[metalthrashin'mad]

(Original post by snowman77)
If it were me I would salvage those friendships particularly if they go out a lot which would mean more contact with girls and greater chance for relationships. ;P Do you have a girl friend?

nope never have done.

[Ice Constricter]

Tbh I think its about the type of girls you interact with. A lot of girls don't like initiating everything so if you're quiet or shy you'll struggle. And especially if these girls normally hang around with social outgoing guys they wouldn't be used to guys like you. This is like the waiting effect, in that both you and the girl wait for the other to initiate conversation and ends up with no-one saying anything.

Good looks wouldn't go amiss here either as she'd be more likely to initiate.

[Rainbow Stalin]

You may just be fugly

[snowman77]

Of course I am horny! Everyone is horny! ;P I don't show it. If you went for going on 22 years with no kiss let alone sex you would be horny.

(Original post by thecrimsonidol)
Well someone's horny.

[snowman77]

I have interacted with a lot of types. They all do the same. They don't initiate anything once they sense you are shy. They give you weird vibes like they think you are a weird freak. ;(

(Original post by Ice Constricter)
Tbh I think its about the type of girls you interact with. A lot of girls don't like initiating everything so if you're quiet or shy you'll struggle. And especially if these girls normally hang around with social outgoing guys they wouldn't be used to guys like you. This is like the waiting effect, in that both you and the girl wait for the other to initiate conversation and ends up with no-one saying anything.

Good looks wouldn't go amiss here either as she'd be more likely to initiate.

[PurpleEyes]

(Original post by snowman77)
Of course I am horny! Everyone is horny! ;P I don't show it. If you went for going on 22 years with no kiss let alone sex you would be horny.

Seriously though, you'll find someone. Don't let it stop you having fun in a non-sexual way.

[LaurenPhilippa]

(Original post by snowman77)
Of course I am horny! Everyone is horny! ;P I don't show it. If you went for going on 22 years with no kiss let alone sex you would be horny.

Aha, did you not hear the story of the 107 year old who was (apparently) a virgin?

Nah, in all seriousness...don't worry about it. Just enjoy life, and you'll find someone.

[snowman77]

I enjoy time alone. This will lead to a life of foreveralone unless I socialise. I detest socialising with a passion. Do you see the vicious circle? ;(

(Original post by PurpleEyes)


Seriously though, you'll find someone. Don't let it stop you having fun in a non-sexual way.

[PurpleEyes]

(Original post by snowman77)
I enjoy time alone. This will lead to a life of foreveralone unless I socialise. I detest socialising with a passion. Do you see the vicious circle? ;(

I do, and I sympathise. It must be really difficult feeling so lonely. But there are literally billions of other people exactly like you who are natural introverts. Have you ever thought of meeting people online? Most introverts find it a lot easier typing than talking. (I should know...). You WILL find someone! No-one is meant to be alone.

[spiral87]

(Original post by snowman77)
I enjoy time alone. This will lead to a life of foreveralone unless I socialise. I detest socialising with a passion. Do you see the vicious circle? ;(

Do you think you'd enjoy being around other people if you were 'good' at socialising? You know, like the pressure to be sociable, to talk, to make conversation is hard for you and that's why you dislike it, not because you hate other humans?

[Arekkusu]

It probably does come across that you're only after sex, no matter how polite you are. It's fairly easy to figure out when someone fancies you.

[Ice Constricter]

(Original post by snowman77)
I have interacted with a lot of types. They all do the same. They don't initiate anything once they sense you are shy. They give you weird vibes like they think you are a weird freak. ;(

You have to make the change then not them.

[hash007]

Being quiet does not mean you're shy, I work in a high pressure environment where I have to deal with the public almost constantly. The times when I'm not with a customer I prefer to simply be quiet and think to myself, my co workers say i'm quiet but thats just because I have no interest in talking to them. If I find someone interesting, or if I have something to say I'll say it...I'm not quiet because i'm scared to say it.

[Ice Constricter]

(Original post by Arekkusu)
It probably does come across that you're only after sex, no matter how polite you are. It's fairly easy to figure out when someone fancies you.

He fancies every girl he talks to?

[A.J10]

(Original post by Rarrgh)
People who try to involve me in stuff after learning that i'm shy vary but it rarely ever depends on whether they are female or male. I've had guys say that there's nothing wrong with being quiet and it's a nice change from some of the normal crowd you can get, yet females try and get me get involved and be a lot more open etc, and vice versa.

If you're actually shy people trying to get you involved often makes things worse I'm pretty shy, and I do the social equivalent of lurking a bit before I say much, put me in the spotlight all of a sudden and I have no idea what to do, you've startled me into silence on top of my usual awkwardness and now I'm even more shy because I just made myself look stupid...

I don't mind if people just try and include me a bit, but when all of a sudden you put me at the focus of everyones attention with an open ended question, well I'm just going to look embarrassed...

[A.J10]

(Original post by OG-Ashley)
I used to be really shy in like year 8 and 9, girls came up to me and used to flirt but I didn't know what to do/say. One asked me out and I said no immediately without thinking because I froze. She was fit aswell !

This happened to me, the one time a girl asked me out I was far too shocked to do anything than freeze and go blank for a minute before saying no, because saying anything was better than standing there looking like a magikarp.