Escorting, selling my virginity. (positive advice only)

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Hey OP

can you message me please. similar position and it would be nice to talk to someone without going into detail openly.

Reply 21

Guy Secretan

When you say few work do they claim benefits?

Reply 22

Ortegas

Your mind has sealed, no nothing will change you I guess.
I just wish you best since you are about to shoulder a whole lot of societal bias and judgments. Just remind you there are two important issues to take care of:

- A careful consideration for discretion. Absolute discretion means you will have to compartmentalize your social connection. Your family, your friends and even your future partners will never know your job. You will have to try your best to fit in those 2 roles in your life.

- A disciplined practice of emotional compartmentalization. The difference between sex workers and other employees is that sex itself is a natural need to any human. Considering using it to exchange for material means is something that abuse its natural purpose, accepting that you may go through all this without never being the same person before. You shall need someone to befriend, someone who can truly understand and let you share your life without passing judgment on you

Aside from that, perhaps developing your ethical and moral standards along the way, as you are collecting experience. Just because you're a sex worker doesn't mean you don't have any standard.

I have had 3 partners before who are call-girls, so I can understand at least their own world. It's nothing too grim like in ****ty novels or movies, on the bright side, you may be even very mature after all these.

Have you considered your sex drive, are you a high sex-drive person?

Reply 23

Crimmy

my only suggestion would be to give exotic dancing etc a good try first, and use the escorting as your last option, you dont want to sell your virginity if you can, it'll mess up the rest of your life.

Reply 24

username418231

Original post by Anonymous

2) Find an older, rich guy to go out with who will give you gifts. Sell gifts on ebay to make the money.

Rinsing

Reply 25

sund1ata

Original post by hali0112

When I read this it saddened me to think that an educated intelligent girl (at university) could sell your virginity. As a virgin myself, I'm scared to lose mine but I am in a relationship with someone I love. But even I am scared of the unknown, the intimacy and the pain. that is something that I will eventually do when I am comfortable and really ready emotionally and physically. It surprises me that a girl could sell it to a stranger as some kind of transaction. I know some people don't place as much signifcance on virgininity but it's still an intimate experience and for a girl it should be lost with someone that you trust, feel safe and comfortable with. Maybe you should wait a while until you have lost your virginity and done some sexual acts with a guy you trust and respect. Meet people who are in the industry and get advice on the realities of escorting and prostitution so that you are more informed. You can escort without having sex. This will make you a lot of money without even having to take your clothes off but there are also lots of risk. You cannot trust anyone that uses these services seeing as you have never met them before and don't know what they will try and do to you during the time they pay you for. They could take advantage of you.

That is s**t advice. Firstly: no, it's not possible to make "lots of money without taking your clothes off". Men don't pay women tons of cash to go to nice meals and wear pretty dresses at nice restaurants. If that's the case, why isn't everybody doing it? There is no market for taking starving, opinionated undergrads to expensive dinners that they'd usually have to pay for - sorry. Unless you are damned lucky and find a rare agency, all escort work is sex work, which at least the OP has made her peace with if said poster above has not.

Most girls don't wait for Prince Charming to lose their virginity to either. You might be waiting a long time for this fantasy character, just like the "advisor" here, who is still a virgin despite having found the guy! Gimme a break. People lose it in all sorts of ways, and "for profit" is quite clever. Why not? It doesn't have to scar you if you are prepared, and you'll realise that it's not even the big deal it's cracked up to be.

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Reply 26

sund1ata

Original post by silverbolt

If your so desperate for money then have you looked into lap dancing - you take your clothes off in both industries but at least you dont have to sleep with anyone

Lap dancing is not sex work. There is no connection or comparison between the two. Pretty insulting to suggest lapdancing for those "desperate for money". It's not some unskilled trade like working at some
kebab shop. It's hard! The artists - artists - are talented entertainers and not everybody has the body, dance ability and sexuality to do it. It's not like getting some drunken fresher to fumble with her bra for a ten pound note.

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Reply 27

silverbolt

Original post by sund1ata

i never said it was sex work.

And ok mate if you say so. Hard work yes - il freely give that - but lap dancing is not skilled work - you gyrate a bit and take your clothes off

Reply 28

makaveli33

You guys are funny.

Basically if you are intelligent and cannot get women or men, study the opposite sex.

Reply 29

makaveli33

Original post by sund1ata

Some very religious women are interested only in marriage. :smile:

Reply 30

4RealBlud

I'll buy it. 50,000 ugandan dollars

Reply 31

Michaelj

Suppose if you really wanna be a prositute and be considered lower by people including your clients then go for it. Money isn't everything.. And yes you can make a good living depending what you look like. But if you feel scared and nervous when your client comes to take your virginity, don't expect any sympathy when he's likely to be abusive.

Reply 32

ProfessorPester

You will hate yourself in the future for doing this, selling your body for cash. How will everyone react? Your parents would be so upset and probably ashamed and your friends would see you as a complete joke. People really are judgemental these days.

Just think how your parents and family will acknowledge this, they would hate themselves and feel guilty thinking they went wrong somewhere raising you.

Also if your hoping to get married and have children then good luck, men will simply say '**** this' and walk off after you told them or found out and if they did know about it they would simply use you for sex and then **** off.

It is such a shame to hear students selling themselves just to continue their education, this country is broken.

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Reply 33

.Scout.

I'm pretty open minded when it comes to stuff like this and think that if the girl is happy to do so, why shouldn't she work as an escort? I've met a few people who have tried escorting to pay their way at university and a couple now do exotic dancing as an alternative. I've never judged once however, due to you saying in one of your posts that you were sexually assalted before,I think you'd be foolish to give escorting a go.

You were assalted in a safe environment before, what's stopping this happening again? Despite being at an agency, my friends said they still dodn't feel particularly safe as who knows what the guys could potentially do? It's naive of you to think that you'd be in total control: my friend had clients who were verbally and physically agressive, belittling, with the mentality that as they're paying for you that you have to do whatever they want. To them she was just a sex object. My friend is thick skinned and confident yet I know that this effected her a lot, her self esteem is in shatters. She no longer works as an escort and has so much regret for doing it.

I've had a few ONS and don't regret them at all. However this is COMPLETELY different to escorting as I chose the guys that I had these ONS's with. If you work for an agency you may think that you'd be able to chose who your clients are but in reality you don't - if you start getting picky the agency will simply stop offering you work.

I think that you're very naive to think that working as an escort wouldn't effect your emotional health. Do you have any one to confide in? What would you do if people found out? What would your mum say if she found out how you were funding her healthcare and surely wouldn't she question where large sums of money came from, anyway?

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Reply 34

hali0112

Original post by sund1ata

Okay, firstly, there are all kind of escorts out there. If a man wanted a woman just for sex, he'd hire a prostitute. An escort is not a prostitute. Some escorts offer sex if they are offered more money but the main job of an escort is to accompany or 'escort' (as it says in the name) a person to an event for example. Sex is not the main purpose of an escort. most people choose not to escort cos it's demeaning to sell your time and self to another human being to be used as he/she sees fit. an escort usually isn't allowed to just be herself and talk openly and be opinionated. they are hired by wealthy men usually to just look pretty and smile and make the man look good. In today's day and age and with the rise of feminism, many women choose not to do this. I have nothing against a woman who does this through her own informed choice. Wealthy men who are alone also like to pay for company if they are lonely and cannot find partners themselves socially.

It is my opinion, with who or when I chose to lose my virginity. I have found my guy, yes but I haven't lost it for my own personal reasons. The OP may not share the same opinions as me on sex and that is up to her. I am just presenting one view that she may consider/dismiss as she sees fit. People do lose it in different ways and that is up to them. As I said, people do have different views on sex and I am presenting one view. It may not be a big deal for you but for most girls, their first time usually is. I know lots of girls who regret their first time and I just want the OP to be prepared so she knows exactly what she's letting herself in for emotionally and physically.

Reply 35

fuzznbass

Can you not beg for money on the 'net ? become a busker or something instead, kinda less degrading options

Reply 36

Studentus-anonymous

Original post by Anonymous

TL;DR at bottom

Obvious troll is obvious.

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Reply 37

Umer786

Seeing the absolute disgust and nonsense people come up with is sheer laughter. I mean if your become an escort why tell us go ahead and do it. Jus think about how your mum would feel. Seeing you sell your self respect not that you'll have any left. Sorry to say, the truth hurts.

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Reply 38

AndyJay123

Message me if you become one.. Free trial for positive feedback (Y)

But seriously.. You're in uni so well educated, seems a bit of a waste to sell your body. Why don't you just find a decent paying job bla bla bla :smile:

Reply 39

JammyChoos

If you want to do it then do it. But beware, it will bite you in the backside if you go on to pursue a normal career after.