[Anonymous]

I'm not quite sure where to begin, but I'll start writing and see what comes out...from an early age I've been unable to feel like others, I just constantly see the misery and sadness in the world, and see how worthless it all is when we're all going to die in the end. I try to live by the motto 'enjoy it all whilst you can', but I feel that doing so is merely a distraction to help you forget inevitable death and pain, fleeting and temporary pleasure which stops sadness briefly before it always returns.

I have set myself goals in life, my main one being to get into my dream university, something I've worked towards for years. With this almost achieved (as I have the offer, waiting for the grades), it just seems like what was it all for? What is the point of ambition? We all set ourself goals, and when they achieved we say 'well what's next?' and continue to do so, with the logical end of 'what's next' being death. I realised that achieving my ambitions does not solve all my problems as I'd hope it would, problems such as love, relationships.

I can sense my relationship with my girlfriend getting strained sometimes, I am just unable to always pretend everything is all well, unable to put on the fake smile that I know she wants. The world is sad, life is sad. Of course I have moments in life that make me so happy, that are amazing, but they end, and I'm left alone to see life as a lonely, twisted thing.

Not sure what I'm asking for here, thoughts maybe? Opinions? Help? Anything really.

[Anonymous]

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[YB101]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm not quite sure where to begin, but I'll start writing and see what comes out...from an early age I've been unable to feel like others, I just constantly see the misery and sadness in the world, and see how worthless it all is when we're all going to die in the end. I try to live by the motto 'enjoy it all whilst you can', but I feel that doing so is merely a distraction to help you forget inevitable death and pain, fleeting and temporary pleasure which stops sadness briefly before it always returns.

I have set myself goals in life, my main one being to get into my dream university, something I've worked towards for years. With this almost achieved (as I have the offer, waiting for the grades), it just seems like what was it all for? What is the point of ambition? We all set ourself goals, and when they achieved we say 'well what's next?' and continue to do so, with the logical end of 'what's next' being death. I realised that achieving my ambitions does not solve all my problems as I'd hope it would, problems such as love, relationships.

I can sense my relationship with my girlfriend getting strained sometimes, I am just unable to always pretend everything is all well, unable to put on the fake smile that I know she wants. The world is sad, life is sad. Of course I have moments in life that make me so happy, that are amazing, but they end, and I'm left alone to see life as a lonely, twisted thing.

Not sure what I'm asking for here, thoughts maybe? Opinions? Help? Anything really.

PM me, I want to talk to you x

[Roger Mexico]

Everyone feels that way at some point during their teenage life if they have any sense, you are not unique in any way shape or form, as much as I'm sure you'd like to imagine you are. It is a dark tunnel that we all have to travel through, but at some point you'll emerge and you'll come to the realisation that as terrible as life is when you look at it from a rationalistic point of view, sometimes you have to put aside pure reason, raw logic and unconstrained rationality, and live your life as best you can. Being happy is fantastic, and constantly worrying about death and the crushing futility of existence is a sure way to live your life without ever experiencing happiness at all.

Go outside, find something that you love, and do it, and keep on doing it, and then find someone to fall in love with, and then get on with your life.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Roger Mexico)
Everyone feels that way at some point during their teenage life if they have any sense, you are not unique in any way shape or form, as much as I'm sure you'd like to imagine you are. It is a dark tunnel that we all have to travel through, but at some point you'll emerge and you'll come to the realisation that as terrible as life is when you look at it from a rationalistic point of view, sometimes you have to put aside pure reason, raw logic and unconstrained rationality, and live your life as best you can. Being happy is fantastic, and constantly worrying about death and the crushing futility of existence is a sure way to live your life without ever experiencing happiness at all.

Go outside, find something that you love, and do it, and keep on doing it, and then find someone to fall in love with, and then get on with your life.

Well as much as I dislike your condescension, thank you for your viewpoint.

[Roger Mexico]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well as much as I dislike your condescension, thank you for your viewpoint.

Viewpoint? I just handed you the solution to your teenage, quasi-existential crisis, and you have the gall to dismiss it as a 'viewpoint'? Perhaps this is why you're so miserable? Never ****ing listening to anyone is a sure fire way to never learn anything and to **** up your life.

[willbee]

(Original post by Roger Mexico)
Everyone feels that way at some point during their teenage life if they have any sense, you are not unique in any way shape or form, as much as I'm sure you'd like to imagine you are. It is a dark tunnel that we all have to travel through, but at some point you'll emerge and you'll come to the realisation that as terrible as life is when you look at it from a rationalistic point of view, sometimes you have to put aside pure reason, raw logic and unconstrained rationality, and live your life as best you can. Being happy is fantastic, and constantly worrying about death and the crushing futility of existence is a sure way to live your life without ever experiencing happiness at all.

Go outside, find something that you love, and do it, and keep on doing it, and then find someone to fall in love with, and then get on with your life.

Wow, your post is horrible and completely useless.

When someone is depressed you cannot just tell them to get a grip and get on with their life. People don't choose to be depressed, most of the time they can't help it, and as much as they would love to be out enjoying life they just can't. Sometimes our brains get ill and make us unhappy and it's a chemical imbalance, sometimes it's low self-esteem or disappointment or grief.

It sickens me when people respond like this: like essentially saying "MAN UP" and enjoy life. SOMETIMES PEOPLE JUST CAN'T. I don't know about the OP but they may be genuinely ill, and in need of a doctor to help them heal.

(My mum had depression when I was in sixth form. She couldn't get out of bed, sometimes she couldn't even hear us when we were shouting in her face and slapping her to get her attention.)

/rant.

[willbee]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm not quite sure where to begin, but I'll start writing and see what comes out...from an early age I've been unable to feel like others, I just constantly see the misery and sadness in the world, and see how worthless it all is when we're all going to die in the end. I try to live by the motto 'enjoy it all whilst you can', but I feel that doing so is merely a distraction to help you forget inevitable death and pain, fleeting and temporary pleasure which stops sadness briefly before it always returns.

I have set myself goals in life, my main one being to get into my dream university, something I've worked towards for years. With this almost achieved (as I have the offer, waiting for the grades), it just seems like what was it all for? What is the point of ambition? We all set ourself goals, and when they achieved we say 'well what's next?' and continue to do so, with the logical end of 'what's next' being death. I realised that achieving my ambitions does not solve all my problems as I'd hope it would, problems such as love, relationships.

I can sense my relationship with my girlfriend getting strained sometimes, I am just unable to always pretend everything is all well, unable to put on the fake smile that I know she wants. The world is sad, life is sad. Of course I have moments in life that make me so happy, that are amazing, but they end, and I'm left alone to see life as a lonely, twisted thing.

Not sure what I'm asking for here, thoughts maybe? Opinions? Help? Anything really.

Write a diary, and record your feelings for the next two weeks. If it doesn't improve, see your doctor and ask if you can look into the possibility that you're suffering from depression. Yes, you're young, so probably hormonal, but that doesn't mean you're not necessarily genuinely depressed as well.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Roger Mexico)
Viewpoint? I just handed you the solution to your teenage, quasi-existential crisis, and you have the gall to dismiss it as a 'viewpoint'? Perhaps this is why you're so miserable? Never ****ing listening to anyone is a sure fire way to never learn anything and to **** up your life.

You really couldn't be more patronising. I do listen to people, but never those who presume they hold the keys to the universe. 'Solution'? Really?

[kka25]

(Original post by Roger Mexico)
Viewpoint? I just handed you the solution to your teenage, quasi-existential crisis, and you have the gall to dismiss it as a 'viewpoint'? Perhaps this is why you're so miserable? Never ****ing listening to anyone is a sure fire way to never learn anything and to **** up your life.

wow; this is the worst post I've ever read today.

[icancount23]

(Original post by Roger Mexico)
Viewpoint? I just handed you the solution to your teenage, quasi-existential crisis, and you have the gall to dismiss it as a 'viewpoint'? Perhaps this is why you're so miserable? Never ****ing listening to anyone is a sure fire way to never learn anything and to **** up your life.

It is really easy to respond to most h+r threads with this sort of post. Phrases like "quasi-existential crisis" might give you an erection when you write them but they aren't constructive at all. Trivialising someone’s problems and then dismissing them purely based on their age shows an incredible lack of empathy. Are you using a laptop? If you are I’d recommend putting your head on the keyboard and then opening and closing the screen with high velocity.

[acer0951]

(Original post by icancount23)
It is really easy to respond to most h+r threads with this sort of post. Phrases like "quasi-existential crisis" might give you an erection when you write them but they aren't constructive at all. Trivialising someone’s problems and then dismissing them purely based on their age shows an incredible lack of empathy. Are you using a laptop? If you are I’d recommend putting your head on the keyboard and then opening and closing the screen with high velocity.

Looooooool you boss!


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[Freak Out]

(Original post by Roger Mexico)
Viewpoint? I just handed you the solution to your teenage, quasi-existential crisis, and you have the gall to dismiss it as a 'viewpoint'? Perhaps this is why you're so miserable? Never ****ing listening to anyone is a sure fire way to never learn anything and to **** up your life.

Either you're a troll or a complete moron. Or both.

[Roger Mexico]

(Original post by Freak Out)
Either you're a troll or a complete moron. Or both.

Who can say. :3