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Hi all, my name is Robert

So here's the thing, I am at 26 year old virgin male who feels like he is losing confidence every day. Theres two parts to my problem the virginity thing and the socialising aspect. I have told a few close friends about my virginity and they tell me the fact that I still am one is no big deal. Someone even said they respect a guy more for not going around trying to sleep with every girl possible.

The catch 22 situation for me is this: At the age of 26, I feel like Ive missed out on a lot. Perhaps Ive seen too many movies or in my mind, everyone else knows how to have a good time better than me (I spend most my days when not at work, sitting infront of my computer browsing the net, listening to music, or sitting outside in the garden). But yeah, I feel like I am missing out and feel like I want to get out more.

But then here's the thing, when Im out and about I feel uncomfortable. Not drastically so but I see all these people socialising etc and I realise its not for me. It doesnt feel like a lack of confidence thing as such, it more feels like Im getting nothing out of this and would just rather be at home.

At the place where I work, I am known to be quite social and chatty. Im one of the few people at the place where I work who knows nearly everyones names.

A few months ago I booked a holiday with my best mate to Great Yarmouth. We had been there before and liked it and decided to go again and stay longer. The thing is, when we got there, I was overwhelmed by a sense of lonelyness. At one point, I was doing that thing in the arcades where you punch this boxing bag thing and you get a score. Some guy saw me do it and (infront of the group he was with) started taking the piss. It annoyed me a bit but whatever.

So afterwards myself and my mate went to the beach. It was fairly deserted and the sun was beginning to set. I looked out to the sea and asked him the question "how can it be this lonely in paradise?". Got back to the hotel shortly afterwards and remember sitting in my bed thinking to myself 'I always think I spend far too much time infront of my computer, and that getting out is the answer and yet here I am, 100 miles from home, and feeling the loneliest Ive been in a while.

During that holiday I would be walking around the place, seeing groups of people, most notable guys with girlfriends, thinking to myself that people say Im a nice guy and yet I dont have a girlfriend. I was thankfull to be going home.

So there it is. I went to enjoy like and think that going out with friends and socialising is the way to go, but when I do it (go to the pub with a few guy friends) I dont particularly enjoy it nor feel like I am getting anything out of it. But then when I see friends and groups of people (particularly guys with girls) I realise what Im missing out on. But to get friends and girls in particular, you have to socialise and Im not fond of socialising.

[Idle]

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