How to not get upset when your cousins abroad are leaving you?
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How to not get upset when your cousins abroad are leaving you?Hi,
My cousins are going to leave at the end of this month. They have been here for a month already.
However, I am upset and keep worrying. I keep counting down the days and to be fair, I don't really know why. I don't want to be doing this everyday before they go.
BTW, I always do this when I go on holiday abroad.
Because, we are meant to get upset on the day they leave, not a month before.
What should I do? Do you think it is the added pressure of A-Level results day too?
Please I really need some help.
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Re: How to not get upset when your cousins abroad are leaving you?Be aware of what you're doing, and when you catch yourself counting, stop. Set yourself a mini challenge of not counting for 2 days, not thinking about it for 2 days, and then let yourself think about it for as long as you want as a reward. Sometimes denying ourselves something is the thing that keeps us obsessing over it.
Make plans for the future with them, at least then you're not thinking "2 days until I don't know when I'll see them next, my life is **** from hereon out", but "2 days to make the most of them, then it's just 6 months until I see them next, the time will go by so quickly!"
Easier said than done but do your best. Keep yourself busy. if you find youself think about this all at night, not being able to sleep, put on a movie on your laptop untl you fall asleep. keep your brain occupied. read a book, etc!
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- Anonymous poster #1
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Re: How to not get upset when your cousins abroad are leaving you?They have left the country today(Original post by 1183572557)
Be aware of what you're doing, and when you catch yourself counting, stop. Set yourself a mini challenge of not counting for 2 days, not thinking about it for 2 days, and then let yourself think about it for as long as you want as a reward. Sometimes denying ourselves something is the thing that keeps us obsessing over it.
Make plans for the future with them, at least then you're not thinking "2 days until I don't know when I'll see them next, my life is **** from hereon out", but "2 days to make the most of them, then it's just 6 months until I see them next, the time will go by so quickly!"
Easier said than done but do your best. Keep yourself busy. if you find youself think about this all at night, not being able to sleep, put on a movie on your laptop untl you fall asleep. keep your brain occupied. read a book, etc!
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Starting to feel down already
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- Anonymous poster #1
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Re: How to not get upset when your cousins abroad are leaving you?Thats true.
I didnt cry at the airport or was very calm about the situation. The usual started happening. Aunties burst in tears, cousins give handshakes and try and hide tears. However, as soon as I get home I'm starting to kinda miss them. Dunno what to do. I have one canadian cousin with me who is staying an extra month. But he says hes busy and will be going to stay at his relatives house some time soon. -
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Re: How to not get upset when your cousins abroad are leaving you?It is hard, it's great that you all are so close though. For now I'd say try to keep busy, with friends, movies, etc, anything to keep your mind occupied until you feel a bit better, with ways of keeping touch like skype, msn, gmail chat etc, it's so easy to stay in close contact, even texting internationally isn't that expensive any more...
