[Packardbell123]

Came to university 2 days ago and I want to leave, I don't think I am cut out for uni I'm not enjoying it at all. Think this is due to depression I don't want to socialise, Ive taken all food and plates etc into my room, it feels like a prison. Mum has payed for freshers and gym ect. I haven't been to any induction days as I have no motivation to do anything I just want to stay in my room all day ... Never felt like this before.

[AmbaLaBamba]

You're obviously going to feel this way if you haven't experienced being away from family, friends and your home location before (if that's what you are doing). However all of this is part of growing up and getting in to the real world so to speak, so just relax and take some deep breaths. You really need to get out there and meet some new people, talk to them and see if any are feeling the same way as you (they probably are!). Walk around the town/city you're in and see what there is to do, go around campus and have a look around and if there are any student bars on campus or local meet up areas go and have a wander inside and see what there is to do and who there is to meet.

Don't stay in your room all day, it just makes things worse.

[DL-6]

Just stick it out... maybe you're a bit homesick?

[nasha.brewer]

I felt exactly like this when I got to uni. Being away from home properly for the first time is really scary but eventually you get used to it and soon you'll not want to go home. If you can get yourself to one induction lecture then that will make it much easier (mentally) to get to the rest. The inductions are a really great way of meeting people on your course, and so will guaranteed to have similar interests as you. You just need to go with the mind-set that no-one knows you so you can be whoever you want to be (I suggest super happy and confident even if your not feeling it).

One way which i found helped with being homesick was my parents stayed in a hotel near-by for a few days and kept popping up with sandwiches, and when they did go home I had skype (such a wonderful invention).

[eff01]

I felt exactly like this! At first it is tough, new surrounding, responsibility, living with people who you may not normally hang around with, but it will get better. You will find course friends, people in your block or Halls that you can get along with. My advice is be friendly and socialise. Everyone is in the same boat, everyone is trying to find their own way. Hang around with your flat mates, make the effort. The first few weeks are difficult, but if people try and include you in things or ask if you want to go on a night out, then do it. Explain that you are feeling a bit homesick as the likelihood is, so are all the other people. Don't be down, enjoy freshers and your first year .

[AcrylicInk]

I feel a bit like this, too. I think I would have been ok but my mom started crying before she left and it just made me feel guilty >.< Find out about clubs/societies you might be interested in. Try doing some sports or go to the gym or something. If you stay in your room and dwell on the issue you won't make it any better. At least wait for your lectures and stuff to start. Once you have stuff to do you'll have less time to miss home

[ATTICUS21]

(Original post by Packardbell123)
Came to university 2 days ago and I want to leave, I don't think I am cut out for uni I'm not enjoying it at all. Think this is due to depression I don't want to socialise, Ive taken all food and plates etc into my room, it feels like a prison. Mum has payed for freshers and gym ect. I haven't been to any induction days as I have no motivation to do anything I just want to stay in my room all day ... Never felt like this before.

You're going to be ok. Where are you at? Xx

[lifeisred]

I'm in the same situation and I have no idea what to do. I can't help but cry all of the time and I just feel so isolated from everything, i've even thought about harming myself because I don't see an escape

[Serentonin]

Same tbh. I expected not to like uni tbh because I'm not the sort of person who drinks and clubs etc, it's just not me. But everyones been lovely, met some nice people, and I still hate it. I guess I have to give it a go though. I just don't want to be here. Maybe it will get better after freshers.

[lifeisred]

That's what my parents keep telling me and I hope it's true, i guess it's just hard to get used to being alone a lot

[Dorito]

I didn't really like the first week. Everyone bangs on about Freshers week being the best week of your life... get that out of your head straight away because it really isn't. You're homesick and everything is 10x as expensive as it normally is! Honestly, I sat in my room in Freshers week and felt like Uni wasn't for me but I sucked it up and carried on and it improved, after a few weeks I was absolutely loving it. I'm in 3rd year now and still love it...

[JakeE10]

You're probably just out of your comfort zone - not being used to living away from home and away from family etc. If you just sit in your room all day then it's going to be on your mind the whole day, so you're actually making things 10x worse. Go out, meet people and enjoy yourself and before you know it you will love it and won't even want to go home!!! Good luck

[blow-ice]

I kind of feel the same way as you but I am trying to socialise, it just seems all my flatmates have clicked in a way I haven't. When I'm sitting with them I feel like I have nothing of worth to say so I'm quiet and when I do say something I'm sure it's stupid or boring. They're quite loud and 'laddish' and I never really was into that whole scene, it seems like I have nothing in common with them. I don't feel like myself at all.

However - and I have cried down the phone and skype to my best friends and mum, even to the point of saying I want to quit - I'm not going to give up cause I'd never forgive myself and I think you (and most people) would probably feel the same. It is hard and lonely but it'll get better, just have to get over that initial period. We have to be positive

[warp2125]

I really envy you m8.... I was desperate to get away from home and go to uni. Instead Im stuck at home doing a degree locally..... give it a go... dont end up like me full of regrets and slightly more angry and bitter then needs be.

[littlemissmidget123]

Just stick it out, not everyone at uni likes to party 24/7 you just need to find these people.
Please go along to the events, however hard you find it, as this is the best way of meeting people, you could try going out just one night, and you can always come home early if you dont like it.
After freshers week things will settle down, as you get into the new routine of work etc.
I know you may want to eat in your room, but if you go and eat in the kitchen you will get talking to your housemates more.
I would strongly advise you to stay for at least a few more weeks before leaving, so that you are 100% sure that you want to leave; 2 days is not long enough to make a life changing decision like this, and it will cost you a lot of money too. Everyone is in the same boat, and also misses home, perhaps get skype and use it to talk to your parents so you can see them, but my advice is to NOT go home, as it will not help your homesickness, try and stick it out, and it WILL get easier!

[Antifazian]

Freshers week isn't what uni is like all of the time - As hard as you might find it, you really need to get out of your room and try to socialise with people.

Go to those induction lectures, they're there to ease you into things. Have you been to the freshers fair and signed up to any societies?

You've only been there two days, and really you need to suck it up and get on with it a bit because you've not given it a decent chance yet, being stuck up in your room is not really giving it a good go. You can do it, don't have any regrets, get out there and try

[SuarezAlonso]

Man up.

[Saaaammm]

I know how you feel before I moved off to uni my depression was really bad and then when I moved it got worse since I had never really been away from my parents I cried the first day I was there to my mum on the phone begging her to let me move back home I literally cried for a week what made it worse was that my housemates were douchebags

I then started my course and found people who were in the same position as me I also spoke to a councillor every week which made me feel better...trust me just try to stick it out I'm pretty sure you will feel better soon


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