so sexually frustrated

That was an unexpected plot twist. Also for some reason now a 'forced kiss' from your 16 year old cousin takes on a much wronger dimension.

Anyway, my first 'sexual experience' was at 20. I really don't think you're alone in not having done anything by that age. There's not really much way to deal with the frustration other than to have sex - although as a man I'm not sure how much that actually completely solves the problem anyway.

At least you are a girl, that makes it easier. Just go find a single boy that you like, make some moves and see what happens. If it doesn't work, rinse and repeat.

I'd rather not deal with a long series of rejections on top of this, that'll just make me feel worse. I just want feel happy/OK.

That's the pattern for most people. It's not really putting myself down, It's being realistic

Better no confidence than false confidence which isn't based on reality. What is there to be confident about when you're not good looking and personality wise you could be easily replaced by a rag on a stick

I'm not sure how much we can help you if you're not willing to help yourself. Nothing comes easy and nobody is going to hand you happiness. You need to want it and you need to be willing to work for it.

So you just want either 1) a nice boy to magically appear from somewhere or 2) to stop having any desire for sex or companionship?

That was an unexpected plot twist. Also for some reason now a 'forced kiss' from your 16 year old cousin takes on a much wronger dimension.

I believe you're looking for this.

teach me, master. How do you get a friend with benefits? HAHAH

In case I wasn't clear in the first post, it was him who forced himself on me, not the other way round.

Not completely stop, just decrease it to an amount where it's not getting me down and I can focus on other things

Nice boys want generally want girls that are interesting and all the rest of it, I've got nothing to offer them and so I've given up on the idea of companionship being feasible.

Yeah, that's why it's kind of weird, 16 year old boy 'forcibly kissing' his 11 year old female cousin.

I'm not really sure that's possible - these are just natural feelings and you can't get rid of them because they're inconvenient. I'm also not sure why you've 'given up', as I said in my first post, I was in pretty much exactly your position when I was 20 and believe me, unless you have more libido than any girl I've ever met, you're not more distracted than I was.

Maybe you can sort of rationalise it away as I did, accept that it'll happen eventually and deal with the more physical side of the frustration as best you can. Otherwise your only option is to deal with it by being less negative about yourself and finding someone. Or a bit of both.

Why not? What if you say that you find it hard to concentrate without it?

Also, what if you are a foreigner and you have a wife/husband on the other side of the world and you say that you want to have your libido reduced to prevent the chances of adultery/cheating? Will they still not prescribe it?

Luxury prostitute, maybe?

Why don't you just get a prostitute? This is a serious answer

at least you've had some kind of encounter. im eighteen and ive had nothing, not even with relatives (which i do really feel bad for you about). im so glad you posted this on TSR because ive been wondering how weird i am to not have even kissed someone and be 18 :/

Male prostitutes are expensive and I'm not just looking for sex but companionship, which you can't just buy.