[Anonymous]

For 2 weeks now my and my gf of nearly 2 years have broken up. We shared so many great moments together and we were thinking of a future together. Then out of the blue she says i don't think it's going to work out we should break up. This really cut me i texted her back and finally after a while she told me she broke up with me because there's another guy she likes. She said i should meet other girls and find a better gf. I was angry and really devastated and i sent her some angry and mean text messages back. I thought maybe she had cheated though she didn't say anything. After a lot of my pestering about who it was she mentioned some guy's name in our class. I approached that guy and asked him if he liked anyone and he said he's not interested in anyone. I've never actually seen her talk to him or have any conversations.

I later on asked her friends and they said they couldn't tell me the reason why but eventually one did. My gf was diagnosed with cancer with poor prognosis and she is having chemotherapy treatment and is pretty weak at the moment. They told me the doctors say she doesn't have good chance of survival. When she found this out she thought it would be best to break up with me so i could find someone better and she thought that if i hated her because of this i'd be less sad when something happened and i'd recover from it faster. They said she didn't want me to see her in that state when she deteriorates and she won't look like she does now. They said she only loves me and no one else and that she takes a photo of both of us to her treatments and also takes my leather jacket, i gifted to her once when it was a cold night, with her. I phoned her parents and they told me this and were surprised i didn't know. I told them not to tell her i know.


I'm feeling devastated about it all now and I feel guilty. I want to approach this in a sensitive way and i want her to know I will be there for her. I think she will keep pushing me away because she thinks i deserve better but i just want to be there for her and support her during this time.


What should I do? What would you do if you were in my situation but i hope that none of you ever are? How do i make up for the nasty words that i wrote?

[Bollo's Lovechild]

If this isn't you trolling (and it would have to be a pretty sick example), then do whatever you can to go and comfort her ASAP!

Life rarely gets more difficult to someone than when they are facing down death, so go and make her feel loved, stay with her every day if you can. And please do not be put off by her deteriorating condition. If you really love her, that won't matter in the slightest.

Best of luck to you and your girlfriend

[AlmostChicGeek]

Go and see her. If you genuinely don't care about her being I'll, and you want to be with her tell her. Go over to her house and talk it out with her, don't do it through text.

[TenOfThem]

Accept that this is not about you and that she has made a decision

Let her parents know the situation so that they can support her better ... they need to know exactly how she is coping

[Hannahfaith93]

Life is to short! Comfort her until the very end. You don't want it to be too late to the point your living in regret. You love her , she loves you just share these moments together it may be hard but right now she does need you. She may not show it but she does. all the best.


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[WelshBluebird]

1 - Comfort her. See if you can get her parents to talk to her etc.
2 - As a tip for other girls (or guys) - don't lie. Be honest. Especially if its a solid relationship that you have. I would much rather my girlfriend tell me the truth (regardless of what it was) than lie to me.

[sheepy18]

Buy a great big bunch of flowers band get over there! What are you waiting for? If time is limited, make her final days great!

[SillyMilly]

Stop thinking about you and her as a couple and just be there for her last thing she needs is to be worrying about a boyfriend jusst be as kind and respectful and comforting to her as you can