[Anonymous]

Basically there was a guy I thought I really liked and we got along so well but for some reason he doesn't want to see me anymore or talk to me despite him sying he sees me as a really good friend... I need to move on I know. The truth is there was no sexual/romantic chemistry with him anyway so I knew deep down it couldn't have gone anywhere. I liked him so much as a person and really enjoyed spending time with him and knowing we don't talk anymore when we used to talk to him everyday without getting any closure makes me feel so empty inside. I am worried I am becoming obsessed because things he said to me run through my head everyday and it distracts me from my life. I feel so worthless and rubbish about myself I don't even know whether the only reason I am upset is because this rejection by him has just given me lower self esteem rather than actually missing him.

How do you stop obsessing over someone and get your self esteem back? :s

[foolscap]

Find out the reason why he doesn't want to see you anymore. Tell him that someone who sees you as a really good friend doesn't suddenly cut you out of their life. If he doesn't adequately reply, then you conclude that he is in fact a douchebag to be shunned, and you should not waste any more time over him as obviously nothing will happen.

You get your self esteem back by focusing on your positive attributes, and realizing that there was no reason for your self esteem to fall in the first place here.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by foolscap)
Find out the reason why he doesn't want to see you anymore. Tell him that someone who sees you as a really good friend doesn't suddenly cut you out of their life. If he doesn't adequately reply, then you conclude that he is in fact a douchebag to be shunned, and you should not waste any more time over him as obviously nothing will happen.

You get your self esteem back by focusing on your positive attributes, and realizing that there was no reason for your self esteem to fall in the first place here.

Thank you that is good advice

[Rationalist1]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Basically there was a guy I thought I really liked and we got along so well but for some reason he doesn't want to see me anymore or talk to me despite him sying he sees me as a really good friend... I need to move on I know. The truth is there was no sexual/romantic chemistry with him anyway so I knew deep down it couldn't have gone anywhere. I liked him so much as a person and really enjoyed spending time with him and knowing we don't talk anymore when we used to talk to him everyday without getting any closure makes me feel so empty inside. I am worried I am becoming obsessed because things he said to me run through my head everyday and it distracts me from my life. I feel so worthless and rubbish about myself I don't even know whether the only reason I am upset is because this rejection by him has just given me lower self esteem rather than actually missing him.

How do you stop obsessing over someone and get your self esteem back? :s

My immature opinion is too have a one night stand with someone lol

My mature opinion is, you can't get over someone you had a connection with that easily. You opened yourself up and he rejected you. Its going to be a while till you can stop obsessing over him. Am sure one day, you will get over it. In the mean time, do things that will keep you occupied that will help you think less about him. Meet new people, when you go out with friends SOCIALISE! Who knows, you might meet a new person that has a connection with you.