[Carter78]

(Original post by zuqqer)
Okay, I am posting this on the Religion forums. I am a Christian, do not tell me not to read the bible. You are not being helpful to this discussion, I wanted a Christian view and I've made that clear. The Bible has helped me through a lot of difficult situations and I hope this will be another.

Sure, I was giving you life advice, not theological advice. Many books help us in difficult times, for me Kurt Vonnegut or Jack Kerouac do the trick. But you're going through an important time of your life where your past experiences, advice from friends, hopes and fears will all lead to a decision. I don't think the Bible will help you, in fact it might do the opposite.

Trying to apply an ancient text to a modern day social setting complicates the issue rather than solves it. As far as I know the Bible cannot be considered a source of dating advice. Jesus never gave advice on how to cope with feelings of love/lust for a married man, the teachings of Christ specifically forbade the idea of adultery or lust.

But that doesn't solve the issue does it? A bible passage will not remove your feeling of guilt, because if i did so you wouldn't be here asking for advice. I'm sure you've read your bible back to front many times and yet it hasn't given you the solution yet has it?

I don't mean to be negative, what I mean to be is constructive. I'm not pussy footing around the issue, I'm trying to give you advice that will help your cause not hinder it.

[h-g-1]

(Original post by Carter78)
But that doesn't solve the issue does it? A bible passage will not remove your feeling of guilt, because if i did so you wouldn't be here asking for advice. I'm sure you've read your bible back to front many times and yet it hasn't given you the solution yet has it?

I don't mean to be negative, what I mean to be is constructive. I'm not pussy footing around the issue, I'm trying to give you advice that will help your cause not hinder it.

1. In these kinds of situations, no book or text is going to help resolve any feelings of guilt regardless of whether it's the Bible or a wacky self-help book. Books don't give you solutions to life - if they did, no one would have any problems.

2. You strike me as the kind of individual that wouldn't like it so much if OP was trying to tell you that if you had a problem, the Bible would solve everything. Therefore, why have you taken upon yourself to specifically on a thread where the OP says she only wants Christian advice to tell her she's getting no where with the Bible. That's not constructive.

3. Everyone finds comfort and solutions in different places. OP - I hope you get the Christian solution you so desperately seek and should you ever want a non-Christian perspective, I'm sure the poster above will gladly help.

In the meantime...

[Mohamad_Muslim]

(Original post by Okashira)
Remember, there are more fish in the sea.

Also, remember the number one relationship in your life is with the Father through Jesus. No other relationship can compare. When we get to Heaven, no one is going to be married because we simply won't need to be. These bodies we have now are weak, and so we marry to help fill those desires we have. Yet this time is passing away and we will receive new, stronger bodies to match our born again spirit.

All in all, God has someone for you in this age. Someone who is 10 times better suited as a husband than this worship leader! Don't even worry about it, but continue to do exploits for the kingdom of God.

I'd rather go to God directly.

Sorry, just felt inclined to say that.

I know I am not Christian but I wanted to give my own advice.


1. The devil seeks to misguide you it is natural to lust but Allah/God is forgiving and merciful and does not bear a soul more than it can handle.

2. The more you resist the more reward God has for you, what your doing now is called struggling in the cause of God, or Jihad.

3. don't blame anyone for this feeling except the Devil and use that to Strengthen you against all that he dishes out.

4. Pray to God, that you find someone else who will be Good to you and honest and loving and will share your piety, because God answers all prayers, even those not made to him..

Peace, from your brothers/sisters in the Religion of Islam.

[Mohamad_Muslim]

(Original post by zuqqer)
Okay, I am posting this on the Religion forums. I am a Christian, do not tell me not to read the bible. You are not being helpful to this discussion, I wanted a Christian view and I've made that clear. The Bible has helped me through a lot of difficult situations and I hope this will be another.

one more thing.

Don't listen to anyone else about his wife being unhappy or w.e

Plotting/thinking such things will only lead you down a blasphemous path you probably already know this but just in case you didn't.

[gltw]

(Original post by zuqqer)
He won't leave my mind, I've prayed and prayed for me to feel differently but he's still there and it hurts so much because he's not mine and will never be mine because he's married and marriage is for life. Am I selfish for having these thoughts? I'm trying so hard to get over him but I just can't.

At difficult times like this you must be obedient to God seeking an answer to him. Remember He alone will grant you true repentance. You must pray that your desires may be turned to Him alone, for the work of our Lord Jesus Christ who has set all those who dwell in him free from the guilt and power of sin. Remember Jesus Christ accomplished everything on the cross that you might be free from all your sin. Satan will always be there ready to tempt you but use the Word of God against him. find specific passages of scripture suited to your situation and use them against him. For the Word of God has power. It is living.

Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.


1 John 3:1-9 See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. (2) Beloved, we are God's children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is. (3) And everyone who thus hopes in him purifies himself as he is pure. (4) Everyone who makes a practice of sinning also practices lawlessness; sin is lawlessness. (5) You know that he appeared to take away sins, and in him there is no sin. (6) No one who abides in him keeps on sinning; no one who keeps on sinning has either seen him or known him. (7) Little children, let no one deceive you. Whoever practices righteousness is righteous, as he is righteous. (8) Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil, for the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the works of the devil. (9) No one born of God makes a practice of sinning, for God's seed abides in him, and he cannot keep on sinning because he has been born of God.

God bless.

[pokemons]

(Original post by zuqqer)
In Christianity (minus a couple of denominations) Jesus is God- the trinity- God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are one.
But thank you for your kind words. x

The Bible never refers to any trinity

[Cephalus]

(Original post by pokemons)
The Bible never refers to any trinity

No it doesn't but that concept is implied through the Old and New Testament.