Princess syndrome

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So why is it that the modern girl/woman feels that she is entitled to the perfect boyfriend?

To clarify, you see girls demanding that they have a boyfriend who is either a contradiction (the man who is confident, ambitious, career focused, but reserved, sensitive, and a family man ), or perfect eg. rich, good looking, perfect body, and a nice guy.....yet the girl just sits around pissing hours away on facebook/the internet, has no hobbies/ is utterly boring, and can't spell exercise let alone do any?

So why does the modern girl feel that they are entitled to the perfect man and the perfect life yet they do nothing to deserve or earn this?
What is more alarming, is that when you remind these people that they are human and that you have to try at life, they argue that men should either lower their standards/not try/be open minded/insert femlogic here and that they should be given everything they want because they are simply entitled to it.

Why is this?

Personally, I blame feminism and the media.
If someone turns around and tells a girl to sort out their issues and to try at life, they are either a bitch or a chauvinist (depending on gender of course). This in turn allows girls to demand anything and it is deemed inappropriate to tell them to get a grip on reality - or as I call it, Princess syndrome.

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(the man who is confident, ambitious, career focused, but reserved, sensitive, and a family man ), or perfect eg. rich, good looking, perfect body, and a nice guy....

It's more of a personality thing. Some people have a sense of entitlement, the media then shapes what it is that they feel entitled to have. I'm not exactly sure how feminism ties into this.

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So why is it that the modern girl/woman feels that she is entitled to the perfect boyfriend?

To clarify, you see girls demanding that they have a boyfriend who is either a contradiction (the man who is confident, ambitious, career focused, but reserved, sensitive, and a family man ), or perfect eg. rich, good looking, perfect body, and a nice guy.....yet the girl just sits around pissing hours away on facebook/the internet, has no hobbies/ is utterly boring, and can't spell exercise let alone do any?

So why does the modern girl feel that they are entitled to the perfect man and the perfect life yet they do nothing to deserve or earn this?
What is more alarming, is that when you remind these people that they are human and that you have to try at life, they argue that men should either lower their standards/not try/be open minded/insert femlogic here and that they should be given everything they want because they are simply entitled to it.

Why is this?

Personally, I blame feminism and the media.
If someone turns around and tells a girl to sort out their issues and to try at life, they are either a bitch or a chauvinist (depending on gender of course). This in turn allows girls to demand anything and it is deemed inappropriate to tell them to get a grip on reality - or as I call it, Princess syndrome.

I have the perfect bf
He is all of the qualities you listed above, (well except rich but tbh money doesnt matter to me anyway)

Yes i feel i deserve him.

I put lots of effort into the relationship and my looks etc, i would never cheat, I love him to bits and constantly show him that.
We live together and i cook, clean and look after him generally which he appreciates as he works more than me, and doesnt like doing these things.
I buy him little presents to show him i care.

How do you know these girls dont do anything to deserve their bf's? You might not be able to see what is going on in the relationship as you are not part of it.

I think people in general want the best for themselves so will be optimistic when talking about their preferred future partner. Girls and guys alike rarely aim for the antisocial, unattractive, lazy, ******** (bum hole) even if they themselves resemble all those characteristics.


Like for example before a test if you ask people what grade they want they'll say an A because that is what they WANT but if they only did enough revision to get a C then that's what they DESERVE.

What people want and what they deserve can be worlds apart.

I have the perfect bf
He is all of the qualities you listed above, (well except rich but tbh money doesnt matter to me anyway)

Yes i feel i deserve him.

I put lots of effort into the relationship and my looks etc, i would never cheat, I love him to bits and constantly show him that.
We live together and i cook, clean and look after him generally which he appreciates as he works more than me, and doesnt like doing these things.
I buy him little presents to show him i care.

How do you know these girls dont do anything to deserve their bf's? You might not be able to see what is going on in the relationship as you are not part of it.

I totally get you OP. I see so many dead average boring ass no life girls on fb bleating on about how they want the perfect prince charming. And to cap it all off if you were to point out that they are not that great themselves you get an army of "dnt listen to him bbz ur beautiful as u are". I think you have highlighted a major issue amongst females; that they are more averse to self-improvement than males.

He's career focussed and ambitous but not rich? Assuming he's a student/junior at work that means he will be, and will fulfil the lot (though may involve stretching family focussed). Given this money must be somewhat of a factor, if nothing else just to afford the kids implied in being family focussed. Why would him being career focussed and ambitious matter to you if money didn't matter (not necessarily loads of it, but enough you can be comfortably middle class, which is what most people generally hope for)?

I'm gonna go anon for this because it sounds like bragging and being big headed but it's not really, and I've got friends on here...

A lot of my friends ask me why they can't get a guy like mine, that my life is so perfect, that I really landed on my feet in life, and while I have had a fairly good start in life, my parents had no more money than any of theirs, you've just got to put the effort in yourself.

I've got a bf who basically worships the ground I walk on, yes in that respect I'm incredibly lucky, but I doubt he'd stick around if I changed into a lazy, boring out-of-shape girl who has no interests, as that wouldn't be who he fell in love with. I exercise 4/5 times a week, and we're both really keen cyclists. I can cook, pretty well, as its one of my dads passions in life, and I grew up learning loads of cooking stuff. While my sport is one of my main hobbies, I also have a couple of my own, and a couple that I share with my bf. I'm at a top 10, doing a science subject, on course for a first.

You get out of life what you put into it tbh. I try and live life to the max (and not in the oh so fashionable 'yolo' style that seems to be cool at the moment) and enjoy myself, and I ended up with a good bf (earns a good wage, good career options, fairly driven, we share the same sports and a couple of hobbies, both enjoy similar things and don't really like being lazy ****s).

If you don't like an aspect of yourself, then go out and change it! No one's stopping you but yourself!

Oh, you would be surprised
People will rant on about how they want Mr/Miss Perfect, yet get someone just like them and proceeds to only moan about how they are now perfect.
However with grades, the only person to blame for failing an exam is yourself which is where it differs.




Ah, but why do you try? What motivates you to try as many do not?

I know that these girls do nothing - they can not converse, have no hobbies or interests, do not look after themselves, can not cook/clean or do any house work, and can not look after themselves let alone someone else.




So ****ing true. Guys are happy to admit that their friends are fat, ugly etc, but still great guys, but girls claim that all their friends are beyond perfect

Ah, but why do you try? What motivates you to try as many do not?

I know that these girls do nothing - they can not converse, have no hobbies or interests, do not look after themselves, can not cook/clean or do any house work, and can not look after themselves let alone someone else.



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The fact your boyfriends best attribute is that he earns good money is worrying .....



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