[ct2k7]

I'm splitting this off from something else - don't want to talk about short men and their social issues at all, but just this one thing.

Women, when stating dating preferences state that they want a tall man, but, some will go for a shorter guy providing a condition is met.

Does anyone think that this condition could cause some short men to overcompensate per se?

Why should a condition be applied in the first place?

Why should the guy have to compensate for a perceived inferiority in that women themselves are giving often opposite and misleading signals? Surely this just makes one feel worse about him/herself and just leads to more complications.

[g36c]

1 good outweighs a bad, its not complicated.

but short men dont compensate in good ways, if they feel inferior then they usually try and compensate by trying to act hard and try and put people down because they are insecure. lol

[Classical Liberal]

Just be the best version of yourself that you can be.


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[ct2k7]

(Original post by g36c)
1 good outweighs a bad, its not complicated.

but short men dont compensate in good ways, if they feel inferior then they usually try and compensate by trying to act hard and try and put people down because they are insecure. lol

Why do short men have to compensate at all? Mixed signals are being sent out - some telling them that they don't need to compensate, that it's ok to be short, yet, society has a consistent disdain in their masculinity - women see them as not being masculine. That is why they feel the need to become more masculine and more assertive / dominant. It probably isn't that much of insecurity at all.

(Original post by Classical Liberal)
Just be the best version of yourself that you can be.


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Generic advice there.

[Plushie]

I prefer short men, although my boyfriend is taller than me. At the end of the day your height is 1% of who you are, if this is something that puts a girl off then they truly aren't really worth it imo. You don't need to compensate for anything.

[scott202]

my reply is too short

[g36c]

(Original post by ct2k7)
Why do short men have to compensate at all? Mixed signals are being sent out - some telling them that they don't need to compensate, that it's ok to be short, yet, society has a consistent disdain in their masculinity - women see them as not being masculine. That is why they feel the need to become more masculine and more assertive / dominant. It probably isn't that much of insecurity at all.



Generic advice there.

no, THEY think they need to compensate. insecurity comes mostly from yourself

[ct2k7]

(Original post by g36c)
no, THEY think they need to compensate. insecurity comes mostly from yourself

They think they need to compensate based on social feedback, not insecurity. It is the social feedback which causes the insecurity which then causes the compensation.

[Dark Horse]

Lol @ people applying conditions with dating and relationships. Dating is supposed to be fun and you're supposed to get to know the person as they are, not give them a list of criteria and contractual guidelines, lmao.

[Peachtwist]

I don't think because a man is short he should have to "compensate" because of it.

Yes, I like taller men than myself - it's something I'm attracted to - but that doesn't mean I haven't dated shorter men.

Some women just prefer taller men and some prefer shorter. Just like some men prefer shorter women and some prefer taller. I stand at 5'8" which I do believe is above average. The amount of men who have told me I'm too tall is unbelievable. Is it fair? No. Do I care? No. It's all about the person and no one should be over compensating for what they can't help so there is no point having a hang up over it either.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Dark Horse)
Lol @ people applying conditions with dating and relationships. Dating is supposed to be fun and you're supposed to get to know the person as they are, not give them a list of criteria and contractual guidelines, lmao.

I approached a girl who pretty much gave me a checklist of what she wanted. Ok, it was off putting, still went out with her, but discovered more differences than commonalities which was just clashing :/.

(Original post by Peachtwist)
I don't think because a man is short he should have to "compensate" because of it.

Yes, I like taller men than myself - it's something I'm attracted to - but that doesn't mean I haven't dated shorter men.

Some women just prefer taller men and some prefer shorter. Just like some men prefer shorter women and some prefer taller. I stand at 5'8" which I do believe is above average. The amount of men who have told me I'm too tall is unbelievable. Is it fair? No. Do I care? No. It's all about the person and no one should be over compensating for what they can't help so there is no point having a hang up over it either.

Maybe it is the wording of what some women are saying, but they're saying that they would date a shorter/short guy, but he'd have to make up, or be perfect in other areas or even be a complete sweetheart etc. That to me indicates that he needs to compensate for him to have success with her.

Yes, there is no point having a hang up about it (maybe there is, in fact, me not caring about it was more destructive), but that's not the point. Most girls and women are not most about the person.

[Dark Horse]

(Original post by ct2k7)
I approached a girl who pretty much gave me a checklist of what she wanted. Ok, it was off putting, still went out with her, but discovered more differences than commonalities which was just clashing :/.

Tbh, if someone says "I'll be happy if I have this, this and this" then they are just kidding themselves. Treating life like a checklist just doesn't work.

[chrislpp]

Yes, manlets are generally feeling inferior to taller men, most girls are taller than them in high heels, most girls wouldn't be caught dead with small men, but there is always status and money.

[Anonymous]

I'm 6"3' and usually its an advantage, a talking point, but small people...are people too *_*

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Dark Horse)
Tbh, if someone says "I'll be happy if I have this, this and this" then they are just kidding themselves. Treating life like a checklist just doesn't work.

Exactly - though we did have a good time together, her wanting to explore more people wasn't exactly in my list of good things to have.

(Original post by chrislpp)
Yes, manlets are generally feeling inferior to taller men, most girls are taller than them in high heels, most girls wouldn't be caught dead with small men, but there is always status and money.

Status and money. It's pretty much always attractive. But then how do you separate and deal with girls who are with you for the money?

[nase14_aldayz]

Ah, you again...

[Hooj]

If you are short you better have money or an above average willy. I'd imagine it's a hard life being a short male.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by nase14_aldayz)
Ah, you again...

Leonel Manzano ♥

he was awesome in the 1500m today.

(Original post by Hooj)
If you are short you better have money or an above average willy. I'd imagine it's a hard life being a short male.

:/

[#JayJay]

I really don't get this idea of girls only wanting guys taller than them

one of my best friend says this yet she's going out with a guy shorter than her and makes fun of him for it. she said that he was the only exception.

[bloodtobleed]

I couldn't date a really short girl. I tried it once and it's far too awkward. I'm 6'2".