[Pixxl]

Hi, I am making a short documentary based around students losing there virginity and was wondering if anyone could help by answering a few question's or sharing some stories.

How important is losing your virginity before / during university?

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?


I think it's only fair if I answer so from my own experience;
How important is losing your virginity before / during university?Having lost mine during my first year of university I feel that it is not as big a deal as it is often made out to be, however lots of pressure was put on me by others in my flat to get with girls. I also found that people often said they respected me for not having slept with random people beforehand and also they regretted there first time.

Do/ Did you feel pressured into losing your virginity?

In my friendship group the word Virgin was often used as an insult.

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?
From my experience I think that girls are more put of by somebody being a Virgin than Guys?


Would love to hear peoples responses!

[BJP]

Not very - it just happens when it happens.
No I didn't.
Not at all.

[Joanna-Marie :)]

Not very important - Ultimately it's important to wait until your ready and when you are it just happens

A little - Most people in the social group had already lost their virginity and you can sometimes feel different but I stress the fact that it's important to not be pressured and wait

No at all

Hope this helps with your documentry

[XEskimokissX]

How important is losing your virginity before / during university?
It seemed like a big deal, and now that it's done, I honestly don't see why it was.
Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?
I guess a bit, though only by myself. Nobody told me I had to, I was just. Sick of the invisible label I suppose.
Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?
Nope :-)






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[cl_steele]

How important is losing your virginity before / during university? Not very, certainly wouldnt think any differently of someone if they hadnt.

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity? I did.

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner? Nope, might just be me but i find it a nice thing.

[Xhotas]

How important is losing your virginity before / during university?

I lost my virginity when I was 15, the only thing I regret was not knowing what the hell foreplay was and the consequences of "going in dry." My bellend was sore for about a week. Growing up we all made a massiveeeee deal out of sex, especially at my age. I was one of the few in my school who had actually had sex (bear in mind it was a smallish, growing school, my year was the oldest so we didn't have any "role models" or anything, we were for the rest of the year) but everyone else said they had.

In a broader sense, I'd say there is a pressure during uni and before. While most of us (I like to think) are confident enough to stand up for themselves and not care if they don't, but it can be used as an insult for many guys. However, I'd say the guys I know who are virgins are more proud of that fact and aren't interested in sleeping around. These kind of guys get a lot of respect from men and women and one of them is such a little player, even though he doesn't take it much further. Girls get it slightly easier, but the pressure can still be in. You'd have to be pretty ignorant to not see that it depends on the group of friends you end up with at university as to whether sex means anything. Generally, how cruel they can be, though I find this is rare at my university and group of friends and I know a huge variety of people.

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?

Hell yes. I want to be popular by sleeping with the local slag haha. If you were in a relationship, everyones question is always "Have you had sex yet?" which gives the impression that it's a key part of all relationships no matter what stage it's at. Personally I do find sex as an important part of a relationship, however I understand why people would think otherwise.

At university, the groups with virgins in them haven't really been pressured into losing them. If their getting with people in a club we ask if they are going to take him/her home but usually they either don't have the confidence or don't want to. We have banter if they fail or say no, but we'd never intentionally try to force them into it or hurt their feelings.

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?

My current girlfriend was a virgin when we got together, we don't speak about my sexual past and I'd rather keep it that way. As far as I'm concerned, it isn't important in my current relationship and I wouldn't want it to make her uncomfortable. She knew I wasn't a virgin though.

In heterosexual relationships:

It completely depends on the person. Most people will not care, however you do get people who want someone who is experienced and doesn't want to "teach" so to speak. Though I find this kind of person is rare, though do exist. Both sexes can be put off virgins for one night stands, however when it comes to relationships it is rarely a problem considering.


I'm not going to lie, this stuff is pretty common sense. Few people will give unique views other than from personal experiences of some, though meh.

[williams22]

I would say Virginity considered as a purity in Many countries/religions and its equal for both girls and boys.

I am Indian, and here if somebody have intercourse before marriage is considered as murder., society wouldn't accept him/her
They may loose they modesty, respect around people where they stay.

I am still virgin, According to me virginity is equal to purity of body, mind and soul. Also it separate we(humans) from animals for not being involved with multiple partners.

Our beloved God has made rules for the benefits of we(humans), if we follow we would be happy ..else ......................


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syed

[sellerofdreams]

(Original post by williams22)
I would say Virginity considered as a purity in Many countries/religions and its equal for both girls and boys.

I am Indian, and here if somebody have intercourse before marriage is considered as murder., society wouldn't accept him/her
They may loose they modesty, respect around people where they stay.

I am still virgin, According to me virginity is equal to purity of body, mind and soul. Also it separate we(humans) from animals for not being involved with multiple partners.

Our beloved God has made rules for the benefits of we(humans), if we follow we would be happy ..else ......................


------
syed

And that's exactly what's wrong with Indian culture, the belief that losing your virginity before marriage makes you less of a person.


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[PerArduaAdAstra]

Not important.

Only subtle/societal pressure, nothing obvious.

Not at all.

[blue n white army]

a) i lost mine when i was 16 so never really thought about, i don't think it's important though.

b) again i lots mine at 16 so i was one of the first in my friendship group to lose it so there was zero pressure. In my friendship group there still are a couple of virgins and it's not an issue and there's no pressure. However my friends at uni is a different matter and there would be a lot of stick if i was still a virgin.

c) not at all sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship for me, with my current gf i was happy to wait a couple of months. I honestly think it would be a bigger deal for a girl than it would be for a guy.

[tehFrance]

(Original post by Pixxl)
How important is losing your virginity before / during university?

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?

How important is losing your virginity before / during university?
Not that important although I got it over with before university so I didn't care.

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?
Nope.

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?
Yes as I am not the right person to take what some people see as special and meaningful as I did not see it that way.

[vaguity]

(Original post by Pixxl)
Hi, I am making a short documentary based around students losing there virginity and was wondering if anyone could help by answering a few question's or sharing some stories.

How important is losing your virginity before / during university?

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?

1) I don't think it's important, but I lost mine when I was 16 so I guess I might feel differently if I was a virgin now?

2) Nope, not at all. I can see why some people would be though.

3) No, I think I'd actually prefer that. I'd like the idea of being someone's first, it's cute, even if I personally didn't see losing my virginity as a big deal at all.


Besides, don't you know you get 10 devil points for 'taking' someone's virginity if you're not one? Hell awaits!

[Little Wing]

(Original post by williams22)
I would say Virginity considered as a purity in Many countries/religions and its equal for both girls and boys.

I am Indian, and here if somebody have intercourse before marriage is considered as murder., society wouldn't accept him/her
They may loose they modesty, respect around people where they stay.

I am still virgin, According to me virginity is equal to purity of body, mind and soul. Also it separate we(humans) from animals for not being involved with multiple partners.

Our beloved God has made rules for the benefits of we(humans), if we follow we would be happy ..else ......................

Standard Indian brainwashing right here ^, and this is coming from an Indian.
------
syed

Standard Indian brainwashing right here ^, and this is coming from an Indian.

[WaceMindu]

How important is losing your virginity before / during university?
I lost mine during 6th form, for me it was fairly important that I lost before Uni, not really due to outside pressure but simply because I wanted to.

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?
I was never really part of a social group where everyone was loosing it, maybe 2 or 3 had and the rest hadn't so it wasn't really a huge talking or mocking part. However I was aware that the rest of the people in my year were losing it and so there was some pressure to lose it.

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?
No, if anything it makes them more appealing.

[Hal.E.Lujah]

(Original post by sellerofdreams)
And that's exactly what's wrong with Indian culture, the belief that losing your virginity before marriage makes you less of a person.


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Bit harsh, just a cultural difference.

[Rybee]

(Original post by BJP)
Not very - it just happens when it happens.
No I didn't.
Not at all.

x2

[sellerofdreams]

(Original post by Hal.E.Lujah)
Bit harsh, just a cultural difference.

This cultural difference ostracizes so many Indians from their family or society. I mean there's nothing wrong with it wanting to lose your virginity till our married but insisting that everyone must do the same as you is brainwashing. And ostracizing anyone who does not follow our ridiculous rules is just stupid. Tis coming from an Indian.


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[Hal.E.Lujah]

(Original post by sellerofdreams)
This cultural difference ostracizes so many Indians from their family or society. I mean there's nothing wrong with it wanting to lose your virginity till our married but insisting that everyone must do the same as you is brainwashing. And ostracizing anyone who does not follow our ridiculous rules is just stupid. Tis coming from an Indian.

That it may be, but you're kinda being hypocritical by saying she's not allowed to think that.

immm jus' sayin'

[SirMasterKey]

1. Nope.
2. Nope.
3. Has to be a resounding no if I don't want to be hypocritical.

[Mr Inquisitive]

How important is losing your virginity before / during university?
It wasn't the biggest concern ever, I suppose.

Do you feel pressured into losing your virginity?
I didn't, no.

Does somebody being a virgin put you of them as a potential partner?
Certainly not!