[Anonymous]

Basically, my entire life I have been bullied. Since I was in infant school, through junior and secondary school and then at 6th form. Its only since coming to Uni that I haven't been bullied. I have friends, but none I am close to.

I lost my Mum a few years ago. I lost my family home (not going into details) so I live at Uni. I have just found out the rest of my family are going on holiday together, on asking why I wasnt invited, they said they didnt want me there because on the last holiday i suffered a mental breakdown- but to them it was just a mood swing. I have constantly tried explaining to them that I was depressed but they have told me I am a drama queen always trying to act the victim.

I came to Uni after my Mum died, feeling alone and depressed.

And now, I don't have any family (they have told me they don't want me there with them). I am the sibling and the daughter that everyone wishes didn't exist.
I don't have any extended family.

I don't have any friends to talk to- none I am close to. Even the ones Im not close to I have tried to talk to and they have said Im attention seeking, or a drama queen or they don't take me seriously.

I just feel really alone. I haven't felt this depressed in about 6 months but now Im in a really bad pit I look to my future and I see nothing. My family don't care (theyve pretty much said as much) and I wont be in touch with any friends (partly because I dont forge friendships well and partly because none of them have stayed in touch over summer, even though ive made several efforts).

So then I started acting a bit promiscuous, because its the only way I can get some attention of somebody. And I dont want to be like that.

I just feel so alone

Anyone to talk? Or just tell me your experiences of feeling alone?

Thanks

[RightSaidJames]

Hi OP,

I can't imagine how hard things must be for you at the moment. Is there no hope of rekindling things with your family, perhaps by coming at it at a difficult angle? For example instead of talking about being depressed you could tell them that you feel lonely and would like to spend more time with them?

I'm sorry I can't be of more help in this situation, but I do hope things get better for you soon

[aliyah.k]

Try and tell one person of the family how you feel or write it on paper and leave it in a place thy'd definitely read it see what happens next


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[Stevo F]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anyone to talk? Or just tell me your experiences of feeling alone?

Thanks

I've had experience with bullying at school in the past but as for the rest of the crap life has dealt you all I can say is i'm sure it will get better soon.

I can't believe how your family can treat you like that, I hope you find some real friends and people you can call family, there are nice people out there, honest

[tk1993]

I'm sorry to hear about that OP, it sounds horrible
If you ever want to talk, I'm always around. Take care.

[Summerdays]

I am so sorry to hear I am also available to talk to you whenever you need.

[mikeyd85]

Every time I see a thread like this I just want to invite the OP over to my house for some tea or something.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP

I kind of know how you feel, I went to uni and moved away because I didn't get on with my family, they were abusive and told me often they wished I didn't exist.
I spent the first couple of years making mistakes, learning to cope on my own and generally feeling like crap. Then it changed. It sounds like the biggest cliche in the book, but things WILL get better.
If you dwell on how your family have treated you it will continue to affect your confidence. Uni's do councelling services through the student support, they were amazing with me and talking everything through helped SO much.
I joined a society at uni, and though daunting at first, has made me feel a bit more like I belong here. I was quiet at first but I kept going, and eventually got talking to some people who I now consider to be my best friends.

PLEASE don't alienate yourself, that's the worst thing to do, no matter how tempting.

Good luck

[roarosaurus]

Your situation sounds really tough. I can relate to quite a bit of it: I haven't ever really got along/been close with any of my family - I've also suffered from mental health issues (depression) in the past, and they didn't understand and clearly now think I'm a bit weird. I'm very much the black sheep of the family. I don't have any close friends any more either, largely because I got pregnant during uni and being a parent alongside doing my degree didn't leave much time for being social, and that in turn diminished my social skills through lack of practice. I find being a mum really fulfilling so I focus on that, but there are still times when I feel pretty lonely, and it makes it worse when it seems like everyone around you is surrounded by loving friends/family.

If you ever feel like you want to talk to someone then seriously feel free to PM me - I know I'm just a stranger online, but I know what it's like to be desperate for someone to talk to and if you're in that situation then I'd really like to help.

[Chuck Norris]

You're never alone on TSR. If you need someone to talk to, PM me.

[PerArduaAdAstra]

Get in touch, any time.

[RightSaidJames]

(Original post by mikeyd85)
Every time I see a thread like this I just want to invite the OP over to my house for some tea or something.

Me too!

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone thanks for your support, sometimes just kind words really help
My Dad has tried calling me today several times, but Ive just ignored because Im feeling really down and don't fancy talking to anyone at all. Ive spent most the day and night crying in bed
I actually ended up telling 1 of my friends today about everything and lo and behold she told me I was an attention seeker and making things up.
Ive tried telling several of my friends now and they just don't realise how seriously crap I am feeling. They're just like ''aww, ahh well, family aren't everything'' and then go on to talking about other things. I just want a good cry and a good hug and someone to listen and I realise how there isn't 1 person who gives a crap about me. There isn't a single person I can call up and ask to come over and talk None of my friends have bothered with me all summer- even though I have sent them several texts.
thanks everyone.

[shumen9523]

I'm really sorry about everything .If you're feeling really bad you can always PM me. I do hope that things will get better for you and don't forget that we'll always be here to help you out and to support you, you're NOT alone .....

[aeterno]

Sorry about everything that's going on
Have you considered speaking to a counsellor? I know that they're essentially a stranger and you might not be entirely comfortable with that but they'll listen at the very least and (hopefully) be far more understanding than your family/friends. Although you say you've suffered from depression so you may have already exhausted this option and not found it particularly useful. Or is there a tutor at your uni who you feel comfortable talking to?
I don't know, I hope someone comes through for you soon

[BethaneyJ]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hey everyone thanks for your support, sometimes just kind words really help
My Dad has tried calling me today several times, but Ive just ignored because Im feeling really down and don't fancy talking to anyone at all. Ive spent most the day and night crying in bed
I actually ended up telling 1 of my friends today about everything and lo and behold she told me I was an attention seeker and making things up.
Ive tried telling several of my friends now and they just don't realise how seriously crap I am feeling. They're just like ''aww, ahh well, family aren't everything'' and then go on to talking about other things. I just want a good cry and a good hug and someone to listen and I realise how there isn't 1 person who gives a crap about me. There isn't a single person I can call up and ask to come over and talk None of my friends have bothered with me all summer- even though I have sent them several texts.
thanks everyone.

Then your friends are not all that good. There are nice people in the world who do believe you and understand and would be there for you through it all (and a lot of them seem to be hiding on TSR!).

Keep going. When things are this bad they can only get better.

Here if you ever need anything x

Beth

[Anonymous]

(Original post by aeterno)
Sorry about everything that's going on
Have you considered speaking to a counsellor? I know that they're essentially a stranger and you might not be entirely comfortable with that but they'll listen at the very least and (hopefully) be far more understanding than your family/friends. Although you say you've suffered from depression so you may have already exhausted this option and not found it particularly useful. Or is there a tutor at your uni who you feel comfortable talking to?
I don't know, I hope someone comes through for you soon

Hey- I have actually been seeing a counsellor for the past few months after being referred by my GP, I've rang helplines, tried to talk to friends, told my family.. But nothing changes the fact that I don't have anyone. They all try and tell me my problems are insignificant. Or they just focus on the grief when there is so much more to it.
Thankyou

[aeterno]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hey- I have actually been seeing a counsellor for the past few months after being referred by my GP, I've rang helplines, tried to talk to friends, told my family.. But nothing changes the fact that I don't have anyone. They all try and tell me my problems are insignificant. Or they just focus on the grief when there is so much more to it.
Thankyou

Ohh I can't believe how terribly everyone's acting toward you! Have you tried approaching people in a different way? If nothing else, you have this forum - we care!

[Final Fantasy]

(Original post by Anonymous)

I just feel so alone

Anyone to talk? Or just tell me your experiences of feeling alone?

Thanks

Hi, I can understand about the school part, very similar to mine. If you want, you can PM me and I can talk to you about it and my experiences, and also listen to your story.

A few have commented that it gets better eventually, and I agree. In time, it does get better.

Take care.

[Id and Ego seek]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Even the ones Im not close to I have tried to talk to and they have said Im attention seeking, or a drama queen or they don't take me seriously.

Oh God, this. It gets to the point where there's no point in mentioning or inferring anything to anyone and you end up keeping it all to yourself, which isn't all to healthy. But yeah, if you ever want to talk, I'll be around.