Are you friends with your ex?

Because he was once the biggest part of my life, we went on holiday 6 times together and have many memories. What's the point in throwing away two years of your life when we can easily be friends without feeling attached!

She really wants me to, I can't handle it. We speak on good terms, but she threw a "I'd really love it if you came to my birthday, I don't even get off with other guys anymore so you'd have nothing to be jealous about - I miss you" curveball at me the other day and I stupidly fell for it. Really don't want to hurt her, but she doesn't get that I cannot "just be friends" like her last ex (which only lasted a month anyway).

Yikes! How do you take a curveball like that and not overthink it!?

If she doesn't get it, explain it to her and I'm sure she'll understand. It's what I did for my current ex, said I couldn't promise I would be there for her after the split and she got that tho it hurt.
Since then I've text her once saying I'm ok and I need time before I'll even think about a friendship and she's still cool with it, misses my friendship and deeply cares about me as one of the closest people to her and she hopes it remains that way. I should add the break was as near mutual as could be, and it was on very good terms tho it both hurt us to do so.

It can all depend how it goes down.

Well, we split up about a year ago - we were very on and off. On because I was there for her during some of the worst times in her life, and off as a result of them. Even now there is still something that lingers, despite the fact that before about a month ago and that I had actually made sure that all lines of contact were cut since February-ish.

I'm pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place. I want to be there to support her and whatnot, but I also don't want to be and couldn't handle being just an ex-boyfriend. Likewise, she often shows signs of wanting more than friendship, but has made it clear that she doesn't. I know a lot of people would say, "she's stringing you along until she finds another guy", but she's actually had a couple of boyfriends since me and during those times was not nearly as friendly as she is now.

So here I am, not entirely sure what to do!

I'm just wondering, are you guys/girls still friends with your exes? Why or why not?

I am friends with one of my ex boyfriends, but we were friends before we got together and both thought we had feelings for each other which were more than a friendship, and we were together almost a year before I had the courage to say I didn't think I felt the same! But luckily he said the same thing and we just switched to being friends again immediately, it was odd. I'm not friends with anyone who I had strong romantic feelings for though, that would be weird for me.

How was your relationship in general?

Hmm... erratic?
We used to argue a lot, and it always ended up with me apologising for whatever reason, whether I felt it was my fault or not. When we were dating I suppose I always felt like I was hiding things about me because she was a very cliché single-sex grammar school student at the time.
She is, however, much less like that now. Usually I would agree with people that say, "oh she'll never change", but oddly after talking to her for the past month or so she has... for the better. Which, honestly, has only made my decisions more difficult. :|

I feel you bro, keep on by yourself man, if she wants you back, she'll come back. It's ridiculous how hard this stuff is, but we cannot hold onto things that just may or may not come back. Sorry to hear about it though.

You're telling me! I'm just keeping chatting to a minimum until I can think of a clear way to go about this. Cheers, man.

Hmm... erratic?
We used to argue a lot, and it always ended up with me apologising for whatever reason, whether I felt it was my fault or not. When we were dating I suppose I always felt like I was hiding things about me because she was a very cliché single-sex grammar school student at the time.
She is, however, much less like that now. Usually I would agree with people that say, "oh she'll never change", but oddly after talking to her for the past month or so she has... for the better. Which, honestly, has only made my decisions more difficult. :|