[Anonymous]

The other day I had an argument with my stepdad, and although I wasn't entirely faultless, I rang my Mum about it because I hate the way he treats me sometimes and overreacts to small little things. My Mum confronted him about it, so he told me he'd never speak to me again. I know that maybe I overreacted by calling my Mum but still he didn't exactly need to respond like that! Anyway, we fight quite often recently and usually its sorted out within a few hours or the next day. But I saw my step-grandparents today and they commented about it, meaning that he's obviously made a huge thing out of this whole scenario, as he certainly wouldn't usually mention anything to them. Then I'm waiting at home for my parents to finish work, they're normally home by 5, although sometimes half 5. It gets to seven o'clock and theres no word. I'm starting to get really worried. I ring my Mum, and she answers and they're in the pub with some really good friends of ours. This is really odd behaviour for my Mum, who'd always ring to ask for me to come with them, especially as they were planning to be staying several hours. Whats really odd is that they didn't even call to say they'd be in later or anything. They don't get in until several hours later. My Mum suggests to me "why didn't I walk over?" not considering that it would have taken 30 mins in the pouring rain, and she didn't even say i was invited (in fact she said she'd be home in 10 minutes...but was in fact home 2 hours later). I decide not to argue about this, because i know i'd just make the whole situation worse, so I stay in my room and pretend I'm ill, so they won't bother me. Some time later my Aunty rings and I can't find my Mum, so I hand the phone to my stepdad who just glares at me and snatches it out of my hand! This really upsets me, because I didn't do anything to deserve that. He then makes it worse by standing outside my room and telling my Aunty about how much of a great time they had at the pub.

I feel so alone. I'm hundreds of miles away from my friends, and all I have here is my family...and now it seems that I don't even have that. I'm so upset, and I don't know what to do.

[thetopnotch]

It does sound like he's being childish. At the moment it doesn't sound like there's much you can do apart from letting it blow over.

Although you could also try making peace by having a normal conversation with him. Depending on what the argument was about though he may be feeling slightly humiliated by the fact that you told your mum. Even though you may not feel like doing it, apologising for playing your part in the argument could help things blow over quicker.

[:)ella]

He's definitely being childish, but sometimes step-parents feel that their step-children hate them and you maybe need to reassure him that it was just an argument and you'd like to make up.

I know how annoying it can be to apologise when it's not your fault but if it helps things go back to normal then it's maybe worth it.

And I often have similar situations at home and it looks like my mum's taking my dad's side and it turns out later she's been sticking up for me in private but just not in front of me so don't let her behaviour get to you too much.

[jamboogy]

What was the argument about? Perhaps you really pulled his heart strings with something small that you said.

[Iqbal007]

(Original post by Anonymous)
The other day I had an argument with my stepdad, and although I wasn't entirely faultless, I rang my Mum about it because I hate the way he treats me sometimes and overreacts to small little things. My Mum confronted him about it, so he told me he'd never speak to me again. I know that maybe I overreacted by calling my Mum but still he didn't exactly need to respond like that! Anyway, we fight quite often recently and usually its sorted out within a few hours or the next day. But I saw my step-grandparents today and they commented about it, meaning that he's obviously made a huge thing out of this whole scenario, as he certainly wouldn't usually mention anything to them. Then I'm waiting at home for my parents to finish work, they're normally home by 5, although sometimes half 5. It gets to seven o'clock and theres no word. I'm starting to get really worried. I ring my Mum, and she answers and they're in the pub with some really good friends of ours. This is really odd behaviour for my Mum, who'd always ring to ask for me to come with them, especially as they were planning to be staying several hours. Whats really odd is that they didn't even call to say they'd be in later or anything. They don't get in until several hours later. My Mum suggests to me "why didn't I walk over?" not considering that it would have taken 30 mins in the pouring rain, and she didn't even say i was invited (in fact she said she'd be home in 10 minutes...but was in fact home 2 hours later). I decide not to argue about this, because i know i'd just make the whole situation worse, so I stay in my room and pretend I'm ill, so they won't bother me. Some time later my Aunty rings and I can't find my Mum, so I hand the phone to my stepdad who just glares at me and snatches it out of my hand! This really upsets me, because I didn't do anything to deserve that. He then makes it worse by standing outside my room and telling my Aunty about how much of a great time they had at the pub.

I feel so alone. I'm hundreds of miles away from my friends, and all I have here is my family...and now it seems that I don't even have that. I'm so upset, and I don't know what to do.

Make some friends in the local area or try to meet up with your current friends, don't allow their fun to upset, have fun and forget about them.
It is an upsetting issue, all you can do is try to forget about it and find comfort