[Anonymous]

My ex recently got a picture sent around online (including her fb) of her naked on fb. It's really affecting me even though we've been split for months. I know that this isn't her and the way shes behaving isn't what she was like was when she was with me.

I don't know why its affecting me, as everyone's saying, it's not your problem, shes no longer with you, but yet it still hits a nerve. One minute I'm feeling like, prehaps I trapped her into a relationship she didn't want and now she's free she's finally able to behave the way shes always wanted. Then the other part of me its sorrow that she's obviously that low and craving attention from other men, and it's like I know I'd give her that attention had she chosen not to give us up. I'm also mad because all my friends and peers have seen the image and it feels like something I cherished and had is now everyones to see and it hurts and I know it will be devastating for her.

I dunno why I'm posting really, I just need to vent. I know I shouldn't be bothered, if anything you could call this 'justice' after everything thats happened between us (we didnt end well), but i just feel ****. Realistically I'm just looking for someone to talk to.

[Anonymous]

nothing? ;[

[ct2k7]

It will hurt - she was a part of your life and to see such treatment of her body will hurt. It's normal.

[Schmucks]

(Original post by ct2k7)
It will hurt - she was a part of your life and to see such treatment of her body will hurt. It's normal.

This - It's the same for people who see their ex's on a few rebounds after them when it wasn't in their nature to do so before.

It's completely normal, though, to feel the way you do, so don't worry about it. What is your relationship with her like now, are you friends? Do you talk at all?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Schmucks)
This - It's the same for people who see their ex's on a few rebounds after them when it wasn't in their nature to do so before.

It's completely normal, though, to feel the way you do, so don't worry about it. What is your relationship with her like now, are you friends? Do you talk at all?

Nope not friends and we don't talk. I did tell her about the picture and she said she appreciated me telling her. But I feel so ****ty. It's unreal.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Nope not friends and we don't talk. I did tell her about the picture and she said she appreciated me telling her. But I feel so ****ty. It's unreal.

What communication do you have with her, at all?

[Schmucks]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Nope not friends and we don't talk. I did tell her about the picture and she said she appreciated me telling her. But I feel so ****ty. It's unreal.

That'll be a reason why you feel this way, too - The lack of communication brings this on as more of a surprise, so it affects you more.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by ct2k7)
What communication do you have with her, at all?

Literally that call, i have text/emailed her but she didnt respond and i just stopped.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Schmucks)
That'll be a reason why you feel this way, too - The lack of communication brings this on as more of a surprise, so it affects you more.

(Original post by Anonymous)
Literally that call, i have text/emailed her but she didnt respond and i just stopped.

This, it will hurt, and there's not much you can do, if she's moved on.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by ct2k7)
This, it will hurt, and there's not much you can do, if she's moved on.

It's the fact I know this isnt her and in the past before we started being official she had big issues with attention and guys and she did things she regretted and i see her going back to this way and it hurts..

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Anonymous)
It's the fact I know this isnt her and in the past before we started being official she had big issues with attention and guys and she did things she regretted and i see her going back to this way and it hurts..

Could you give us an age timeline? I.e how old you both were when things happened?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by ct2k7)
Could you give us an age timeline? I.e how old you both were when things happened?

17-22

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Anonymous)
17-22

Basically, in this age frame, females tend to "mature" into immaturity. They are sexually unstable. This could contribute to her actions.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by ct2k7)
Basically, in this age frame, females tend to "mature" into immaturity. They are sexually unstable. This could contribute to her actions.

Just if it is because she craves attention, or that love it hurts because I still have it for her...

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Just if it is because she craves attention, or that love it hurts because I still have it for her...

Having your wife/ spouse cheat on you gives you a porno film in your head with the wayward spouse as the star.

It is distressing, I know.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by ct2k7)
Having your wife/ spouse cheat on you gives you a porno film in your head with the wayward spouse as the star.

It is distressing, I know.

It's horrible really is. feel ill.

[Tensei]

Aw

It's cus your a good guy..... For us this stuff hurts, I have had my own experience 😞


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