[manchester1992]

So in the last week I feel like my life has been up turned upside down. Over 7 days my mum has gone from being completely fine and normal to being diagnosed with serious brain cancer. We are meeting with the consultant tomorrow to discuss any possible treatment options.

Honestly, this week has been so damned tough I cant stand the fact that she seems completely normal to talk to, and I feel like she has been given a death sentence. Its been so tough on my whole family, ive never seen my dad cry before, and i've found it so heart breaking.

Reading other posts and forums online, it seems quite common for people with brain tumours to mentally decline as time progresses. As terrible as this sounds, i can nearly come to terms with her passing, but the thought of her loosing function of her body and thoughts, after being such a strong woman makes me breakdown in tears.

While i know i need to concentrate on the positives, its just so damned hard

Im due to return to manchester for uni in September, and I have no idea what I am to do!

If anyone has been in a similar situation it would be good to hear from you

Thanks

[Coffeegirl]

omgosh I am so sorry to hear that. aww that must be awful. I wish I could give you a hug

My cousin has a brain tumour and he is like in his late 30s. He is surviving with lots of treatments but sometimes its really hard to see him struggle through the pain of treatment. I can only feel a fraction of what you are going through. stay strong and everything will be alright. promise xxxx

Oh and recently a close member of the family passed away due to cancer. It was horrible because he was like a dad to me. Still can't believe his not here.

I HATE CANCER - IT TAKES AWAY SO MANY PEOPLE WE LOVE

I don't get why I am getting down repped for this

[theonefrombrum]

I've known people I love suffer with cancer and while it wasn't brain cancer, it was a horrible time and it wasn't my mom.

All I can say is that I hope she gets better and I'll be thinking of you man.

[ianrushii]

Hope she gets better. God speed

[Above.The.Empyrean]

IF YOU EVER NEED HELP.

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No matter what it is, I'll try to support you emotionally if there's no-one around. It's strenuous enough studying at University, but with a member of the kin being diagnosed with an unfortunate disease it's even more dissatisfying.


I'll do my best to reply, whenever you need help. Remember you're not alone, and keep strong.

[Venom123]

Sorry to hear that man, all I can recommend is praying for her daily. You can never underestimate the power of what God can do. I wish her all the best.

[gagaslilmonsteruk]

I don't actually know what to say here except I'm very sorry to hear that. Might sound easier said than done, but memories whether they be photographs, videos of family holidays etc should be able to help some of the sadness as they will remind you of happier times.

[FilmNerd1989]

I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling right now, but I hope that things go as smoothly as they possible can for you and your poor mum and the rest of your family. It's going to be a lot to take in, but you'll work out what to do to be the best option for you, at this time, and if it's not feasible to go back in September you can always defer going back for a bit?

I hope she gets better, and that you and the family cope until she does. My thoughts are with you.

[Dragonfly07]

My younger brother had the very rare brain cancer medulla blastoma. He had a 20% chance to survive and he was operated on in great ormond street hospital. He's absolutely fine now except for the damage the tumour has done directly (pressure building up behind eyes from cerebrospinal fluid caused him to be blind and he has balance problems because the tumour was at the back of the brain, where the balance centre is located).

Overall though he's pretty happy.

My advice: stay positive if anything just for your mum. It can lift her mood a lot just to see you in a good mood and it makes a huge difference.

[manchester1992]

Thank you everyone for the support, I really do appreciate it.

It seems like cancer touches most people lives at some point. I suppose I just never believed it could happen to anyone I care about.

[theepw]

(Original post by manchester1992)
So in the last week I feel like my life has been up turned upside down. Over 7 days my mum has gone from being completely fine and normal to being diagnosed with serious brain cancer. We are meeting with the consultant tomorrow to discuss any possible treatment options.

Honestly, this week has been so damned tough I cant stand the fact that she seems completely normal to talk to, and I feel like she has been given a death sentence. Its been so tough on my whole family, ive never seen my dad cry before, and i've found it so heart breaking.

Reading other posts and forums online, it seems quite common for people with brain tumours to mentally decline as time progresses. As terrible as this sounds, i can nearly come to terms with her passing, but the thought of her loosing function of her body and thoughts, after being such a strong woman makes me breakdown in tears.

While i know i need to concentrate on the positives, its just so damned hard

Im due to return to manchester for uni in September, and I have no idea what I am to do!

If anyone has been in a similar situation it would be good to hear from you

Thanks

I can't imagine what you must be going through.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I hope things get better I really do.
I'm always here to listen if you want to PM someone.

[Goody2Shoes-x]

I'm so sorry to heear this - I can't imagine what you must be going through.

Is there a counsellor at uni, or someone professional you can talk to? Maybe let the uni know when you return, so they can give you a bit of leeway when it comes to certain subjects or something?

I hope things get better for you and your family, I really really do, and seriously, if you want to talk at any time, no matter how stupid you may feel or how trivial the problems seems, PM me.

[lilahnurave]

My dad was diagnosed with liver cancer last year, something like 90% of people die within 6 months, the rest within a year. So I went through what you're feeling, thinking I wish he had just died rather than have to endure treatment and deteriorate, knowing what was happening. Well he's just finished his last lot of chemo and had a clear heart scan, he's out doing the garden and is back to work. He's in remission basically. The impossible happened, he never even considered the fact he wouldnt get better. Dont give up hope. Statistics and prognosis's can be misleading. Here if you need someone to talk to x

(Original post by manchester1992)
So in the last week I feel like my life has been up turned upside down. Over 7 days my mum has gone from being completely fine and normal to being diagnosed with serious brain cancer. We are meeting with the consultant tomorrow to discuss any possible treatment options.

Honestly, this week has been so damned tough I cant stand the fact that she seems completely normal to talk to, and I feel like she has been given a death sentence. Its been so tough on my whole family, ive never seen my dad cry before, and i've found it so heart breaking.

Reading other posts and forums online, it seems quite common for people with brain tumours to mentally decline as time progresses. As terrible as this sounds, i can nearly come to terms with her passing, but the thought of her loosing function of her body and thoughts, after being such a strong woman makes me breakdown in tears.

While i know i need to concentrate on the positives, its just so damned hard

Im due to return to manchester for uni in September, and I have no idea what I am to do!

If anyone has been in a similar situation it would be good to hear from you

Thanks

[manchester1992]

Thanks again.

To be honest, the last few days have been such a whirlwind I haven't given uni any decent thought yet. Yeah, I hope they are understanding with the situation. Think its going to be a tough call to decide weather to return this year, or not Suppose all I can do is see how the coming months progress

[manchester1992]

Thanks for posting lilahnurave, thats really the kind of story I need to hear!

[Chillywilly93]

really hope she gets better <3

[Pn94]

Hope she gets better mate. Stay as strong you can.

[liftorrot]

Stay strong my friend.

[JammyChoos]

My Dad died from cancer, so I understand what you're going through...
I can't tell you it's going to get better cos it won't, nor will that pain ever go away.
But you WILL be able to learn to cope with it.
No matter how hard the hell that you're going through feels, it's a million times worse for your mum.
Push it to back of your mind. Everytime the thought flashes through your mind, cast it aside.
You need to do this in order to stay strong for your mum.
You need to be her rock. Just listen to her and keep life as normal as possible for her. Try to keep her positive a much as possible.. Try not to break down in front of her or she'll feel bad.
OP, im so sorry for your situation.
PM me anytime if you wanna talk.

[At peace]

(Original post by manchester1992)
Thank you everyone for the support, I really do appreciate it.

It seems like cancer touches most people lives at some point. I suppose I just never believed it could happen to anyone I care about.

*hugs* It must be so hard for you. Be strong just like you mom. It'll get better. My aunty was diagnosed with breast cancer and she's doing fine now.

If you ever feel like talking. You can always PM me.

(Original post by JammyChoos)
My Dad died from cancer, so I understand what you're going through...

It must be like the toughest thing I'm so sorry.

I can't tell you it's going to get better cos it won't, nor will that pain ever go away.
But you WILL be able to learn to cope with it.

Every case is different just like every human is.