Do you look down on teenage mothers?
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?To judge someone you don't know is silly.
For all you know that "teenage mum" could have been a rape victim. But even that is disregarding the fact that you are extending a standard beyond yourself, and by doing so you are being very ignorant. I don't understand how you can criticise someone else's life or ideas without at least partially knowing the person in question.
Interesting side-note: babies born of mums around the age of 15 to 25 are statistically more likely to be healthy and problem-free. Babies born of mums that are older are statistically more likely to have some developmental problems. If anything, the standard should be reversed but then that's society for you
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?Indeed - particularly the cowardly ones who leave at the first opportunity.(Original post by Millie228)
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?To be honest I'm pretty bad at telling someones age, on top of that i rarely pay attention to people around me unless i am made to, so if i hear a baby/toddler screaming or shouting and i turn around to see some young looking girl, maybe in sweat pants, maybe in pajama bottoms, usually with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, with a huge LV handbag and nine times out of ten crimson dyed hair, shouting something like 'TYSON GET HERE YOU LIL' ****!' (seriously take a walk around Chatham I wish i was exaggerating *shudders*)
I do catch myself uttering something along the lines of bloody chav mothers, in my mind knocked up at a young age, happily spending my taxes to dye her hair, smoke her cigarettes but her clothes ...and clothe her child in primark.
Of course this is just a knee jerk reaction to seeing a negative stereotype of a teenage mother in real life, typically if i did somehow notice a young girl pushing a pram or carrying a baby i would think nothing of it.
I know a couple of people that were teenage mums, and they don't fit the common stereotype, however anyone who denies that the stereotype exists for a reason is in my opinion delusional. -
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?No, I don't look down on teenage mothers by default, because I have no idea what their situation is. For all I know, they got pregnant on purpose because they actually wanted a child, and are doing a perfectly good job of looking after it. Nothing to complain about really.
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?I don't look down on them or treat them any differently to everyone else, I just think getting pregnant at a young age is irresponsible and can cause a lot of problems for them both financially and education wise. Many young mothers don't get many qualifications due to having a child. I know one person at my old high school that dropped out of GCSE's to have a child.
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?I agree, well said.(Original post by cid)
To be honest I'm pretty bad at telling someones age, on top of that i rarely pay attention to people around me unless i am made to, so if i hear a baby/toddler screaming or shouting and i turn around to see some young looking girl, maybe in sweat pants, maybe in pajama bottoms, usually with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, with a huge LV handbag and nine times out of ten crimson dyed hair, shouting something like 'TYSON GET HERE YOU LIL' ****!' (seriously take a walk around Chatham I wish i was exaggerating *shudders*)
I do catch myself uttering something along the lines of bloody chav mothers, in my mind knocked up at a young age, happily spending my taxes to dye her hair, smoke her cigarettes but her clothes ...and clothe her child in primark.
Of course this is just a knee jerk reaction to seeing a negative stereotype of a teenage mother in real life, typically if i did somehow notice a young girl pushing a pram or carrying a baby i would think nothing of it.
I know a couple of people that were teenage mums, and they don't fit the common stereotype, however anyone who denies that the stereotype exists for a reason is in my opinion delusional.
Personally, I only start to feel negatively towards a young mother if I were to see them acting, in my opinion, inappropriately for a mother. What I mean by this is when they still, despite having a child, choose to behave immaturely (again in my opinion). This entails many things such as being loud & boisterous, swearing at/around the child, smoking around the child, speaking slang to the child (when the mother is capable of speaking proper english), going to places deemed to be inappropriate with the child etc.
I hope you don't find my views snobbish as I am just a young teenager myself; but the difference is that I don't have a child to look after, and honestly, I believe that when you take on the responsibility of being a parent, you should try to do everything within the best interests of your child. That includes to stop behaving like one. -
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?Took me over 4 minutes to figure it out.(Original post by Clip)
There is a joke here that is so obvious that it doesn't need to be stated.
Edit: Whether I look down on the teenage mother, or any mother at all, depends on how well she looks after the kid, not how old she looks like. But hmm, I see where OP is coming from.Last edited by tamimi; 28-07-2012 at 20:16. -
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?No. I look down on people who aren't open minded enough to think of the teen's situation. They don't know if the teen was raped, got pregnant and then had the child. Stupid adults should be put in their place. They look down on people they don't know personally, just so they feel better about themselves. (My opinion).
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?PS: There are adults (21+) who "carelessly" get pregnant as well.(Original post by JamalAhmed)
No. I look down on people who aren't open minded enough to think of the teen's situation. They don't know if the teen was raped, got pregnant and then had the child. Stupid adults should be put in their place. They look down on people they don't know personally, just so they feel better about themselves. (My opinion). -
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?I do not look down on teenage mothers at all, in fact, I respect them. They haven't exactly taken the easy way out.
Plenty of girls in my area have been around the block countless times and had abortions or taken the morning after pill (not that abortion is/should be an easy option either, mind you), one did it to the point of making herself infertile, but no one would ever know-those are the ones that should be "looked down on".
And I agree with all the posts about how you never know what the circumstances around the pregnancy were.Last edited by QuirkyDoDo; 28-07-2012 at 20:38. -
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?I wouldn't look down on or judge any young mothers myself, either. I don't see how people could judge someone when they have absolutely no idea of the circumstances surrounding the fact that they have a child. As people in this thread have already said, it might not even be theirs in the first place, and they could just be looking after it.
The general judgemental attitude usually comes from the assumption that it's because someone has slept around and/or been careless with contraception etc, but there are things to consider such as the fact that contraception isn't 100% effective, potential moral qualms about getting an abortion, rape children, the fact that someone may actually be in a loving and stable relationship and adequate financial situation....!
Judging people by a single fact is a sad thing to do in any circumstances.... unless you're Sherlock Holmes, you just doesn't know enough to make a judgement of any value. -
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Re: Do you look down on teenage mothers?I think it's irresponsible to have a child you can't afford to raise.
It's not so much an issue of age, but of being responsible - if someone can afford a child at eighteen, good luck to them.
Obviously though I would never advocate a thirteen-year-old having a baby, though - on the basis I don't believe even a perfectly intelligent child of that age would be able to look after a child on their own.
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Now that **** pisses me off
