My Secret Life: Normal? (Does contain adult themes)
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My Secret Life: Normal? (Does contain adult themes)
Recently I have come to terms that I have a bit of a secretive life. It's nothing too bad but some people would be quite grossed out by it.
I am a virgin and haven't had many girlfriends and usually when with girls I like, even if they are a girlfriend at the time I can be very shy and so on.
Getting to my secretive life I have a secret collection of female clothes, mostly underwear, some costumes, shorts, dresses, and for the record all have been bought, I don't go around swiping anything from people's drawers or washinglines as I am aware some people do that but that is stealing and is wrong. The point is I do dress up in them in private.
I also have a pretty big collection of adut dvds, some storybased films and some just straight to the point, all are rated r as I have bought them from a licensed sex shop.
I have some toys too, I have two dildos, a few buttplugs (I am not gay as I have no attraction to men but just want to feel what it is like and fantasise being a girl sometimes) and I have a fleshlight, a handheld vagina toy and two fake vagina/ass toys, which aren't handheld.
My point is would you be grossed out by this? Is it normal? I am an average guy, it's just in private I like to do this stuff and as I want to stay a virgin and keep it special for the girl I hopefully end up with and have got to the point where we decide to be together and it is the right time, I find that the toys and dvds help me out. The dressing is kind of similar but is a little bit of a fantasy for me too, if in a proper long relationship I think the dressing could easily be stopped because I think it's just my way of getting pleasure without anyone else taking part. -
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Is there anyone with any thoughts? I'm aware most guys might take the mick out of me for using those things and stuff even if they don't think it's that bad but I'm curious to see what their true thoughts are and especially what the female view is on it too.
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That's quite out of the ordinary but if someone who genuinely cared or liekd you found out I doubt it would make a huge difference. Depends on the person I guess.
As a stranger the first thing I hear about you is that and I'm a bit...oooer but if I think about my boyfriend randomly revealing this or my best friend then I can see myself in that position and I'd just think ''hmm, you kept that a secret'' I'd probably ask a few questions and after which I'd be cool with it. It is a bit heavy going for first convo but you can find loads of people like that on communities such as fetlife etc.
I don't see a problem with it but I can understand why someone might. :/ All the best
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Re: My Secret Life: Normal? (Does contain adult themes)LOL you chose this thread for your first post? Welcome to(Original post by Beatrice.)
That's quite out of the ordinary but if someone who genuinely cared or liekd you found out I doubt it would make a huge difference. Depends on the person I guess.
As a stranger the first thing I hear about you is that and I'm a bit...oooer but if I think about my boyfriend randomly revealing this or my best friend then I can see myself in that position and I'd just think ''hmm, you kept that a secret'' I'd probably ask a few questions and after which I'd be cool with it. It is a bit heavy going for first convo but you can find loads of people like that on communities such as fetlife etc.
I don't see a problem with it but I can understand why someone might. :/ All the best
You'll fit right in
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Re: My Secret Life: Normal? (Does contain adult themes)haha oh no, will people forever know this!?(Original post by Miss O.C.D)
LOL you chose this thread for your first post? Welcome to
You'll fit right in
Thank you for the welcome, let the good times roll on. woo second post!
Sorry, I don't know why I got so excited.
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LOL unless someone is creepy and looks at your stats then no one will know .. except me(Original post by Beatrice.)
haha oh no, will people forever know this!?
Thank you for the welcome, let the good times roll on. woo second post!
Sorry, I don't know why I got so excited.
Nothing to be ashamed of anyway! It's a nice post. I'm Liv btw
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No idea whether it's normal or not but it wouldn't creep me out in any way, I don't think. Definitely nothing wrong with cross dressing in my opinion and there's a lot of weirder stuff people are into sexually so no problem there. It's your way of keeping yourself occupied until you feel ready to commit to a woman sexually and as long as it works for you, awesome
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I wouldn't bring this up as a conversation starter! But if my boyfriend revealed it to me, I think I'd just make fun of him for a while as a joke (because that's how we are) but i'd be absolutely fine with it! I'd ask where he got the clothing from, that I'd worry about, but if he said he bought it, I'd be fine with it! I'm sure these things are very normal
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not 'grossed out' per se... just sounds a bit excessive?