[Anonymous]

My mum has recently been diagnosed with Grade 4 brain cancer otherwise known as Glioblastoma Multiforme. It is the most common but also the most aggressive and rapid growing form of brain cancer. She is unable to undergo any surgery or chemo or radiotherapy. I looked online and apparently the prognosis for untreated Glioblastoma Multiforme is 2-3 months but it could be less. I feel sick. Just last month, she was walking and talking and leading a normal life and now she couldn't be anymore different. She is almost completely paralyzed on her right side and is unable to walk, bathe herself or use the bathroom on her own. Her speech has changed so her voice sounds more weaker and vulnerable.When I hug her and tell her I love her she cries and tells me she's let me down and put me through hell.

At the moment my father is looking after me. He has heart disease and if he has another heart attack he'll pass away. He has high blood pressure and has recently been tested for diabetes (results come on Wednesday).

My only sibling lives in Switzerland and will be moving to Singapore in January because of his job.

I am 18 and currently interning in an investment bank. I get my A-level results next week but I doubt I'll meet my offer this year.

I'm stressed, tired, worried , anxious and alone.

I don't know how I'm going to cope.

Advice please?

[AmiraSerafina]

Hey.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you; I know what you're going through because I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer.

My advice to you is to BE WITH HER. Spend as much time with her as possible and make memories. That's the one thing I regret not doing the most..
If you need someone to talk to or moan to, just message me.

[Miracle Day]

Just thought of something sentimental, could you get her to write like 18th birthday cards for your kids when you have them? Or like one of your kids?

I wish you the best OP.

[Future_Dr]

(Original post by Anonymous)
My mum has recently been diagnosed with Grade 4 brain cancer otherwise known as Glioblastoma Multiforme. It is the most common but also the most aggressive and rapid growing form of brain cancer. She is unable to undergo any surgery or chemo or radiotherapy. I looked online and apparently the prognosis for untreated Glioblastoma Multiforme is 2-3 months but it could be less. I feel sick. Just last month, she was walking and talking and leading a normal life and now she couldn't be anymore different. She is almost completely paralyzed on her right side and is unable to walk, bathe herself or use the bathroom on her own. Her speech has changed so her voice sounds more weaker and vulnerable.When I hug her and tell her I love her she cries and tells me she's let me down and put me through hell.

At the moment my father is looking after me. He has heart disease and if he has another heart attack he'll pass away. He has high blood pressure and has recently been tested for diabetes (results come on Wednesday).

My only sibling lives in Switzerland and will be moving to Singapore in January because of his job.

I am 18 and currently interning in an investment bank. I get my A-level results next week but I doubt I'll meet my offer this year.

I'm stressed, tired, worried , anxious and alone.

I don't know how I'm going to cope.

Advice please?

This must be a very difficult time for you.

I really suggest that you pray. Pray with a clean and hopeful heart and Jesus will hear you.

[justneedhelp]

My best wishes go out to you and your mother OP. I advise you try and have a memorable few months together and cherish everything you both have, you want it to be a good note, not a bad one! If you need any moral support, you can definitely pm me and i'll be happy to listen
I hope everything goes okay x

[AmiraSerafina]

Also, take photos, make videos so that when you want, you can hear her voice again.

And pray to God to grant you and your family patience and strength to carry on.

[snailsareslimy]

I can't even imagine how difficult this is for you
I'd probably try urge your other sibling to come home as soon as possible; your family need him and although he'll probably have to quit his job, he'll find another eventually. Family is what is going to get you through this, so it's so important that he comes back. The best thing you can do is try make the absolute most of the next few months; try and make your family's memories amazing, and keep stress to a minimum (although I know this'll be an almost impossible task). Your mum will be very vulnerable right now, and probably feels bad for everything, but you've got to make her realise that you truly don't care about any of that; you love her and you're going to make the next few months amazing (so keep doing what you're already doing by being with her as much as possible). Are there any things she'd like to do? If so, try do them with her.
I'd also say that if your sibling came back it would reduce the stress on your dad too, and not only will this help him, it'll help your mum too as she'll be able to spend time with her whole family, and no doubt your brother will probably want to be around at this difficult time too.
If you ever need to chat or anything, PM me, any time

[AspiringGenius]

OP: I don't really know what to say. I can't imagine losing one of my parents. I just hope you find inner strength to deal with this.

[Johnny Luk]

(Original post by Anonymous)
My mum has recently been diagnosed with Grade 4 brain cancer otherwise known as Glioblastoma Multiforme. It is the most common but also the most aggressive and rapid growing form of brain cancer. She is unable to undergo any surgery or chemo or radiotherapy. I looked online and apparently the prognosis for untreated Glioblastoma Multiforme is 2-3 months but it could be less. I feel sick. Just last month, she was walking and talking and leading a normal life and now she couldn't be anymore different. She is almost completely paralyzed on her right side and is unable to walk, bathe herself or use the bathroom on her own. Her speech has changed so her voice sounds more weaker and vulnerable.When I hug her and tell her I love her she cries and tells me she's let me down and put me through hell.

At the moment my father is looking after me. He has heart disease and if he has another heart attack he'll pass away. He has high blood pressure and has recently been tested for diabetes (results come on Wednesday).

My only sibling lives in Switzerland and will be moving to Singapore in January because of his job.

I am 18 and currently interning in an investment bank. I get my A-level results next week but I doubt I'll meet my offer this year.

I'm stressed, tired, worried , anxious and alone.

I don't know how I'm going to cope.

Advice please?

I am so sorry and I wish you and your family the best.

Just spend as much time as you can with your mum, which I understand may not be easy with a IB internship.

Puts into prospective how short life is and how we must enjoy every moment.

I am sure you have made your mother proud and use her as a drive to succeed in your life. Stay positive and strong, thats what she would want from you xx

[PrinceUpsb]

Guys, I know what was said was horrible, but let us not ruin this thread. Report/ Neg rep the evil poster but let us stop talking about it.

Let's use this thread to help the OP through a tough time. I'm sure OP would rather see helpful/ friendly posts than a thread full of hate.

[Life_peer]

Evening, OP. I can not even imagine myself being in your situation and I feel that no advice from myself would help you. I can however offer you the feeling that one more stranger wishes that your mum gets better (and as a result of that yourself as well). Regardless of what people think of faith these days, I shall pray on your behalf as well. Be strong, your life is not over nor meaningless even if the most sorrowful happens. May you be well!

[daisydaffodil]

Oh love, I'm so sorry to hear that.

I urge you to get in contact with Macmillan, they are fantastic people, if you aren't already in touch.

http://www.macmillan.org.uk/home.asp...tent=macmillan

0808 808 00 00

I wish I could give you a hug, will send virtual ones instead.

You aren't alone - everyone here is behind you every step of the way.

[pinkangelgirl]

Hey OP,

I lost my Mum 2 years ago cancer still hurts to this day, if not more...my advice would be to spend EVERY SECOND with your Mum. I have so many regrets and hate myself so much for not being there for my Mum.

If I could turn back time I would have dropped everything just to spend the last few months with her and cherish the time we had left together.

Good luck! Let your Mum know how much you love her.

I am sorry xx

[vaipanel]

"Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

[OU Student]

Has someone sorted out benefits for your mum? Because it's terminal, there's no waiting period for disability living allowance or employment support allowance. She needs to get a special form from her GP (the benefit forms give more information) to claim due to terminal illness.

Are you both getting some practical and emotional support?

[matthewoingram]

Hi,

I'm really sorry to hear this. My stepdad's sister died of something similar and at times I see the effect it's had on him.

What I'll start off by saying is that the next year will be tough. Tougher than you, me or anyone else who has not gone through this will ever know. So I've got a few tips:

Get your family unit together. All the stuff about strength in numbers, a problems shared and a shoulder to lean on are true and you'll appreciate it a lot when everybody's together to help.you through it.

The second piece of advice is to create a legacy. Anything at all that you'll look at, hear, touch or think of that will remind you of her and can keep. Anything that will allow her memory to live on, and allow as many people as possible to have fond memories of your mum.

My final piece of advice is that, emotionally, nobody will feel worse right now than your mum. She'll feel horrible not for herself, but for all those she'll have to leave behind. Nobody would want this to be how they felt in their last days, weeks and months so your job now is to make her feel as positive as she can be and to make sure she enjoys every last second.

I really feel for you, so if you need anything at all, don't be afraid to give us a shout. You might find that as strangers we'll be better to vent anger or frustration just because we are strangers, and we won't take things as personally as perhaps close friends or family are feeling.

I know I've said a lot of what others have said and I think you'll no doubt get more, but just muddle through, and make your mum proud.

[Gerrard]

Spend your time with her as well as you can, and try to stay positive, she wouldn't want you to be upset all the time, focus on making memories and making her proud, remember her as the person she was and remember she is always looking over you! Take care x

[Pinkhead]

(Original post by LilMonster)
you're "18" and you joined in NOV 1999. how genuine is this post Anon

It's an anonymous poster. The stats aren't the OP's stats.

[zoe_bartlett]

I am not going to lie to you, the next few months are going to be the hardest thing that you will ever have to do in your life. As awful a situation as it is, you need to try and make the best of it and spend as much quality time with your Mum as you can. Take photos, videos, do memorable things, and just try your best to be happy.

I went through a very similar thing with my Dad, and I know its not easy to watch someone so strong and who you thought was invincible go down hill so quickly. Try not to think about the end, and deal with that when it happens. You will be fine and you will cope, because sadly you have no other choice.

My one regret with my Dad was I wish he had written me a letter for me to read when he had passed. Something I could hold on to and read when he was not there. Maybe you could ask her for something like that? I don't mean to sound harsh, but you need to prepare yourself for it, but my Dad went a little 'confused' towards the end of his life. WHen we talked to him he didn't make sense, and so wasn't able to write a letter. So if its something you want, best to get it done.

Try your best to be happy and there for your mum, as remember she is coming to terms with her own mortality. There will be time for tears later.

I wish I could take this pain away from your family. It breaks my heart thinking that there are other families going through what we went through. Be strong, and if you need me, you can PM me. x

[rgray]

I can't imagine how incredibly difficult this must be for you. My advice would be, like a previous poster has stated, to spend as much time with her as you can. Assure her that she has not let you down and that you are so proud of her, it will give you both a clearer conscious when she does pass. Tell her you love her everyday.

Allow yourself to experience the different emotions that will inevitably come. Do you have close friends you can confide in as well? Do not feel guilty about how you are feeling and try to talk to people, they are often incredibly supportive and can help you to feel less isolated during this painful part of your life

I hate to talk about your mothers death as she is still alive but when she passes know that you have made her prouder than you could imagine by your incredible strength. Know that it was not your fault and nothing you could have said or done would change the outcome. Kow that she will be looking down on you.

Time is a great healer. I know that now the pain may seem unbearable but one day you will be able to look back on this time as the sad ending if a most wonderful and cherished life. What may seem unbearable will at some point be bearable
I honestly wish you, your mother and your father all the best. Please PM if you want to