)
Hey. I'm female and just turned 17. My mum and dad have split up (5 or 6 years ago). I live with my mum all the time apart from I go to dads twice a week. I don't know if this is normal because it's been going on for a few years now (ever since my mum left now that I think about it):

He calls me sexy/hot
He says all of the boys will fancy me
He feels my bum/legs
I've caught him looking at my bum/boobs
He will tickle me and wont stop
He grabs me really hard and wont let me go (kind of like a hug)
He lies on top of me and rubs his nose on mine

I tell him "Ew dad, no" or "Stop", etc but he doesn't listen.

I dunno what to do, is this normal? Or inappropriate?

I don't want to tell my mum or friends about it, they will think I'm over reacting and laugh.

Thank you

Paedo alert.. arrest him, that i think is quite too much love from a father, serious.

[ChloeElizabeth]

No, not normal :-(

[MangoFreak]

That is most certainly not what would be described as normal

[ChloeElizabeth]

I don't feel you'll get wholly sensible responses on here, if you have questions maybe call childline 0800 1111 I know you are 17 but they will chat to you in a calm & sensitive way x

[sezzasays]

This is quite inappropriate, especially the feeling your bum bit and looking at your boobs/bum, and calling you sexy/hot. The other stuff on its own not so much, but when combined with those three its pretty inappropriate. If he didn't do the other three, it could probably be said to be just normal fatherly love for a daughter.

[Juichiro]

(Original post by andriacausby)
Hey. I'm female and just turned 17. My mum and dad have split up (5 or 6 years ago). I live with my mum all the time apart from I go to dads twice a week. I don't know if this is normal because it's been going on for a few years now (ever since my mum left now that I think about it):

He calls me sexy/hot
He says all of the boys will fancy me
He feels my bum/legs
I've caught him looking at my bum/boobs
He will tickle me and wont stop
He grabs me really hard and wont let me go (kind of like a hug)
He lies on top of me and rubs his nose on mine

I tell him "Ew dad, no" or "Stop", etc but he doesn't listen.

I dunno what to do, is this normal? Or inappropriate?

I don't want to tell my mum or friends about it, they will think I'm over reacting and laugh.

Thank you

Ask him about these things or tell your mum. He is being TOO lovely.

[saachi]

NOBODY will think you're overreacting! For heaven's sake please tell your mum, please! This sounds creepy, he lies on top of you?! I would scream and run to the police if any relative of mine ever did that. I'm sorry you've had to go through this, but end it NOW.

[sanaindaclub]

It does seem creepy and inappropriate. My dad a little weird too but in the opposite sense. He barely hugs me now that I have boobs. I can't even say the word period around him! Hell, if i did he's probably just faint.

[Zangoose]

(Original post by andriacausby)
Hey. I'm female and just turned 17. My mum and dad have split up (5 or 6 years ago). I live with my mum all the time apart from I go to dads twice a week. I don't know if this is normal because it's been going on for a few years now (ever since my mum left now that I think about it):

He calls me sexy/hot
He says all of the boys will fancy me
He feels my bum/legs
I've caught him looking at my bum/boobs
He will tickle me and wont stop
He grabs me really hard and wont let me go (kind of like a hug)
He lies on top of me and rubs his nose on mine

I tell him "Ew dad, no" or "Stop", etc but he doesn't listen.

I dunno what to do, is this normal? Or inappropriate?

I don't want to tell my mum or friends about it, they will think I'm over reacting and laugh.

Thank you

Nahhh baby, dere ain't nuthin wrong wit dat... Mans jus wants to show his daughter sum love...

Seems legit to me. Stop bein so paranoid... Sheesh... If u got a nice ass and nice rack, at least someone is appreciatin em right?

[Architecture-er]

(Original post by andriacausby)
Hey. I'm female and just turned 17. My mum and dad have split up (5 or 6 years ago). I live with my mum all the time apart from I go to dads twice a week. I don't know if this is normal because it's been going on for a few years now (ever since my mum left now that I think about it):

He calls me sexy/hot
He says all of the boys will fancy me
He feels my bum/legs
I've caught him looking at my bum/boobs
He will tickle me and wont stop
He grabs me really hard and wont let me go (kind of like a hug)
He lies on top of me and rubs his nose on mine

I tell him "Ew dad, no" or "Stop", etc but he doesn't listen.

I dunno what to do, is this normal? Or inappropriate?

I don't want to tell my mum or friends about it, they will think I'm over reacting and laugh.

Thank you

Well I was thinking paedophile up until that point, but now I just think he's normal.

In all seriousness, I'm surprised you're not listing "He had sex with me a few times" as one of his acts that have raised your suspicions..

[Aspiringlawstudent]

He sounds like a massive paedophile

Call the police

[Dmon1Unlimited]

(Original post by ChloeElizabeth)
I don't feel you'll get wholly sensible responses on here, if you have questions maybe call childline 0800 1111 I know you are 17 but they will chat to you in a calm & sensitive way x

This is the best thing i can advise really...
people at my uni told me about nightline to

[Kruz]

(Original post by andriacausby)
Hey. I'm female and just turned 17. My mum and dad have split up (5 or 6 years ago). I live with my mum all the time apart from I go to dads twice a week. I don't know if this is normal because it's been going on for a few years now (ever since my mum left now that I think about it):

He calls me sexy/hot
He says all of the boys will fancy me
He feels my bum/legs
I've caught him looking at my bum/boobs
He will tickle me and wont stop
He grabs me really hard and wont let me go (kind of like a hug)
He lies on top of me and rubs his nose on mine

I tell him "Ew dad, no" or "Stop", etc but he doesn't listen.

I dunno what to do, is this normal? Or inappropriate?

I don't want to tell my mum or friends about it, they will think I'm over reacting and laugh.

Thank you

Wow....that's a bit dodgy

[LaDaniel]

No, this really isn't normal. I'm 17 too and I'd be extremely worried if my Dad was saying/doing things like that. Don't be scared to tell someone - no one's going to laugh at you or not believe you!

Tell anyone, a friend, your mum, the childline. Dad's shouldn't be doing things like that, not to their own daughters. Please, you have to let someone know, otherwise things could get way more out of hand and even worse!

[TenOfThem]

Because you do not live with him full time, he may simply have not had the time/opportunity/sense to adjust as you grow older

I think that the comments are more unacceptable than the physical stuff as they are explicitly sexual

If you feel able I would suggest that you sit him down and tell him that you are finding some of this uncomfortable ... if you do not feel able then can your Mum do this ... if neither of these are possible then the situation has reached a point where you need to talk to someone and I endorse the ChildLine suggestion

[ihaveyourcat]

... definately not normal. I would be creeped out. Tell your mum!

[AndromedaLight]

You need to say something to someone before he takes it any further.
Seriously.

[Dragonfly07]

Definitely tell your mum. She'll take complete custody of you and you won't have to visit him anymore.

[Rosie1422]

Regardless of what other people deem as inappropriate, if it makes YOU uncomfortable and uneasy around your dad then it is inappropriate and needs to be stopped. Have you ever told him, "You're not supposed to say that. You're my Dad!" or even speak to your Mum about it. I would never say your dad is a paedophile because I don't know the full story - he perhaps just doesn't realise the boundaries now that you're older, and (hopefully) if it was explained to him that he really shouldn't do that he'd be mortified. Perhaps not. But definitely speak to someone. =)