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Where did you meet 'Your Group' of friends at Uni?

Everyone talks about 'fidning your group' at Uni.

I'm on my second week and don't have all that in common with flat mates, and havent really found a group at all, whilst it seems others have.

I'm just kinda vaguely friends with everyone, but not great friends with any.

Reply 1

Samz

My course, :smile:

I'm not really sure how we met really, just kinda happened.. three of us started off in the same group for seminars and got talking, one of them knew a girl who was friends with another girl in her seminar group so then we all kinda stuck together.. then we met someone else who one of us vaguely knew from home.. it just kinda happened! I was panicking I was never going to make proper friends ever but it does just happen! I know that is absolutely no help for you what-so-ever but give it time, two weeks isnt really very long! :smile:

Reply 2

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Flat mates were okay at first. They seemed pretty chilled out until the partying started they basically get drunk and high pretty much every night. So apart from night time they are okay. I talk to them when I'm in the kitchen and stuff but wouldn't consider them close friends.

I knew a guy from my hometown who came to the same university. His flat mates were pretty cool and were more my type of people. I spend a lot of time at his flat with him and his flat mates. And then his flat mates kind of invited his friends over so now there is a group of 6-7 of us. Which is who I usually hang around with.

There is people on my course who are okay to talk to whilst waiting for lectures and stuff but I just can't seem to click with any of them. I've talked to several people on my course but the conversation kind of ends after the lecture and they go off back to their flat with their flat mates.

Reply 3

SlowlorisIncognito

My course.

However, you shouldn't feel tied to one "group" at university- it's not as cliquey as school. Many people will have friends from halls/accomadation, friends on their course, friends from societies/sports, and sometimes random friends that they have nothing as such in common with, but happened to meet with and click. Most people won't hang out with all these people at once, but it's nice to have a wide circle of friends, and always be open to meeting new people.

Two weeks is nothing. I just started my second year, and I'm still making new friends.

Reply 4

River Shadow

To be honest, I don't have a particular group of friends which I hang out with. I've met my friends at uni in a mixture of places - from societies, freshers' events, accommodation and my course, and as a result, a lot of them (outside of those circles, and academically/within accommodation) don't know one another. I don't go out/socialise that much, but I hang out with different friends, and have different friends for different things and stuff, like I go to stand-up comedy events with some friends, go out for coffee with others, TV-geekiness with others and so on. Like others have said, I think a lot of people at uni have many different 'groups' or circles of friends. People don't seem to have specific groups of friends anywhere near as much as they did in school/Sixth Form.

I'm in second year, and a lot of my close friends I didn't meet/become close with until several weeks into, if not more, my first term at university, so I wouldn't worry about not having a close group of friends yet! :smile:

I'm still making new friends a lot as well - meeting new people in societies, in classes (because my degree is comprised almost entirely of elective modules, I've got different classes for every module) and just in random places, and I meet friends through other people as well. Also, I just moved in with a group of people I didn't know, so I've just met a group of new people from that.