[Anonymous]

I've recently met this really nice guy at work - someone I can get along with etcetc. But I don't know what to do next! do I wait for him to ask for my contact details/facebook or do I make the first move?

[FeelingsBrah]

Do you want to date him? If yes, ask him out. This may see you rejected, however.
Too insecure to ask him out? Wait for him to make a move. This may never happen, however.

Weigh up each of these, then make a decision.

Sorted.

[Agenda Suicide]

Well you have to think, what if he is tihnking like you and doing nothing about it because he is waiting for you.

Just be subtle, say like, "oh hey make sure you add me on facebook" or something like that.

[GPH92]

put his dick in your mouth

[kunoichi]

Just add him on fb? i dont see why people get so stressed out about it, its only fb ffs.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Agenda Suicide)
Well you have to think, what if he is tihnking like you and doing nothing about it because he is waiting for you.

Just be subtle, say like, "oh hey make sure you add me on facebook" or something like that.

(Original post by kunoichi)
Just add him on fb? i dont see why people get so stressed out about it, its only fb ffs.

(Original post by FeelingsBrah)
Do you want to date him? If yes, ask him out. This may see you rejected, however.
Too insecure to ask him out? Wait for him to make a move. This may never happen, however.

Weigh up each of these, then make a decision.

Sorted.

Thanks guys for your replies! But honestly I just want to know him better so is casually asking him to hang out an appropriate thing to do?

And does this mean I'll have to ask him for his fb contact then? :s some people dislike giving their accounts unless they know someone really well...

[Agenda Suicide]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Thanks guys for your replies! But honestly I just want to know him better so is casually asking him to hang out an appropriate thing to do?

And does this mean I'll have to ask him for his fb contact then? :s some people dislike giving their accounts unless they know someone really well...

It depends what type of person it is. If you're not that close to share Facebook friends then asking to hang out seems like a more forward move.

If I were you I'd just take the plunge and mention Facebook, it's a lot less formal than asking to hang out casually and maybe if you added him and sent him a message and casually chatted you could take it frmo there?

Just my two cents

[superduper9]

Why has facebook become a "get out clause" when it comes to asking some one out?!! I don't get this. It seems to me that, if you like some one and want to know them better, you just ask them if they want to get a coffee or a drink after work. This, to me, is the grown up thing to do. It needn't even be just the two of you. You can invite him for drinks with a few friends from work, get chatting to him at the pub/coffee shop and then, if you like him, ask him out but this time, just the two of you. No need for facebook at this stage. That way, the whole thing is more personal, the guy feels appreciated and if things go well, you can start exchanging personal details, i.e. phone numbers, facebook etc. If it doesn't go so well, the situation doesn't become awakard as your first out-of-office meet will be in the company of your colleagues/friends.

[Ollieeeee]

Do you want us to **** him for you?

[Rock Fan]

ask him outright if he likes you, simples!

[WilliamG]

If you're working together just ask him if he wants to grab lunch or something? A simple gesture like that would be the first step AND you get to know him better

[Anonymous]

(Original post by WilliamG)
If you're working together just ask him if he wants to grab lunch or something? A simple gesture like that would be the first step AND you get to know him better

(Original post by Rock Fan)
ask him outright if he likes you, simples!

(Original post by Ollieeeee)
Do you want us to **** him for you?

(Original post by superduper9)
Why has facebook become a "get out clause" when it comes to asking some one out?!! I don't get this. It seems to me that, if you like some one and want to know them better, you just ask them if they want to get a coffee or a drink after work. This, to me, is the grown up thing to do. It needn't even be just the two of you. You can invite him for drinks with a few friends from work, get chatting to him at the pub/coffee shop and then, if you like him, ask him out but this time, just the two of you. No need for facebook at this stage. That way, the whole thing is more personal, the guy feels appreciated and if things go well, you can start exchanging personal details, i.e. phone numbers, facebook etc. If it doesn't go so well, the situation doesn't become awakard as your first out-of-office meet will be in the company of your colleagues/friends.

(Original post by Agenda Suicide)
It depends what type of person it is. If you're not that close to share Facebook friends then asking to hang out seems like a more forward move.

If I were you I'd just take the plunge and mention Facebook, it's a lot less formal than asking to hang out casually and maybe if you added him and sent him a message and casually chatted you could take it frmo there?

Just my two cents

Well today, we were talking most of the time! He literally sits across my desk so it was easy to make small talks and at some point I caught him looking over but nah maybe probably not He asked me to join him for lunch with his friends today but I turned him down..... What was I thinking!?

I really don't know what to do! I'm usually not good in this sort of stuffs - guys I've been meeting are real jerks. They get my number & facebook and they don't bother to contact me after that. I mean whats the point of getting my contact details in the first place?

[Rock Fan]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well today, we were talking most of the time! He literally sits across my desk so it was easy to make small talks and at some point I caught him looking over but nah maybe probably not He asked me to join him for lunch with his friends today but I turned him down..... What was I thinking!?

I really don't know what to do! I'm usually not good in this sort of stuffs - guys I've been meeting are real jerks. They get my number & facebook and they don't bother to contact me after that. I mean whats the point of getting my contact details in the first place?

Congratulations you probably just blew it

[Halogenation]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well today, we were talking most of the time! He literally sits across my desk so it was easy to make small talks and at some point I caught him looking over but nah maybe probably not He asked me to join him for lunch with his friends today but I turned him down..... What was I thinking!?

I really don't know what to do! I'm usually not good in this sort of stuffs - guys I've been meeting are real jerks. They get my number & facebook and they don't bother to contact me after that. I mean whats the point of getting my contact details in the first place?

Dear oh dear the only thing that has made the situation between you and him hard for yourself is unesscessary worrying. Asking a girl he's only recently met to join him and his (presumably male) friends not only takes balls, but does seem to be a hint that he likes you.
He may of done it to show you how he acts around his mates, or more probably it is a less suspicious 'date' with you.
I bet you that if you accepted his offer, he would've been in a very comfortable posistion to ask you out to lunch with just him in the near future.

In short, I think he likes you, you turned him down, he probably feels abit ****ty. So do him (and you) a favour and ask him out to lunch today.

[superduper9]

(Original post by Halogenation)
In short, I think he likes you, you turned him down, he probably feels abit ****ty. So do him (and you) a favour and ask him out to lunch today.

Precisely this! He did what I suggested you should do - lunch / drinks with the company of friends and then once comfortable, a lunch / drinks with just the two of you. So I agree with Halogenation, to show you're still interested, invite him to lunch soon - either today or tomorrow!

[Foo.mp3]

1. Smile at him a lot
2. Flirt (naturally/subtly)
3. Tell other people you think he's "really nice"
4. Drop hints
5. Go nuclear (ask if he's on facebook and chat him up on there)

[Studentus-anonymous]

"Hurr durr I like a boy so I'm going to turn down his advances herp derp"

Ah gotta love human psychology, sometimes I wonder how we manage to procreate.

[Tizz]

(Original post by Meltingice)
He's giving me really odd signs to be honest. I can't even tell if he's interested! And I don't really want to join his group of friends for lunch because I used to go out with one of his mates and that would make things really awkward....

There isn't any progress at the moment we're basically still talking.. I'm usually the one who starts the small talks and yeah.. still no contact details.

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-I9300

Of course he'll give you odd signs if you turn him down. It's up to you to make some kind of move. Weather it's getting fb details or goin for lunch or drinks after work.

[Rock Fan]

(Original post by Studentus-anonymous)
"Hurr durr I like a boy so I'm going to turn down his advances herp derp"

Ah gotta love human psychology, sometimes I wonder how we manage to procreate.

Ha I know unbelievable she's totally ****ed that up, damnit i tried to give you positive rep and it went on negative for some reason