10 Myths About Introverts

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I can't be the only one that thinks giving yourself an arbitrary label most likely based on what is a shoddy piece of the softest science is utterly pointless?

This is a very good point, and if you think about it actually the reason why society is the way it is: constantly turning things into oppositions and binary definitions. Hence we have the reduction of people into introverts and extroverts. But as it stands, describing people in these terms is just an approximation of how we try (very generally) to describe people of differing sensibilities. Flawed, but that is the way society makes sense of people and things.

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iamspecial

Original post by StUdEnTIGCSE

By "enjoying life" I mean long term happiness.
:dontknow:

(You don't choose to be an introvert but you can certainly choose to.remain one.)

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Most extroverts seek short term happiness, unless you believe going to parties, taking drugs, sex and drinking is a form of long term happiness (obviously i am generalising here but you get the gist). Also most introverts choose to be what they are, we do not inherit being quiet, we like to live that way - if i wanted to be a poplar hunk i could be and i would be a good one at that too.

Reply 42

Sirocco11

Original post by Yawn11

Dear god you people are so self-centred and up yourselves.

Third to half of people are introverts, that's your friends, family spouse, acquaintances. It's nothing new, or undiscovered, and it's not different to society it's part of it.

Goodness, this is just a thread for the socially inept mislabeling and excusing themselves as introverts, to feel special, or justify their character to themselves.

Introverts and extroverts have existed for millenniums, and not everyone is strictly one or the other.

Please get over yourself.

Why are you assuming people of introversion wear a personality trait as a badge of which they're proud? If it's the way my or others character is made up I don't see what the problem is. I was clearly being ironic at the end of the post and I don't consider myself above anyone else, and furthermore don't need my character validating by other people.

I've also addressed the idea that introversion and extroversion are not necessarily clear cut, so I don't see what you're getting so heated about.

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Reply 43

KayleighG

Original post by oh_1993

What exactly is there at university to do other than clubbing? I am quite an introvert and I'm a little concerned as all I ever hear about is how 'I'm going to this university because it has a good nightlife' and 'beer is cheap at this JCR' with regards to entertainment at university.

I was at a Durham open day a month ago and I asked a student what there is to do for people who don't like going clubbing and she said ''Well if you don't go out then there are two guys in this college who play chess....'' Notice the immediate generalisation of 'not clubbing' to 'not going out'. What must she think of introverts, its not as if I'm a complete recluse.

I'm starting to think the same. "Everyone's like oh I'm only going to uni so I can go clubbing"it has nothing to do with getting into higher education and advancing ones own knowledge.

Reply 44

iamspecial

Original post by Yawn11

Who decides who is socially inept,also what defines socially inept? It can differ from place to place! For example in England the teenage norm is to attend parties and consume alcohol to look cool. However if you go to most other parts of the world, they world consider you mentally disabled if you can't actually handle a situation without the need for approval and flaunting. If society was a better place simple and kind gentlemen would be the real deal, not the drunk desperate ones. Obviously anything i say will sound radical and there is generalisation on my part, however you know i am right.

Reply 45

jordanW241

As an introvert, I approve of this message.

Reply 46

Chris..

Original post by iamspecial

I don't really see what being an introvert/extrovert has to do with long term happiness and if it did then I'm pretty sure being an extrovert has a greater chance to long term happiness considering most introvert have few close friends then outside of that they "dint really like talking unless there's something useful to say" leading to less friends right? Then you have the idea that they don't like going out for long periods of time, and so I can only assume that means they don't like going abroad and visiting new places with friends, making memories. Then with less friends one would assume that means less opportunities for relationships right? Then there's the cuddling up to a book (which to be fair everybody likes doing) - i doubt reading a book leads to long term happiness or memories to look back on.

Partying doesn't mean short term happiness-you might make a group of friends. And drugs is hardly an "extrovert" thing to do.

I'm not getting my point across good because I'm rushing at work but anyway yeah ill leave it at that and finish this off later.

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Reply 47

JamalAhmed

Muth #11 Extroverts just want to have fun and don't care about future aspirations

Reply 48

The Socktor

Original post by Popppppy

Surely posting this on TSR is preaching to the choir? :tongue:

Don't you mean "preaching to the converted"?

Reply 49

tdawe

Everything in that list applies perfectly to me, except point 3 - but I've had an MBTI and my result was ENFP (Extroverted). :smile:

edit: Although this was several years ago. Potentially could have changed - I have definitely shifted away from preferring to socialise in large groups, to small groups, and value solitary time a lot more.

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Reply 50

nombo

I thought 'introvert' just was another word for a quiet person, and 'extrovert' was an outgoing person, but are they not? Somebody explain, please?

Reply 51

The Socktor

Most of those points apply to me. Though I think they were more prevailant 2-3 years ago and I actually do like going to night clubs and parties now and again (though only when I know the other people; I don't like going to parties with a load of complete strangers) so maybe I'm actually an ambivert?

...posting things using Xbox Live is bloody tiring.

Reply 52

username1002982

Original post by nombo

I thought 'introvert' just was another word for a quiet person, and 'extrovert' was an outgoing person, but are they not? Somebody explain, please?

Pretty much, yeah. Introversion also means preferring small social groups, liking being alone and not enjoying a large amount of social interaction with a large amount of new people. Extroversion is basically the opposite.

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Reply 53

kinji

I guess i am quite introverted too...my friends are always urging me to talk

Reply 54

Dark Horse

Lol alot of butthurt extroverts in here.

Reply 55

Jimbo1234

Original post by Sirocco11

This is a staggeringly basic generalisation.

Not at all. Have you ever been to a gym and compared it to say, an anime convention/society?

Reply 56

Sirocco11

Original post by Jimbo1234

Not at all. Have you ever been to a gym and compared it to say, an anime convention/society?

The **** would I know. I've never been to an anime convention/society.

Reply 57

jarasta

Original post by Mess.

That is rude and renders your presence at the party pointless. If you want to read books then just stay at home :dontknow:

Sometimes I have no choice about my attendance and rather than sit there bored I choose to entertain myself that way. Although I am willing to take part in games etc.

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Reply 58

ashtoreth

Original post by Profesh

Virtually all of the above is applicable to me, and yet everyone I know considers me an extrovert. How droll.

likewise.

and, indeed.

Reply 59

jarasta

Original post by StUdEnTIGCSE

I'm very much like you.
Give me a choice of going to KFC or the library I'll always choose the latter. It's more "fun"

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The library is one of my favourite places. I like them in general for their solitude when it comes to working more so than my home.

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