(Original post by mikejr)
Apologies for the epic post - you might have to get used to it!
New here, but have read around and think i can get some pretty good advice. Anyways, this is a pretty popular topic, but everyone's different and just wanted your views...
So, I left for Uni nearly two years ago, leaving most of my friends in jobs, I got there well, made quite a few new friends, who of course some of whom I now live with at Uni, and some of whom I'll be living with throughout my Uni life, and doubtless know for a very long time after.
I got home for the summer, and especially this year, things just feel different. Long story short, my friends at home for one reason or another aren't at Uni, and I mean pretty much all of them, and although some are going to Uni this year (2 years later than they could have), I still feel different.
I guess the best way I can explain it is there's some kind of 'reverse-snobbery' (in that you'd expect it to be the other way round) at the fact that I'm a student, and therefore know nothing about the 'reality' and 'hardships' of life. Well of course.
I find it hard for my voice to be heard often in the group, and often my suggestions are brushed over or ignored in favour of other 'better' opinions. It's almost as if there's some kind of spite going on. I have never done anything knowingly to upset them or stuff like that. Most of them are metal heads, quite stubborn and destructively negative people, which is perhaps the biggest reason I feel different; being quite optimistic, open minded and easy-going (although some of them would think different) and not criticising everyone or everything at every available opportunity.
And now I sometimes can't debate with them in a civilised manner without being accused of assuming superiority because I'm a student and being supposedly 'more educated.' Well, at least I'm not bitching at every opportunity over the gripes of being stuck in my dead end job in the same dead end routine and with the same like-minded people.
Don't get me wrong, I like and mostly respect them and have known many of them for years, but I'm beginning to feel I'm not doing myself any favours by sticking with them any more. I could count on one hand how many I see as real talk about anything 'real friends' whom I'd be profoundly sorry to see go.
Anyway, so there's no tldr's, I'll leave it at that, so any tips so far?
Cheers in advance guys.