going to a lapdance club - cheating on you?

Poll

Your boyfriend in a lapdance club- is he unfaithful?

Your boyfriend/husband goes to a lapdance place , with friends, but gets up to nothing untoward or contraversial in there.
Do you as the girlfriend/wife regard this as cheating/ being unfaithful or have no problem with it?

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(edited 11 years ago)

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Reply 1

gemmam

Original post by Indo-Chinese Food

Personally I wouldn't class it as cheating.

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my ST18i

Reply 2

The Wild Youth

Personally, if they didn't "do" anything then for me its totally fine, no problem :smile:

Reply 3

Opinionscount

Haha no of course not. I mean I am not totally enthralled by my boyfriend having some naked chick dancing on top of him but I don't really care.

It's like I don't understand why some girls don't let their boyfriends watch porn...

Reply 4

boba

completely certainly not. I can understand why some girls/women would have a problem with it and not like them doing it or whatever but I cant see how it could possibly be seen as cheating.

Reply 5

Indo-Chinese Food

Original post by Opinionscount

its good to hear all the responses, i always suspected my girlfriend was a bit mad

Reply 6

medicine gapper

are these answers sarcastic?

as a male, my girlfriend would be enough for me. Why would i need to seek another women, even for a lap dance?

i can't tolerate someone who i am intimate with going to seek pleasure in a club where males dance and strip for them.

sorry mods, but liberation my ***

Reply 7

Em8980

No problem with it whatsoever :smile:

Reply 8

username1024541

Original post by medicine gapper

i think going with friends would be different to going on their own, i wouldnt really have a problem - i mean i wouldnt LIKE it but no real issue - with my boyfriend going out with mates to one! if he was on his own, that'd be a different matter because that'd be very specifically seeking pleasure rather than having fun on a night out with mates. as long as he spoke about it to me beforehand of course.

Reply 9

boba

Original post by medicine gapper

I can understand why you might not want them to do it, but its not really cheating as such is it? there not actually doing anything other than looking

Reply 10

Hopple

It's 'cheating' in the same way that looking at another girl's boobs/arse/legs is 'cheating', but it's not cheating in the way that screwing another girl is cheating.

Reply 11

Xhotas

My older brother's wife enjoys strip clubs more than he does. She's completely straight, just enjoys the atmosphere and the entertainment.

Women need to stop looking at strip clubs as being a den of sin and depravity, most decent ones in the UK may look a little seedy and the strippers can be a bit annoying, but generally I go because if you're drunk you get kicked out and they stay open until later than the clubs. If I'm still sober and fancy just having a few drinks with the lads and everywhere's shut, I go, pay expensive prices for the same drink but get excellent service and good entertainment. Hell going with female friends can be fun as you can get some pretty good pole dancers who just look impressive.

Getting a lapdance I can understand if a woman feels a bit sketchy about, but few strippers offer "extra" services and most do actually have boyfriends and just want to make a living. There's a no touch rule in most places, you get over it.

Reply 12

Indo-Chinese Food

Original post by medicine gapper

are these answers sarcastic?

as a male, my girlfriend would be enough for me. Why would i need to seek another women, even for a lap dance?
i can't tolerate someone who i am intimate with going to seek pleasure in a club where males dance and strip for them.

sorry mods, but liberation my ***

dude take a chill pill..

what if your g/f sucked at lapdancing :smile:

Reply 13

amyshamblesxx

I wouldn't class that as cheating.

This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad App

Reply 14

medicine gapper

Original post by boba

I can understand why you might not want them to do it, but its not really cheating as such is it? there not actually doing anything other than looking

everything is subjective.

In my view of the world , i would not tolerate it.

i guess, we have free will to decide our own expectations. My own morals and views means i would not tolerate my partner doing it, and i would be absolutely happy if she didn't tolerate me doing so either.

We are enough for each other.

Reply 15

concubine

I wouldn't class it as cheating.

I'd class it as stupid. Because they suck and are simply a waste of money.

Original post by medicine gapper

I hope you hate pr0n too.

Reply 16

Guru Jason

Original post by medicine gapper

What if were a friends stag do or something? It's not cheating in my opinion.

Reply 17

tory88

It's the next step up from watching porn I guess, and some people object to their partners doing that. So I can can see an argument against it, but on a personal level I wouldn't have a problem.

Reply 18

medicine gapper

Original post by Guru Jason

What if were a friends stag do or something? It's not cheating in my opinion.

getting a girl dancing , half naked over your (bleep) right before you give full commitment to one women, makes no sense to me.

stag does can be fun just talking, remembering old times, doing cool things

not this lol

Reply 19

medicine gapper

i think the poll needs to be ' would you accept it ' ?

many people feel 'cheating' is consensual relationships with someone else. so it's likely most voted 'no'

but...i doubt the polls would look like that if it was " is this something you'd tolerate in a relationship?"