Im having a conversation with a friend who is Dutch. English is his second language but he is almost fluent. However, through traveling etc he has picked up slang from other native English speakers from various parts of the world but he doesnt seem to realise some of its racist.
For example he continues to call Germans 'Jerrys' and occasionally uses '*******' as a term for friends.
"I was just hanging out with my ******* from work"
I'm not alone in thinking this is kind of racist am I? I try to explain but he seems to think im making fun of him or something.
I wouldnt call it racist, maybe crude and potewntially offensive but not racist...
for a start the Germans arent a race and secondly its no different from other countries calling us limeys... bit crass but no harm no foul
And with regards to calling his friends that I'd say it isnt purely in that he isnt using it to cause racial offence, merely like afro-americans do in that they use it as a sign of friendship.
Ok so perhsps racist is to strong. But I do think a lot of stuff he says in offensive to others. Some told him he sounded Irish (hes Dutch remember) and told them that was the worst insult an Englishman could give. :/
A word should only be considered offensive if the person saying it meant it in a nasty way and the person who it was aimed at found it offensive (plus anyone else within earshot/had access to read it etc).
Plus if you're a foreigner who isn't good at the language or a child, then you don't know what you've done is wrong. You don't shout at a child the first time it does something wrong, you calmly explain to it, what it's done that is wrong and what the consequences will be if they do it again. When I was little, I called my mum a cow. But at the time I thought cows were cute and friendly and didn't realise that it was offensive to call a woman that.
(Original post by Clare~Bear)
But it's not derogatory to me, as it doesn't apply to me. I'd think you were an uneducated, blind idiot for saying it, rather than getting upset about it.
A word should only be comsidered offensive if the person saying it meant it in a nasty way and the person who it was aimed at found it offensive.
Racial slurs are frequently used in everyday language. I'm not interested in whether you find it offensive or not, i'm asking if it's ok. I would find it very offensive if I sat next to two people using those terms - do I not count.