[Flyteryder]

I'm starting Brighton uni next Saturday. I'm gay and I used to be a really big slut until 2 months ago. I'm not interested in only sex now; I want a boyfriend. Of course I know boyfriends don't happen just like that, but is everyone just going to be sex mad? Will guys want to be friends and go on dates and build up to a relationship?

I've heard the first year is just sex mad.

[sjcxxx]

I imagine that there will be all kinds of people. Perhaps the majority won't be interested in a relationship, but I can't see that being the way for everyone. You feel that way, so there is bound to be others who do too.

[janet9]

It really varies. No one knows what the people you end up coming across will be like, that's beyond your control in some sense. You'll make friends absolutely, whether or not you'll choose to have a sexual fling with them is up to you. And the beautful thing about freshers is that noone cares! But always remember, no one gets to force you to do anything you don't want, and if you feel yourself getting close to someone or vice versa, make it clear. This is something you have to do, it's hard and you have to figure out how to do this yourself. I know many friends who came across douchy pervs on freshers, just ignore them and find some other people. Be safe, tiger.

[GPH92]

(Original post by Flyteryder)
I used to be a really big slut until 2 months ago.

.... lol

[askew116]

I'm also gay, and looking for a boyfriend, rather than sexual encounters.

Unfortunately, from my experience, guys only seem to be after sex, but the fact that people like you and me exist means not all guys are sex-mad!!

Best of luck with finding a boyfriend :-)

[Mrx123]

I imagine a lot of ppl are. I had a friend who went to uni a yr before me and he isnt the most confident guy around yet he lost his virginity 3 days in to his uni life


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[buildalegohouse]

A lot of people are to be honest. These stories you hear about threesomes? Yeah, they're true.
But there are also people who aren't. The mix at university is diverse, you'll meet all sorts of people; some might be interested in one night stands, others might be looking for something with longevity. It depends on the person-- try and associate yourself with the right people.

[HighestKungFu]

(Original post by GPH92)
.... lol

I was going to do the exact same thing. That sentence actually made me literally laugh out loud haha!

[Origami Bullets]

I don't know what you're expecting, but uni isn't some kind of massive orgy...

[CraigKirk]

(Original post by Flyteryder)
I'm starting Brighton uni next Saturday. I'm gay and I used to be a really big slut until 2 months ago. I'm not interested in only sex now; I want a boyfriend. Of course I know boyfriends don't happen just like that, but is everyone just going to be sex mad? Will guys want to be friends and go on dates and build up to a relationship?

I've heard the first year is just sex mad.

In my experience, the majority of gay guys rather unfortunately follow the stereotype of just wanting sex, or at least not wanting to commit to relationships. I only say unfortunately because it personally irritates me when such stereotypes that might affect me are enforced by the actions of others; I'm not interested in, nor looking down upon, their activities.

The best advice that I can give, to prevent distressing episodes like I have experienced in the past, is to have a somewhat stand-offish attitude to progressing to the dating stage. What I mean is don't go out looking for people who you might like to start a relationship with, as you won't know enough about them to know whether they're worth pursuing for potential love interest. You expose yourself to people who might like to take advantage if you go out looking yourself.

The best idea, in my opinion, is just to be friends with people, and if a feeling starts to mutually develop between you and another individual, then let it happen and go on dates and romantic shizz. This way, you're minimising the chances that it will end poorly.

Of course, my way, it's likely to take a considerably longer time. As such, you have to weigh up the pros and cons of patience vs. increased risk of hurt. I'm currently in a relationship which has lasted over seven months, and we're both very happy and intend to keep it going this way. Me going to uni hasn't really phased either of us. Best of luck in finding similar happiness!

[HelenaS88]

I think it depends on what stage of university you are at. To start with some, perhaps a majority, will go wild with the freedom - having your own room away from parents, etc, proximity to other young people, etc, and many will use this time to be more into 'just sex'. This is both for straight/gay and male/female IMO. As time passes, perhaps more in 2nd/3rd year from my experience people tend to settle down more.