[Anonymous]

I met this guy through a friend 2 months ago. We clicked instantly.He had the month before came out of a two year relationship so he was still getting over her. In the month of June he phoned me everyday,several times a day and the calls could last hours. He stayed over at my house twice. We'd cuddle,spoon and just be very close but nothing happened as I didn't want to be a rebound so I wanted to make sure he was ready. At the start of July he went on holiday 3 hours away from where we live and met this girl. Since then he doesn't call my anywhere near as much and has stopped putting kisses at the end of his texts. I see him texting this girl every time I'm with him and giving her quite a few kisses in the text. However he's still really flirty with me and one of his bestfriends that has known him for years, as soon as last night, said that he was obvious he liked me. We haven't had a chance to be alone yet. Do I need to worry about this girl? She does live hours away so not likely he'll see her often. How do I get him more interested again?

[Anonymous]

Anyone got advice?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anyone got advice?

There is not always a solution to this BUT I know a guy like this, who probably has lost interest in me too, and I've just learnt that even though they may act all smiley, it's only because they don't want to hurt you. I'm NOT saying this is the case, but it most likely is the case. A guy can tell a friend he likes you, but cannot put a finger on why he does, although he can also, at the same time, act uninterested, it's just a guy thing.
I suggest that you let him take the lead on things for a while and if he doesn't he wasn't worth your what ifs. I have stopped talking to my "guy" for a while now (about a month) and he hasn't "taken the lead" per se so I've left it. However, if he takes the lead, he most likely LIKE LIKEs you and is willing to put himself out there but just don't do what us girls tend to do "hey are we ok?" "hey" "hi" he's not blind and can see your constant "nagging" lol.
Hope this helps

[Tizz]

I'd agree with the above. If you feel like you've made the effort but not really getting it back...then stop contact for a while and see if he initiates conversation. If he does, you should talk to him about the other girl and see what he wants.

[Anonymous]

I feel like at the start he was the one making the effort but maybe then thought I wasn't interested but I just didn't want to annoy him but now I feel like it's me making more of the effort so maybe he stopped cause he wanted me to make the effort. I'll just need to wait and see I suppose.

[Rock Fan]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel like at the start he was the one making the effort but maybe then thought I wasn't interested but I just didn't want to annoy him but now I feel like it's me making more of the effort so maybe he stopped cause he wanted me to make the effort. I'll just need to wait and see I suppose.

If you didn't tell him that you liked him then he is gonna lose interest and go off with other girls.