I feel that something is wanting from my life.

Hi folks!

I'm nearly twenty, in a very highly paid job (I decided to skip uni - I guess I love the monies) and it looks like I have all the right moves when it comes to career progression. I have a stable family life, and great friends. But as I said, I just feel that there is something missing from my life.

Yeah, that's right, something as shallow as a girlfriend. >_>

That's something I've never had - and I feel terrible for it. Is it because of the pressures of modern society saying "YOU MUST BE IN A RELATIONSHIP, YOU!" - probably. Is it because of me slightly sad over my best-friend-cum-past-unrequited-love-interest being in a relationship? Probably that too.

Before you people suggest online dating, I've tried that - and I've had zero success on it. I don't know, it just sucks.

As I've skipped the uni bit, I don't mix with lasses my own age. What's the best way of doing so? Please don't mention clubs, I'm not a particular fan of clubbing - only go very rarely.

(I'm not incredibly desperate, it's just an odd feeling I have that something's missing.)

Reply 1

Elle333

hey

why don't you just go out and about meet some new people. It don't have to be clubbing, it could just be going out to a shopping centre with friends or cinemas, anything really, and then maybe you will start meeting new people and gain more confidence..... just a thought :smile:

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Reply 2

m76

Original post by Anonymous

Where are you living? A house share could help if you find the right mix of people.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by Elle333

hey

Most of my friends are at university, at least 80 miles away. The friends I have here I only do things like Airsoft with - not exactly the most varied of friends but yeah, they still count.

It'd be weird I think, if I were to just venture out on my own and just sit in the middle of a shopping centre somewhere. That'd obviously be the best way of meeting new people! :P

Original post by m76

Where are you living? A house share could help if you find the right mix of people.

Finding that right mix of people's going to be a right hassle. Oh, and I'm living at home at the moment by the way.

Reply 4

Elle333

Original post by Anonymous

isn't there any girls you talk to work?

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Reply 5

elixira

Visit your friends at uni, get a flatshare like the guy above said (I've never had any major flatmate issues and I've lived with about 20 different people over the years), socialise with workmates - meet their friends etc, go to local pubs etc with friends? I live in a town so there are certain pubs where all the young people hang out and you get to know everybody, a lot of friendships and romances are made that way here... it's different to clubbing as I also agree that's a useless way to meet anyone.

If you have time, sign up to some sort of course or class of any description, or volunteering, or any sort of local group that interests you. Even if you don't meet anyone special, it's always so nice to freshen up your social circles...

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Elle333

isn't there any girls you talk to work?

I'm the youngest in my work, all the females are about 26 or 27. And they're all in relationships. I don't work in some place like Morrisons or Greggs where there's likely to be people my age - in fact, pretty much everyone that does work in Greggs I know from school - however I work in a boring office doing an exciting job.

Original post by elixira

I've just decided can't move out right now because I want to save up as much money as I can until I get an even better paid job in a location closer to home. So that knocks shared flats out of the equation. :frown:

About the pub, yeah, that sounds a good idea. I go to the pub with my mates once a month usually, but we don't talk to anyone else, it's just us and our collective.

Thanks for the advice guys!