Friendzoned fml

Lool thank you, this just really caught my eye though.
True say though, but I seriously applaud guys for having the courage to ask a girl out. That **** is NOT easy!

haha, don't worry, walk around like it wasn't that big of a deal, and obviously everyone's just gonna forget about it after a while. Is this the first time this happened to you?

Haha I've been browsing these relationship forums for months and stuff still catches my eye, it's my guilty pleasure really. The "15 and virgin never kissed a girl" sorta threads get old fast though.

Yes, it's very difficult as everyone hates rejection. Best to test the water with some flirting first though and see how they react, I'm not a fan of the drunk kiss technique.

Do you think that it's ok for girl to ask a guy out instead of the guy making the effort and have you ever done so?
EDIT: seeing as you got friendzoned I guess you must have !

That technique of testing the water with flirting is like partially ineffective, reason being because a lot of girls just have flirty personalities so you really can't tell.
Personally, when it comes to girls asking guys out, that's not my approach. I go with the traditional way of guys taking the first time. Girls however should be receptive to all the 'signs' of a guy dropping hints and bla bla
Either way, it's all tricky business with a whole lot of guesswork

That technique of testing the water with flirting is like partially ineffective, reason being because a lot of girls just have flirty personalities so you really can't tell.
Personally, when it comes to girls asking guys out, that's not my approach. I go with the traditional way of guys taking the first time. Girls however should be receptive to all the 'signs' of a guy dropping hints and bla bla
Either way, it's all tricky business with a whole lot of guesswork

to reply to the first post you made as well as this one

yea you are less likely to see many girls being friend zoned due to the reason you just posted
most girls do tend to wait for the guy to make the first move

and yea your right i've met so many flirty girls and experience taught me it doesn't count for much especially if thats their nature

the friendzone thing is so tough but only one way to avoid it

be flirty with girls
show some signs of interest
and after a few weeks if things continue flirty (and some good ineundo's seem to serve as good enough) then ask out

but not the big friends for months before
i know some people are like thats the way to do it, but its also the best way to get yourself friendzoned especially when you act too friendly with girls aka giving them that good emotional connection so that they only see you as a friend and nothing more

That is a good point actually, girls can be flirty people, that's usually the problem on towie
Girls are meant to be the sensitive ones who notice the little things so that seems suitable, but yes inevitably someone has to take the plunge !

That's sooooo true! I actually notice though when a guy does like me, straight away. I won't string them along though, I'll let him know either 'Oh, i like you to, let's go out' or 'I'm sorry, I dont see you that way, so if it's okay with you, can we still be friends? '

And on that note, how okay is it to say that to a guy after you reject him? :/

So mere minutes after meeting them you come straight out with it?
Seems efficient though. Well there's no real way to sugar coat it, if the guy is like absolutely crazy about you then saying let's be friends is just going to enrage him, and he's going to try again to get you in a relationship at a later date, if a guy is crazy about you and you ain't feeling it, then a little time apart or be a bit distant is the best option.
If they've just met you though and are trying it on, then being really upfront about it and taking control and saying no lets be friends, would be no harm at all.

I dont think there's anything wrong with girls asking guys out, cause guys are usually straight forward, unless they're the skanky type who flirt with anything with a pair of boobs lool I'm just too scared to do it myself !

That seems like a good plan though

yea its a plan learnt after mistakes

not usually friendzoned myself but well aware of it and seen my friends get into it

and myself and fine with girls asking guys out

but in my opinion unless its a shy guy then girls usually should just leave the guy enough signs for him to then take initiative to ask the girl out

only because if the girl makes it too easy for the average guy it will only end badly

Agreeeed. being friendzoned sucks though, mine was easy, but for a lot of people out there, it's so much worse.
Shy guys are awesome, there's like a 99% chance he's a player, or he'll be the one to mess the relationship up by cheating or flirting with another girl ! But they're just not for me, I'm too loud and aggressive to be with a shy guy

yea i'm the same when it comes to shy girls i'm just too loud not so much aggressive and wouldn't be able to stand a shy girl if she couldn't open up after a while

It's just it's going to be so messy as the girl I asked out friend has apparently fancied me for years, and I was an ******* and never paid attention to her, now she'll probably hate me and I'll have no-one left.

This girl that friendzoned me dates good looking douche bags and not guys like me that actually care for her. **** this, she was actually one of my best friends.

Have you ever thought that she is being loyal to her friend who liked you? Letting you down the easy way. It would be pretty low to date someone your friend has fancied for years. It might make things awkward for them.
Friendship always comes before a potential partner.

You know the saying bros over hos well there's a female equivalent chicks over dicks or something like that.It's called karma mate. You're getting a taste of your own medicine which is the only way some people learn. You can't really say anything bad about the girl's character when your behaviour mirrors hers. She dates good looking douches and you've fancied someone who is similarly shallow. Guys who like girls for looks over personality and reject the nice girls get the same sort of treatment they complain about when girls reject nice boys.
Life lesson 1: looks fade but personality is forever. Learn from this and move on. Make new friends.

Have you ever thought about the pain and resentment her friend feels for having feelings for you and being rejected because she is not "good looking enough?" It's probably similar to how you're feeling now. Don't expect her to come back though no one likes to be seen as rebound or rejected material or being settled for.
You've probably screwed up her image of guys and now she will think all guys are jerks. She may also be less reluctant to be trusting and friendly to guys..maybe even act bitchy or jerk like to future guys who shows interest. Then guys wonder why nice girls don't exist or why girls are bitchy and easily give a cold shoulder to upcoming advances. So thanks for turning a nice girl into acting opposite of that.


Definitely expect her to discuss it with her friends. It shows loyalty in not dating someone your friend fancies. It shows loyalty to friendship over a fleeting summer fling/romance