[Vohamanah]

(Original post by NocturnalInsomniac)
And why would you not do that in a relationship? This only proves why you would want to lose your virginity on a ONS...you're going to be doing things and boss over someone's body that you've never done before!

I've explained why I wouldn't want to have lost my virginity on a ONS. See post number 12.

[NocturnalInsomniac]

(Original post by Vohamanah)
I've explained why I wouldn't want to have lost my virginity on a ONS. See post number 12.

Yes you did. My point is if you're scared, nervous, worried etc wouldn't it be better to get it out of the way with some randomner? I know the partner you're with will love you, help you out but they say sex is an important part of any relationship. And if the sex is terrible, it may put them off? You dont know how quickly you'll improve/match up to his experience and expectations.

With a randomer you enjoy it instead of worrying about "messing up"...if things go wrong you dont have to see them again.

[Vohamanah]

(Original post by NocturnalInsomniac)
Yes you did. My point is if you're scared, nervous, worried etc wouldn't it be better to get it out of the way with some randomner? I know the partner you're with will love you, help you out but they say sex is an important part of any relationship. And if the sex is terrible, it may put them off? You dont know how quickly you'll improve/match up to his experience and expectations.

With a randomer you enjoy it instead of worrying about "messing up"...if things go wrong you dont have to see them again.

I don't agree

[ViceVersa]

Nope. I hope never to have a ONS. But it will depend

[hot hot hot]

i love one night stands such a thrill for me, however I like a good shag, i've had one or two crappy shags before and some guys who tell me they are big below and turn out to have one the size of a maggot, i mean come on I didn't even know it were in

[HalleStar]

(Original post by hot hot hot)
i love one night stands such a thrill for me, however I like a good shag, i've had one or two crappy shags before and some guys who tell me they are big below and turn out to have one the size of a maggot, i mean come on I didn't even know it were in

Lol wow!

[LoveIt]

I'd definitely have ONS, but then I already have had a few so can't really say that I disagree with them at all. I'd also be up for having more in the future as it's fun no strings attached sex and I'm currently just enjoying my life at uni having fun before I have to settle down. I also lost my virginity on a ONS and didn't find it a big deal at all, but then that's just my view / opinion on it and everyone feels differently about these things.

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Phil2008)
Never understood why people find losing their virginity significant. There's so many things you do for the first time; what makes putting a dick in a vagina so sacred?

I think people put way too much focus on virginity, but I can understand why people who would otherwise be happy to have a one night stand wouldn't want to lose their virginity in one. It's not so much about virginity being 'special' so much as it is that when it's your first time you may want it to be with someone you trust to go through it gently and carefully. But then on the other hand, I suppose others might benefit from the lack of pressure that comes from losing their virginity to someone they don't have any connection with beyond the sex.

[SimplyEccentric]

(Original post by HalleStar)
It's a totally different thing it's a dick in a vagina not riding a bike.



This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad App.

Well, it's riding something though, isn't it?

[HalleStar]

(Original post by SimplyEccentric)
Well, it's riding something though, isn't it?

Lool, Oh gosh what did i do lol supplied you with an innuendo. I'm not gonna lie it was funny

[SimplyEccentric]

(Original post by HalleStar)
Lool, Oh gosh what did i do lol supplied you with an innuendo. I'm not gonna lie it was funny

Ah, you praise me too highly, I simply wandered into the trap you provided

[HalleStar]

(Original post by SimplyEccentric)
Ah, you praise me too highly, I simply wandered into the trap you provided

Lol i'm sure you took pleasure in getting caught in that trap

[LaughingBro]

(Original post by abc101)
I would never have a one-night stand. I shudder to even think of it.

Why? what's your view on it?

[Hannahbal]

Unlikely. I wouldn't rule it out if there was someone I knew who there was a lot of tension with, but I couldn't do it with a randomer. Partially because... well, I just find it a lot more fun when it's somebody who you know and can have a laugh with, partially because I prefer to have some level of trust in someone I'm being intimate with and partially because there are more levels than just physical attraction for me. I like the tension, I like the flirting, I like the intellectual and psychological games you can play with each other to wind each other up.

I wouldn't say I need to be in a relationship to have sex, because I've had as many flings with friends as I have committed relationships. But there needs to be some kind of connection, some kind of spark, even if not romantic. I personally find that mental arousal is often even more erotic than physical arousal. Getting with someone who I couldn't have that sort of mental rally going on with would be betraying that principle.

That, and I like to know that I'm seen as a person and not an object. But again, the above kind of guarantees that.

[LaughingBro]

interesting

[Vikki1805]

I couldn't lose my virginity on a One Night Stand, mainly because I've already lost it and I was in a relationship but even if I hadn't, I wouldn't lose it that way, it just wouldn't have felt right.

[Alxndra]

Never had a ONS and they really don't appeal to me. I always envisaged losing my virginity to someone I was in a committed relationship with, which I did. I think first time should be special, not something to do with a random.

[Schmokie Dragon]

I lost my virginity one month into a two year relationship.

I don't like ONS all that much. That's a personal preference, I have no ethical objection to them. I tend to seduce someone, shag them and then go back for more. Half the time I end up in a relationship with them. A brief fling with someone I don't know and that I'm unlikely to see again is really not my style.