[snowman77]

You would never in a million years be able to guess this is why I am socialising.

(Original post by shaybethxo)
THIS. except when...

[LaurenPhilippa]

(Original post by snowman77)
I must socialise a bit to find sexual relationships.

Have you ever thought that the reason you ain't getting any is not because of your shyness, but because you just want sex?

With all due respect...99% of girls don't mind shyness...they just don't want a guy looking solely for "sexual relationships". Good luck finding the 1% that are looking for just that, most prefer at least a bit of commitment. D;

If you're not exaggerating...ahem, you may want to seriously consider paying for it, probs your best bet tbh.

[shaybethxo]

(Original post by snowman77)
You would never in a million years be able to guess this is why I am socialising.

it's sortof not the point. okay you don't make it clear that's all you want, so instead you trick people into getting to know you so you can get in their pants?
maybe i'm wrong here but that's what it seems like you're trying to say.

[OG-Ashley]

I used to be really shy in like year 8 and 9, girls came up to me and used to flirt but I didn't know what to do/say. One asked me out and I said no immediately without thinking because I froze. She was fit aswell !

[snowman77]

You would never be able to guess I want sex. With all due respect every girl I have met does mind quietness. I detest talking. They notice this within a few minutes of being around me. All I get is weird stares or girls not striking any conversation with me. If a boy realises I am quiet they love to talk to me. They see it as a challenge to get me to talk more. A girl won't try. They want a boy to talk to them and be the leader.

(Original post by LaurenPhilippa)
Have you ever thought that the reason you ain't getting any is not because of your shyness, but because you just want sex?

With all due respect...99% of girls don't mind shyness...they just don't want a guy looking solely for "sexual relationships". Good luck finding the 1% that are looking for just that, most prefer at least a bit of commitment. D;

If you're not exaggerating...ahem, you may want to seriously consider paying for it, probs your best bet tbh.

[snowman77]

I have never had sex. I have never come close to the chance for sex. I have never made any sexual advancements on girls in my entire life. I have never hinted at making sexual advancements on girls in my entire life. I told you I am quiet. What is your point?;P

(Original post by shaybethxo)
it's sortof not the point. okay you don't make it clear that's all you want, so instead you trick people into getting to know you so you can get in their pants?
maybe i'm wrong here but that's what it seems like you're trying to say.

[metalthrashin'mad]

I like socialising, but I find it daunting with people I don't know, and find it difficult to get on with people even though I have (what I think are) normal interests: drinking, tv, music (ok, I listen to different sorts of music to most people), videogames and what have you. I guess I just can't stand things like clubbing and modern music, and at parties you seem to HAVE to at least like the latter.

But yes, girls never take an interest in you if you're quite. Being **** ugly doesn't help I expect. If I was good looking and quiet, I imagine things might go a bit better.

[Podcaster]

(Original post by _Shmiley)
I find shy guys plain girls interesting. I mean if you talk to me more than you talk to others then look good without makeup and revealing clothes I think that's really sweet and nice that you can open up to me I think that it's really hot that you can still grab my attention over all those made up girls and it just melts me :P

Hypocritical lies from both sides of the fence.

[Artymess]

Got to admit, I'm very quiet and introverted. Never had a problem with girls though. They treat me like anyone treats somebody who isn't much good at socialising

Perhaps your problem stems from obsessing over sexual interaction, or knowing that you want all your socialising to result in sex. Try just being a nice, honest guy

[shaybethxo]

(Original post by snowman77)
I have never had sex. I have never come close to the chance for sex. I have never made any sexual advancements on girls in my entire life. I have never hinted at making sexual advancements on girls in my entire life. I told you I am quiet. What is your point?;P

my point is you said your only motivation for socialising with people is so that you can have sex...
whether you are quiet or not, or a virgin or not, that is what you said. a little friendly advice since i'm not into arguing on forums: if you want to genuinely sort out your social life, join some groups or go out more and confidence should come with it. if you only want sex, pretty much the only way you will get it is paying for it. no self respecting (sober) girl will sleep with someone they can't have a conversation with.

[Carrby]

(Original post by snowman77)
I am hardly a sexual predator! :P I give off the opposite impression. Deep down I yearn to have sex. I display the opposite on my exterior! ;P

People aren't stupid, if that's truly all you want from them, they can tell. Maybe boys talk to you because you're not giving off the impression that you want the contents of their trousers.

If you're only giving off the impression that you either (a) want them in bed, or (b) that you hate talking to them, then of course they won't want to talk to you! That's simple social skills D:

[HighwayUnicorn]

(Original post by snowman77)
How would they know they liked him if he never talks? ;P

Actually they just tend to admire their lover from afar than

[dinrah04]

Well yeah I guess but I don't really make an effort with girls lol

[LaurenPhilippa]

(Original post by snowman77)
With all due respect every girl I have met does mind quietness.

Ah fair enough. I can't speak for all girls.

The best thing I can say, is that, due to the fact there are almost 7 billion people in the world, you just haven't met the right girl yet. Don't give up.

[snowman77]

Finally someone with my experiences!

(Original post by metalthrashin'mad)
I like socialising, but I find it daunting with people I don't know, and find it difficult to get on with people even though I have (what I think are) normal interests: drinking, tv, music (ok, I listen to different sorts of music to most people), videogames and what have you. I guess I just can't stand things like clubbing and modern music, and at parties you seem to HAVE to at least like the latter.

But yes, girls never take an interest in you if you're quite. Being **** ugly doesn't help I expect. If I was good looking and quiet, I imagine things might go a bit better.

[metalthrashin'mad]

(Original post by snowman77)
Finally someone with my experiences!

Thing is around people I know well, I can be loud and normal and whatever, but by that time your friends, and friends means FRIENDZONED.

[snowman77]

I didn't make this thread to ask to improve. I asked shy and quiet boys if they have the same experiences as me.

(Original post by Carrby)
People aren't stupid, if that's truly all you want from them, they can tell. Maybe boys talk to you because you're not giving off the impression that you want the contents of their trousers.

If you're only giving off the impression that you either (a) want them in bed, or (b) that you hate talking to them, then of course they won't want to talk to you! That's simple social skills D:

[snowman77]

Around friends I am quiet. A tad louder but not by much. I say friends but I wouldn't say I have any friends. ;(

(Original post by metalthrashin'mad)
Thing is around people I know well, I can be loud and normal and whatever, but by that time your friends, and friends means FRIENDZONED.

[daniellelouise]

I think you'll find all girls are different...
Some girls like quiet guys some dont.
Stop obsessing.

[metalthrashin'mad]

(Original post by snowman77)
Around friends I am quiet. A tad louder but not by much. I say friends but I wouldn't say I have any friends. ;(

I don't really back home. When I started my job, about 2 weeks in we had a work outing to bowling, but because I didn't really know anyone I just decided not to go.

Can't wait to go back to uni, although I'm not sure if the friendships I'm pretty sure I ruined there can be salvaged or not. Hopefully water under the bridge.