[FeelingsBrah]

(Original post by dgeorge)
BS. Where do you live?

A pop. 200 village in rural Lincolnshire. 1hr drive to any major town.

[Foo.mp3]

Depends on who you are/how you act, who they are/what they're doing, and, to a lesser extent, what you say..

[dgeorge]

(Original post by FeelingsBrah)
A pop. 200 village in rural Lincolnshire. 1hr drive to any major town.

1 hour = Several hours?

[Always_Right]

(Original post by Classical Liberal)
It definitely can, particularly in the uk. Going up to strangers and just talking is considered wierd. It is tragic really.

In america talking to strangers is a lot less wierd though.


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Have you ever just gone up to a girl in the street though? I would thrive in America haha. If I had been born in America my life would be soooo different right now.

[Classical Liberal]

(Original post by Always_Right)
Have you ever just gone up to a girl in the street though? I would thrive in America haha. If I had been born in America my life would be soooo different right now.

Not when she is walking about. But I have tried it when somebody is just standing about in public, it is very very difficult. Walking about would be worse, it is like those people who always try and hand out flyers to you in the street. You just want them to **** off.

[Always_Right]

(Original post by Classical Liberal)
Not when she is walking about. But I have tried it when somebody is just standing about in public, it is very very difficult. Walking about would be worse, it is like those people who always try and hand out flyers to you in the street. You just want them to **** off.

hahaha, I actually tell them to fcuk off now, unless it's a hot women but then they're probably just looking to sell you stuff I'm guessing?? They usually have clipboards and stuff...

[Classical Liberal]

(Original post by Always_Right)
hahaha, I actually tell them to fcuk off now, unless it's a hot women but then they're probably just looking to sell you stuff I'm guessing?? They usually have clipboards and stuff...

The ones you should tell to **** off the most are the hot women. If they need a hot woman to get your attention then whatever it is, is probably going to be crap.

It is usually some do gooder bull**** charity nonsense with hot women I find, rather than car insurance or something like that.

[FeelingsBrah]

(Original post by dgeorge)
1 hour = Several hours?

The options are Doncaster and Scunthorpe. I don't consider them enjoyable places to visit.

[dgeorge]

(Original post by FeelingsBrah)
The options are Doncaster and Scunthorpe. I don't consider them enjoyable places to visit.

In other words, you do have options, you just refuse to consider them

[LavenderBlueSky88]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Depends on who you are/how you act, who they are/what they're doing, and, to a lesser extent, what you say..

That guy is an absolute creep, I was bored so watched some of his videos (and read subsequent comments from aspiring PUAs). It caused me to slowly lose faith in the male species.

Also, his hair is f**king stupid.

[FeelingsBrah]

(Original post by dgeorge)
In other words, you do have options, you just refuse to consider them

The point was "go out and enjoy your life". After 18 years of experience, I know these to be places that I don't enjoy going to.

[WillowLeaves]

(Original post by Anonymous)
is this socially acceptable?
As in say im at a shopping mall and theres a girl i like, is it socially acceptable to try and chat her up? Seems as though many girls refuse to be chat up during the day yet, if i were to talk to them at a pub or a club at night then they are more willing to talk to you.

I ask as i'm single and I would like a girlfriend, (as ive never had one before) and i am starting to feel lonely. Just wondered if there are any places to meet girls not at the clubs or the pubs.

It's not really socially acceptable and I certainly would think it's strange (since I'm a girl). At the same time, I feel like doing the same thing is a pub/bar isn't OK either. I get so tired of guys thinking that just because a girl is out in public, she is available! On the whole, though, so long as you stop after the girl says no (and don't do anything weird like stalk her around the mall), it'll probably work in any situation. Just get ready for it being awkward.


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[Chow mein]

(Original post by WillowLeaves)
It's not really socially acceptable and I certainly would think it's strange (since I'm a girl). At the same time, I feel like doing the same thing is a pub/bar isn't OK either. I get so tired of guys thinking that just because a girl is out in public, she is available! On the whole, though, so long as you stop after the girl says no (and don't do anything weird like stalk her around the mall), it'll probably work in any situation. Just get ready for it being awkward.


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How is anyone supposed to meet anybody new if everyone is this uptight?

[dgeorge]

(Original post by Always_Right)
Have you ever just gone up to a girl in the street though? I would thrive in America haha. If I had been born in America my life would be soooo different right now.

America isn't some mystical land where women are willing to jump out their panties at the sight of an approaching male. If you can do it in America, you can do it in the UK as well.

[BowzerEdwards]

Just read through this thread, and it is difficult. Even through I would consider myself pretty confident - if not particularly demonstrative - I often see people on trains or out shopping, and get irritated that (in my view) I can't get speaking to them, without seeming like a PUA or some goon who's bounding round asking anyone marginally attractive for their number.

I think I read on the first page, someone who mentioned deliberately setting up a conversation with a girl then continuing the conversation and sitting with her on the train. Personally, I could never do this. Partly because personally I don't really like it if a girl (unless she is very attractive!) accosts me on public transport. It's happened once or twice to me, where I've been on a train and a girl has started some banal conversation with me. Perhaps because I had no attraction to either of them, I just felt uncomfortable and wanted to get back to listening to music and vacantly staring out the window.

On a wider point, I do find this subject annoying. I so often see attractive girls when I'm out during the day, but I'd just feel like I was imposing on them if I started conversation with them. Especially as - through my eyes at least - it's going to look borderline sleezy that I'm talking to them, simply to get their phone number five minutes later.

Whilst on the subject of phone numbers - a question for the girls: One thing I always struggle with, is when I see a girl with whom I share a couple of mutual friends perhaps and get talking to her (perhaps at a party, or some other informal surrounding). I usually think it's better to wait until I see her again in a few weeks at another party or whatever (which almost never happens!), and then ask for her phone number. Partly so it looks like I've 'gotten to know her' a little bit, as opposed to just see her, manufacture half an hours conversation and then ask. What do you prefer? Does this bother you?

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
That guy is an absolute creep

As PUA guys go I found him rather personable/witty; absolute creep seems harsh to me but perhaps I haven't seen the same vids..

(Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
I was bored so watched some of his videos (and read subsequent comments from aspiring PUAs). It caused me to slowly lose faith in the male species

Specifically what is it that distresses you so?

(Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
Also, his hair is f**king stupid

Haha, true - although methinks he looked better with long hair than short

[LavenderBlueSky88]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
As PUA guys go I found him rather personable/witty; absolute creep seems harsh to me but perhaps I haven't seen the same vids..

Specifically what is it that distresses you so?

Haha, true - although he looked better with long hair than short

It just seems so fake, pretending to have a 'connection' or be in some way interested in what girls have to say purely to get their numbers. I also object to the way in which these girls are filmed and exploited (In one he even kissed the girl and showed photos of him and her kissing on a date - I doubt he got her permission to do this!).

[WillowLeaves]

(Original post by Chow mein)
How is anyone supposed to meet anybody new if everyone is this uptight?

Since when is not wanting to carry on a conversation with strangers "uptight"? It's not my responsibility to entertain whoever happens to feel like meeting new people or finding a girlfriend. If you want to meet people, perhaps looking around your social circle might help - perhaps one of your friends is having a party and you can meet people there? Alternatively, there are websites dedicated to just that purpose. I don't see how pursuing conversations with uninterested strangers equals meeting new people anyway.

[orange'94]

Yeah of course you can, but you have to be friendly to start with maybe a group of guys befriend a group of girls in the local Mcdonalds or something, that's fine

[Chow mein]

(Original post by WillowLeaves)
Since when is not wanting to carry on a conversation with strangers "uptight"? It's not my responsibility to entertain whoever happens to feel like meeting new people or finding a girlfriend. If you want to meet people, perhaps looking around your social circle might help - perhaps one of your friends is having a party and you can meet people there? Alternatively, there are websites dedicated to just that purpose. I don't see how pursuing conversations with uninterested strangers equals meeting new people anyway.

Well I don't see how confining yourself to acquaintances and friends of friends is going to give you a decent sample size. It is uptight because it is so common that people are in there own self involved bubble which means that whenever people do want to go out and meet someone of the opposite sex they end up having to get blind drunk to make it acceptable because everyone is too socially inept to have a normal conversation with someone they don't know.