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Re: Shy guys...1. I'm not black(Original post by Podcaster)
urgh. You are easily the most obnoxious person on this site. Every day you are doing the "ultra confident black guy" caricature. Give it a rest, real confident people don't spend all day on an internet chatroom bleating on about how confident they are with the ladies.
As for your irritating claims that all quiet people are just shy I could just as equally say all loud people (i.e yourself) are just attention seekers and they don't want to CONTEMPLATE putting themselves in a situation which would make them feel uncomfortable i.e not being noticed by anyone. and fyi president Calvin Coolidge was famous for being extremely quiet. He certainly was not shy (scared of people) as he regularly gave speeches, attended dinners, had a wife, and managed to run for godammned president (there is no more public in the spotlight job than that)
2. I'm confident, not ultra confident
3. I never claimed to all quiet people are shy, and if I did, quote me? You'll be looking for a while because I never said that.
"Don't want to contemplate putting themselves in a situation which would make them feel uncomfortable" - The reason I'm confident is because of the exact opposite of this.
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Re: Shy guys...Mixed race whatever.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
1. I'm not black
I have hardly ever seen you make a post that wasn't about 'how good you are with girls'(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
2. I'm confident, not ultra confident
Don't lie this whole thread was designed to get under the skin of quiet people here on TSR by accusing most of them of simply being shy.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
3. I never claimed to all quiet people are shy, and if I did, quote me? You'll be looking for a while because I never said that.
Because you need to be told. I've been on this site only a couple weeks and already I've had enough of you.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
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Re: Shy guys...This. Although if you never try you never know but for some it can really hurt them emotionally getting your heart broken. The key is seeing rejection as just a learning curve & step towards success but it's not easy to all. Also if a guy gets rejected loads of times it's obviously gona make him less appealing to a girl than someone of similar characteristics who's never asked anyone out at all but you at least have to try & risk embarrassment I guess (although ironically I'm a shy guy myself that spends most of my time indoors(Original post by bmqib)
but the thing is rejection is embarrassing, people don't want to be labelled as losers. also it decreases how attractive you are to other girls
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Re: Shy guys...I've made loads of posts on this site, ranging from the Fitness section, to the employment section. I don't claim to be good with girls, I know I am. However I have never stated this on the forum. The only reason why I think I'm good is because I see rejection as a motivating factor. Others see it as an obstacle...(Original post by Podcaster)
Mixed race whatever.
I have hardly ever seen you make a post that wasn't about 'how good you are with girls'
Don't lie this whole thread was designed to get under the skin of quiet people here on TSR by accusing most of them of simply being shy.
Because you need to be told. I've been on this site only a couple weeks and already I've had enough of you.
If you've ever seen an ugly dude get loads of girls it's because he's not scared of rejection... -
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Re: Shy guys...But that would only work out if every guy in the world had that mindset. Unfortunately most don't, and eventually another guy will ask that girl out, while you stand there feeling dejected lol.(Original post by effofex)
You don't. Let them do the asking. If they don't ask, they don't get. Simple. -
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Re: Shy guys...why?(Original post by T-Toe)
I'm more intrigued by a shy guy.
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Re: Shy guys...I'd like to know why too? Being confident doesn't mean you put your business out for everyone to know, doesn't mean we can be read easily either. So I'd like to hear you explanation.(Original post by T-Toe)
I'm more intrigued by a shy guy. -
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Re: Shy guys...I have a slightly off topic question
I feel like im 13 again saying this but
once a guy tells you he's interested and you tell them you're interested back, why do they all of a sudden STOP talking to the girl?
I thought it was just a one off but this has happened on more then 3 occasion, and I don't want to continuously text the guy because I don't want to come across as a stalker. Are they just shy or ?
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Re: Shy guys...Indeed.(Original post by effofex)
You don't. Let them do the asking. If they don't ask, they don't get. Simple. -
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Re: Shy guys...Scared is the wrong word. I don't want to put myself through something that I don't feel comfortable doing. If it's very likely that I won't succeed, I most likely won't be doing it.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
Why you so scared of rejection?
Everyone is different.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
Yes, some people are naturally quiet and prefer their own company. But on the contrary this simply could be because they're shy and don't even want to CONTEMPLATE putting themselves in a situation which would make them feel uncomfortable. What do you guys think?
I'm part of both camps. I much prefer my own company, but I'm also uncomfortable around other people. -
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Re: Shy guys..."It's very likely that I won't succeed" that's the WHOLE point, if you to get a girls number, be prepared to be told no by several before one says yes, it's life.(Original post by NathanW18)
Scared is the wrong word. I don't want to put myself through something that I don't feel comfortable doing. If it's very likely that I won't succeed, I most likely won't be doing it.
Everyone is different.
I'm part of both camps. I much prefer my own company, but I'm also uncomfortable around other people. -
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Re: Shy guys...I'm not willing to give them the chance to reject me any more.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
"It's very likely that I won't succeed" that's the WHOLE point, if you to get a girls number, be prepared to be told no by several before one says yes, it's life.
Had enough of it. -
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Re: Shy guys...err let me know how that works out for you(Original post by effofex)
You don't. Let them do the asking. If they don't ask, they don't get. Simple. -
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Re: Shy guys...Good luck in life then,(Original post by NathanW18)
I'm not willing to give them the chance to reject me any more.
Had enough of it.
I'd hate to be with a woman just by chance, kind of sucks. Oh we met at a reading club, sucks lmao -
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Re: Shy guys...I don't see why it matters where you meet them.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
Good luck in life then,
I'd hate to be with a woman just by chance, kind of sucks. Oh we met at a reading club, sucks lmao
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Re: Shy guys...Well it doesn't REALLY matter.
But you're restricting yourself....
If you're not approaching woman on the street, then 99% of the woman you meet is going to be from work/through friends.. or by random chance.... -
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Re: Shy guys...Yeah, I know.(Original post by TheCurlyHairedDude)
Well it doesn't REALLY matter.
But you're restricting yourself....
If you're not approaching woman on the street, then 99% of the woman you meet is going to be from work/through friends.. or by random chance....
I'm not really looking at meeting any women at the moment. Same bs every time and I'm tired of going through it. -
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Re: Shy guys...Wanna talk to me about it lol? (seriously?)(Original post by NathanW18)
Yeah, I know.
I'm not really looking at meeting any women at the moment. Same bs every time and I'm tired of going through it. -
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Re: Shy guys...Has this approach worked for you?(Original post by Profesh)
Indeed.
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