Guys - you should NEVER hit on girls you don't know on the street

Surely if a man walked up to a woman and basically asked her if she was single and if she would be interested in going for a coffee sometime, is that so bad as long as he just takes the answer and leaves it at that? No wolf whistling, no pervy behaviour, etc.

The hell is wrong with you? Unless you go to college/school, meeting women on the street/in a bar will constitute 90%+ of new girls you meet.

Thanks mate, I was starting to feel depressed for being a man.

Whilst it's never happened to me (very ugly), I think the OP is saying that it's not scumbag behaviour in principle (in fact, as you've pointed out, it's more honourable than getting them when they are drunk). HOWEVER;

1. A lot of decent boys don't have the confidence to approach women on the street, or have social barriers up, so the majority who do it are weirdos. Decent boys doing it are therefore an unwelcome addition to the pretty girl's day or harrassment.

2. Girls go to clubs expecting to be hit on. However, on the street they aren't asking for it to happen to them 24/7. They need some freedom from their hordes of admirers.

That's what I understand from what she says anyway.

On the street is not the same as in a bar

A bar is a social environment where people do expect to engage in social activities including chatting up

A street is not

What you are saying is unacceptable, I agree. Just please stop generalising. There ARE guys out there that are nice guys and approach women on the street.

It's just that approaching girls on the street requires an incredible amount of balls, so mostly the guys that do it are arrogant pricks. That is why you see so few genuine people doing it (because they are not arrogant douches).

Just please don't discount everyone, because there are people such as myself, that have tried incredibly hard to gain that confidence and so can make approaching girls a fun experience for both people.



EDIT: Posting this thread on TSR is a very bad idea. The majority of TSR users are educated, they're not the kind of chavs that you are talking about. Hence by posting this thread, you are discouraging those educated and nice people from doing something, whilst the majority of those chavs will never even see this.

When I approach girls on the street, I take everything far more slowly, I am less flirtatious etc.

And what the OP is pointing out is ... this is generally annoying

Most women, when going about their daily business, do not want to be approached by strangers who wish to chat them up

This is like advising your children that they should get into vans driven by strangers offering sweeties because they shouldnt generalise that such men are often pedos.

The fact that some guys who do this aren't horrible creepers does not make it ok. Its still frightening because you dont know whether they will get aggressive until it happens.

And what the OP is pointing out is ... this is generally annoying

Most women, when going about their daily business, do not want to be approached by strangers who wish to chat them up

Hint: Actually attractive, pleasant, desirable men DONT NEED TO HIT ON RANDOMS on the street. Its something only unpleasant creepers feel the need to do. Decent guys wouldnt have to fall back to what is essentially scumbag behaviour.

Talking to a girl on the street takes 5 minutes out of my day. Losing out on an opportunity is something I will regret for the rest of my life.

I've had girls just say 'sorry I'm busy' and walk on, I'm completely fine with that. If you find it annoying just say something polite and continue on your day.

And, I got a date on the tube two days ago after a girl smiled at me and I smiled back, so took that as it being ok to say hello and start up a conversation

then she approached you

then she approached you

Where are you getting "most" from. I asked the three girls i sit next to at work and they said if it isn't overly creepy or leery and the guy is polite then it's flattering.

So for me, ALL of the girls I work with want to be approached in the right manner.

And, I got a date on the tube two days ago after a girl smiled at me and I smiled back, so took that as it being ok to say hello and start up a conversation

So for me, ALL of the girls I work with want to be approached in the right manner.

Tbh, I don't care if girls find it creepy. What I see is an opportunity.

then she approached you