I love my boyfriend, but he's gained moobs
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I love my boyfriend, but he's gained moobshey
i started dating my boyfriend a year ago. I'm 19 now, and he's the same age too.
I first met a guy when I was 17. I thought he was a nice guy until I asked him about a text on his phone. He got really angry, i was scared, and he almost went to hit me. I split from him straight away.
I didn't trust guys at all, and because of that, never wanted to date anyone again.
In the last year of secondary school, when i was 16, i had to move up maths groups and became friendly with a guy. He was always making me laugh, smelt nice haha, and just seemed really nice to be around.
I met that other guy a year later, and then split. I never told anyone about him almost hitting me other than my best mate and my parents.
Right from secondary school, a bunch of us girls and guys always used to go out now and again. That guy from my maths group was always there. Last year, he asked me out.
He's a really sweet, loving, protective man who is still that funny nice smelling person who i sat with in maths haha. I feel safe with him, he's kind... my Mum & Dad don't drive, and they had to transfer once to another airport. It was 4am and my boyfriend drove them 50 miles over to the other airport. At 4am!
He's always been a bigger built/chubby guy... he plays rugby so he's fit, but he's probably gained about 2 stone over the past few months. it's all gone to his belly and chest.
i still have feelings for him, and he still has a cute and cuddily body, which i love, but it's just he has moobs. if he's wearing a shirt and a jumper, he looks how he always did. If he didn't have the moobs, i wouldn't be writing this because i dont mind a bigger guy.
Thing is, he's really loving, and haha i love him. i dont want to offend him. i don't really want to say anything, but if he could lose the extra weight, it'd be better!
how do i tell him? xx -
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Re: I love my boyfriend, but he's gained moobsVery, very sensitively!
I mean, he'll know he has gained weight and that he has moobs. He'll know his own body. What he doesn't know at this point is that you'd prefer for him to lose that bit of extra weight.
Maybe it would help figuring out how he has gained that weight so quickly? As he plays rugby, and he's physically fit otherwise, there must be a reason. Has he changed his eating habits? Maybe you could cook him some nice, healthy meals if so?
If he's gained that weight whilst he's still playing rugby, his coach will surely pick up on it as well, so his coach might nudge him in the right direction, because you say it's fat, not muscle.
But otherwise it's a tricky one, as you love him and don't want to hurt his feelings. And it's not lack of exercise, otherwise you could work out together to solve it. So yes, I would look at what might have caused it first, because it may be something that's easily turned around.Last edited by Kittiara; 08-08-2012 at 21:59. -
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Re: I love my boyfriend, but he's gained moobsPlays rugby so he's fit? It doesn't matter what you play if you play it half heartedly. Fat guys usually can't play that hard imo so being part of a club might sound impressive but they're probably the deadwood in the team.
There's no way you can sensitively tell him tbh. Why don't YOU try to get more fit and talk to him about it, perhaps get him to join you in the gym or on your nutrition goals. Set yourself some goals together, maybe when you're doing this suggest "oh you'd look amazing if you..." You get the idea. Sorting out your food is the best and quickest way to lose weight, exercise comes second.
Most people that are fat know they are fat. They just don't care. Give him a reason to care.
