(Original post by repoman)
Hi TSR, please help me as I feel utterly depressed.
Im 26, a studying accountant but I am just awful at interviews. Since the start of the year I have been to quite a few interviews, mostly for temp/contract jobs some are permanent. Most of the feedback I get are very unhelpful (e.g. went for the other person) but some other feedback has been hard to take. Sometimes I come across nervous. The main reason is that they dont think Iwould be a good fit to their team or company, and I dont come across as enthusiastic enough in the interview. I've always been a quiet sort of person so maybe thats the difficulty.
It feels like you have to be ultra confident and talk lots of crap to pass interviews. Gone are the days where people selected the person on who can do the job the best. Now its who will be liked the most. By the way, none of the companies doubted I could do their job, and some of the jobs I have been applying to have been a little higher than what Ive done. As I am studying I want to progress, but a few recruitment agencies keep referring me to bog standard Accounts roles, with no scope to move up the chain.
And most of the jobs referred to are contract or temp jobs. Again I dont want this. I'm concerned I will have too many of those jobs on my CV and by the end, no employer will hire me:
Heres a brief look at my last 3 years so far:
: Worked in NHS. Was a temp for 3 months, but they kept me there until I left to go travelling for a few months. I was there for 2 and a half years! After all THAT TIME, they didnt offer me a permanent job. I felt a little insulted, I thought people temp for a few months, then get offfered to stay. Not with me
By the way I did not have an interview for this job. I started like a week after the agencies arranged the job for me, along with 2 temps. I outlasted both of them and I know if I didnt leave, I would still be there (as a temp probably!)
: I worked at a big company for 2 months. Was told before it was just gonna be 2 months and thats all. I did have an interview, but I was the only one invited so I was bound to be offered the job unless I did something stupid e.g. Wear Tshirt and shorts
: I was unemployed for 7 months! 7 months for someone who has good experience and studying to become a chartered accountant (I have done 4 exams so far, taking 1 this December). I went to several interviews, sometimes against lots of people, sometimes against one person. I was not successful in any of them. It was SOUL DESTROYING.
Until I got a 6 week contract end of July this year. Now thats finished. Weasent quite right for me, but again I gave 100% and the manager was very greatful of the work I did. By the way I didnt have an interview for this, but I had an interview for another job at the same company a few months ago, and we know what happened.
Last 2 weeks Ive had 2 interviews for permanent jobs and not succesful.
I am getting really depressed at why no company wants to hire me long term. The only people willing to hire me are for just a short period.
This is affecting other areas of my life, I feel I am restrcited by my lack of job. E.g. I cant move out of my parents house until I get a long term job. women are unlikely to date someone still living at home.
I see lots of my friends at around my age, they are settled down with a girlfriend, their own place, nice car, maybe married. Lots of social life etc...But they all have one thing in common, they have a stable job. I dont have any of that, but I think if I get a job, other things in my miserable life will fall into place.
One of my friends described me as the person who puts a lot of effort into all areas of life, but for some reasons, gets back very little or nothing, and having very bad luck!
I dont know what to do. Should I move country, maybe it may be easier to get a job with companies who appreciate actual skills and not how you come accross in a 50 min chat.