[Anonymous]

I'm the type of person who worries about everything - when the red flashy light starts on my blackberry, I think it's a message with bad news, everytime I go to work I think something bad's going to happen. I take all things personally, my boyfriend not replying to texts = he doesn't like me, my boss not giving me extra shifts = not good at my job etc etc. Quite frankly it's exhausting and it's getting to the stage where I'd rather make as little effort as possible with things so I don't have to worry so much about them going wrong, even tiny things like tidying my room or cooking food.

I need to know how to relax and chill out and stop overthinking things, I'm sick of feeling so apprehensive and nervous, I can't concentrate on things because of my worries. Any suggestions would be great

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

anyone?

[lilahnurave]

You need to learn to numb your emotions a bit, and also use positive thinking

[Anonymous]

(Original post by lilahnurave)
You need to learn to numb your emotions a bit, and also use positive thinking

That's what I want to do, I'm just scared I'll be proven wrong.

Any suggestions for the positive thinking?

[geetar]

Read up on Buddhism.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by geetar)
Read up on Buddhism.

Like yoga and stuff?

[geetar]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Like yoga and stuff?

Just general stuff, especially meditation. I'm reading a book called a very short introduction to buddhism, at the moment.

[Converse Rocker]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Like yoga and stuff?

Some people find yoga very relaxing and that it improves their flexibility, maybe give it a go.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for suggestions my mum keeps saying 'oh just pull yourself together', but it doesn't seem as simple as that.

One of my friends suggested shopping, but I don't get excited by just acquiring more stuff, unless it actually has a purpose. Spending £40 on a shop won't make me feel better about things!

I really wish I could switch my head off sometimes

[abzy1234]

Try and become more mindful. Focus on your breathing slowly, take a deep breath and release it slowly... If it helps, say one when breathing in, and one when breathing out. Don't worry if other things come to your mind, just be calm and focus on your breathing.

Again if it helps, whilst breathing in, say to yourself "Breathing in, I feel calm. Breathing out, I feel at ease. I am not struggling anymore." Don't struggle against your thoughts, let them flow like the flow of water in a river. Be gentle and just focus and be patient.

Once you can confidently claim you have mindful breathing and are relaxed, just smile. Look at the beauty all around you.

Understand your worry. Ask yourself why do you have these apprehensive feelings? Believe me there are causes, dig deep if you have to inside your body to see what causes this. Once you know what causes this suffering, know that you can get rid of it! Don't despair, just be gentle and slowly train your mind to negate the causes of your worries.

Practice mindfulness. This article will help: http://zenhabits.net/breathe/

Good luck and don't worry, smile and breathe!

[123maz]

maybe exercise or just reading a book or watching television.
But i think maybe you need to seek medical help because it doesnt seem good for you to be anxious
all the time, you know thinking bad things all the time. Maybe your repressing something to make you feel like this. I dont mean to offend you but its worrying to know you can't relax.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by abzy1234)
Try and become more mindful. Focus on your breathing slowly, take a deep breath and release it slowly... If it helps, say one when breathing in, and one when breathing out. Don't worry if other things come to your mind, just be calm and focus on your breathing.

Again if it helps, whilst breathing in, say to yourself "Breathing in, I feel calm. Breathing out, I feel at ease. I am not struggling anymore." Don't struggle against your thoughts, let them flow like the flow of water in a river. Be gentle and just focus and be patient.

Once you can confidently claim you have mindful breathing and are relaxed, just smile. Look at the beauty all around you.

Understand your worry. Ask yourself why do you have these apprehensive feelings? Believe me there are causes, dig deep if you have to inside your body to see what causes this. Once you know what causes this suffering, know that you can get rid of it! Don't despair, just be gentle and slowly train your mind to negate the causes of your worries.

Practice mindfulness. This article will help: http://zenhabits.net/breathe/

Good luck and don't worry, smile and breathe!

That sounds good I might try that. When I feel insecure I tend to 'count my blessings' as it were, what I'm trying to get past is a sort of mental paralysis that takes over me when worries come into my head. I can't focus on anything not even eating. Also, what do I do when I figure out the causes, I'll probably just realise I have more baggage to deal with

[crazyunicorn133]

Tbh i'm very much the same, i worry pretty constantly. What really helped me was CBT, which you maybe wont get unless your Dr recommends it, but some of the exercises I did were very helpful, particuarly with cognitive restructuring techniques.

Basically, writing down exactly WHAT it is that's worrying you, the negative emotion there, and challenge it with something positive. If you look online you can find lots of helpful things, like http://www.buzzle.com/articles/how-t...anagement.html

Now, I worry still, but I can cope with my emotions and can clear my head when I need to. Good luck.

[A Cat]

(Original post by Anonymous)
That sounds good I might try that. When I feel insecure I tend to 'count my blessings' as it were, what I'm trying to get past is a sort of mental paralysis that takes over me when worries come into my head. I can't focus on anything not even eating. Also, what do I do when I figure out the causes, I'll probably just realise I have more baggage to deal with

you are not your mind. Do you agree?

[abzy1234]

(Original post by Anonymous)
That sounds good I might try that. When I feel insecure I tend to 'count my blessings' as it were, what I'm trying to get past is a sort of mental paralysis that takes over me when worries come into my head. I can't focus on anything not even eating. Also, what do I do when I figure out the causes, I'll probably just realise I have more baggage to deal with

Let the worries float in your head, don't try and resist them completely with just mental strength; as you said that creates this "paralysis", this illusion that you can't cope with it. But you can cope with it.

Understand your worries, and think through them deeply. So for example, if you're worried that somebody you love is ignoring you; ask yourself why do you feel that way. Have you spoken to them recently? If not, just give the person a call and tell them that you are missing them. Are you worried that there is not enough contact between you and that person? Talk to that person about this, and understand that patience is the answer. Though difficult to attain patience, understand that the struggle for patience is worth it.

Once you know the causes, write them down if you think it helps. It'll help you get things off your chest. Then try and think what makes this cause, I know it sounds like inception; but finding the root of your troubles is something we often overlook! Realise that there is path to defeat these worries and causes.

Don't succumb to your mind saying that you can't overcome these worries. You can, practice mindfulness and just breathe. Look at the beautiful blue sky. Look at the beautiful smile of a child. Beauty is everywhere, and your worries are tainting this beauty; smile and breathe!

Good luck

[Chillywilly93]

worry is usually a result of being afraid of failure. a fear of failure is usually down to feeling guilt at the thought of failing. guilt is impressed on us by those around us, family, the media, friends. delete facebook, meditate, remember that what you do has virtually no impact on the universe but has 100 percent impact on yourself. Believe in you!

[BolloTheGorilla]

Personally, just shoving on some music I enjoy, closing my eyes and drifting away into my own little world works wonders.

But as had already been mentioned, maybe give cognitive behavioural therapy a try? I have had this in the past and it did help me to some degree.

[lilahnurave]

Are you on the pill? Several types made me feel how you're feeling, I thought I was going crazy

[ihatepoems]

Believe in the one true God- Allah. He will provide you with all that you need.


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