[Shirts]

Feedback obtained, cheers everyone - Thread can be closed/whatever happens here.

Actually feeling one heck of a lot better already, thank you so much.

[PointeShoes-x]

It's not bad at all, and you obviously realise that. It's a problem in your head, not with your body at all. Maybe you could discuss this with your psychiatrist? Have you had any therapy or counselling?

[Shirts]

Hiya, thanks for your post, I have edited the OP with more info, and I don't feel comfortable at all talking about this subject face to face with her, or anyone for that matter.

[FelineCostumier]

Honestly? There is absolutely not a thing wrong with your body, the perceived flaws you have are just that, perceived.

I'm no expert but my suspicion is that the anxiety about your appearance stems from your other anxieties and is essentially irrational (in the nicest possible way). You should tell your GP or whoever else you see for your anxiety, they will have dealt with this sort of thing many times before so there is absolutely no need for embarrassment.

[pinkangelgirl]

i looked at the picture before reading what youd put and i sat there for ages trying to figure out what was wrong lol.

the answer is: nothing is wrong with you, dont worry.

[Shirts]

(Original post by FelineCostumier)
Honestly? There is absolutely not a thing wrong with your body, the perceived flaws you have are just that, perceived.

I'm no expert but my suspicion is that the anxiety about your appearance stems from your other anxieties and is essentially irrational (in the nicest possible way). You should tell your GP or whoever else you see for your anxiety, they will have dealt with this sort of thing many times before so there is absolutely no need for embarrassment.

Thanks for your reply - I am completely aware that my fear of my body is completely irrational, but I cannot help nor curb it. My low self esteem is lowered further when In a changing room.

To put it straight, I'm not a bad looking guy, my face is okay, and I cannot help but avoid sexual situations as I just feel my body isn't up to the standard of my face, imagine David Beckham took his top off, everyone expects a 6 pack, they see a beer belly, In my head, that means no love making for him, I feel people are laughing at me, scrutinizing everything.

That example is crazy hahah, but first thing that came to my head. It doesn't fit me, it looks so strange, and I cannot keep it out of my thoughts.

EDIT: Tell me this: Would a girl be happy to sleep with a guy with a body looking like that, In my opinion, absolutely no way.

[dgeorge]

(Original post by Shirts)
Hello, I am 16 years old, and I feel like my un-attractive body is ruining my life. I understand some people will say, 'omg stop over reacting omg man up ******', but let me give you some background on me first. I was diagnosed with Social Anxiety disorder about 5 months ago, and have been working with many psychiatrists over the last few months to combat my depression and suicidal thoughts. I cannot help these feelings, I have no reason to have these feelings, but they're there, so don't tell me I'm over exaggerating, it's an achievement for me to go to a swimming pool in such a social atmosphere, let alone to take my top off and feel physically ill at the other people there I know will be scrutinizing every wobble my ridiculous chest decides to flounder. I break out in mass sweat and panic attacks in social and public situations such as parties, so I don't go to them now. I've lost so many friends due to just being too anxious to go and meet them, just incase there is people I don't know there.

I am 6ft, and weigh 11st roughly, so I'm not exactly fat, infact for many years my family moaned at me telling me to put weight on as I was very skinny when I was younger.

My stomach is flat when stood, but so much fat appears when I sit, it's so embarrassing. My chest is oversized, I have ridiculously large moobs that don't go with my slimmer physique. I have been dieting for ages, working out, lots of cardio, but no improvement. I have such puffy nipples. This is blighting my youth, I'm going to mexico next week, but I won't take my top off for the whole holiday, It's so embarrassing and makes me feel physically ill.


Should I consider surgery if it is affecting me this much? Where would be a good place to look or should I go to my GP?

http://img705.imageshack.us/img705/7546/25483236.png

Thank you in advance.

Your problem is not your body, but your mind.

You're right when you say some people will say to stop overreacting, because you are.

You're only 16 years old. Your body is not what is ruining your life. it is your way of thinking of your body that is.

Everybody has imperfect bodies. I do, so do many other people. In fact, many very desirable people I know have imperfect bodies. We are not born perfect.

You need to decide that you will accept your body. No one on this forum can do this for you. Until you realise that you are overreacting and decide to begin the process of self acceptance, then nobody else can help you

[Sabertooth]

Man, you look absolutely fine. Seriously. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, I wish my stomach looked more like that (alas I am overweight).

Perhaps it might be worthm mentioning this to your psychiatrist because I think you're not accurately seeing your body. Or listen, if it's really bothering you, quit with the cardio - you're skinny enough - and start lifting heavy.

[Hippysnake]

Have you considered implants? A nice DD pair might do the trick.

[Shirts]

(Original post by Sabertooth)
Man, you look absolutely fine. Seriously. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, I wish my stomach looked more like that (alas I am overweight).

Perhaps it might be worthm mentioning this to your psychiatrist because I think you're not accurately seeing your body. Or listen, if it's really bothering you, quit with the cardio - you're skinny enough - and start lifting heavy.

Hi thanks for all the replies; I am overwhelmed by the support and feel better already!

When you say quit with the cardio, why would I do that? I run 4 miles a day and cycle 10 every other day, is this not a good idea?

And what do you mean by lifting heavy? I have never come across the term, how would I go about doing that?

Thank you!

(Original post by Hippysnake)
Have you considered implants? A nice DD pair might do the trick.

In a forum for mental health, despite what you may think, I don't think sarcasm is the correct type of wit to be utilized.

[Arcanine]

Lift heavy things and eat a lot.

[Shirts]

(Original post by Arcanine)
Lift heavy things and eat a lot.

Such as?

And what types of food should I be concentrating on?

[+ polarity -]

I don't think anything we tell you will change your mind.

[whyumadtho]

There's nothing wrong with you; I certainly didn't notice anything unusual about your chest that would be in accordance with what you believe to be "ridiculously large moobs".

[Cephalus]

loool you look pretty much like me. I think you look quite sexy I think you don't need to diet anymore or anything like that.

Just make the most of what you have is all I can say

[Bellissima]

no honestly your body is 100% FINE!!!!!! if you are unhappy with your body then hit the gym and eat a good healthy diet (check out fitness section)... rather than surgery! but there is no need because your body is completely normal and fine!! nothing wrong with it!! it's nice.

[Sabertooth]

(Original post by Shirts)
Hi thanks for all the replies; I am overwhelmed by the support and feel better already!

When you say quit with the cardio, why would I do that? I run 4 miles a day and cycle 10 every other day, is this not a good idea?

And what do you mean by lifting heavy? I have never come across the term, how would I go about doing that?

Thank you!

Wow that's some dedicated cardio. I said quit it because I thought you were doing it with the hope it would improve your view of yourself - if it hasn't so far, it probably won't. By all means continue that because it sounds really good but in addition I would recommend weight lifting. Basically get your ass to a gym and start lifting heavy weights. Look up form and anything else you need in the TSR fitness forum then stick to it. Eat more so that you're not burning off all your gains with the excessive cardio, esp. protein. It'll change your body more than just making you skinny like the cardio is doing. And trust me, girls love a guy with a nice defined chest. You'll feel a whole bunch better about yourself if you start lifting weights and seeing the results from it.

[Hippysnake]

(Original post by Shirts)

In a forum for mental health, despite what you may think, I don't think sarcasm is the correct type of wit to be utilized.

Smile dude. Stand on a busy street and just look around. You'll see many who would kill for your body.

Want genuine advice? I think the issue is with your ideals, and no amount of training can remedy that. I'm no GP, so I suggest you go and see one, but I suspect the problem is more psychological than physical.

[TB.93]

Your body is absolutely fine. I have come across boys with far worse bodies than yours who think they are absolute Gods. I defo agree with the others it's in your head. I am being extremely honest many boys would want bodies like yours even...


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[FelineCostumier]

(Original post by Shirts)
Thanks for your reply - I am completely aware that my fear of my body is completely irrational, but I cannot help nor curb it. My low self esteem is lowered further when In a changing room.

To put it straight, I'm not a bad looking guy, my face is okay, and I cannot help but avoid sexual situations as I just feel my body isn't up to the standard of my face, imagine David Beckham took his top off, everyone expects a 6 pack, they see a beer belly, In my head, that means no love making for him, I feel people are laughing at me, scrutinizing everything.

That example is crazy hahah, but first thing that came to my head. It doesn't fit me, it looks so strange, and I cannot keep it out of my thoughts.

EDIT: Tell me this: Would a girl be happy to sleep with a guy with a body looking like that, In my opinion, absolutely no way.

Sorry, I didn't make my point well. Your problems aren't physical, they're mental. You need help to address the way you are viewing yourself, which is flawed because there is nothing wrong with your body.

You're 16, you're still developing into a man and even a fully grown man would be pretty pleased with that body! Would I sleep with someone with your body? If they were closer to my age I would, it's not about what's underneath your clothing, if I'm attracted enough to you with your clothes on I'm sure as hell not going to be disappointed with that being underneath. What will impact on your attractiveness is how you feel about yourself and there is little point in you pursuing a sexual relationship until you begin dealing with that.

You must speak to your psychiatrists about this, it's the only way you can deal with it, this goes beyond general body hang ups that most of us have.